MIL Caught In LIE

SkylarV217 · 07-04-2008, 11:28 PM #1 (**permalink**)

So we've been having some problems with DH family. Typically he feels like his poor mother can do no wrong and so on and so fourth. But with the recent problems with his sister he is begining to see that maybe she's not as great as he once thought.

This is what happended in the midst of family turmoil. We live 2 hours away from both of our families. We are at school and have a 2 year old son. Money is tight as all of families know. Well Kaden our son came home to stay with our families to stay for 2 weeks. During that time he was doing really well Potty training. SO my parents went out and bought like 8 packs of big boy underware with all the characters and stuff on em ( For you gals that don't knw they are like $6 for a pack of three) Which was great b/c thats a lot of money for us to spend on something he needs.We didn't know how many they bought just that they bought some.

Well DH's Mom was going to bring him back to us and spend a couple of days. Well we got like 12 pares of underware which we though were great and all, but there was like 1 of some charaters missing and 2 of another ( which was weird) Later in the weel week I was talkin to my mom and had said we had to go buy more underware. My mom was like you needed MORE.... and it came out haw many she had bought and how many we got... and we reliazed we were missing a lot. So when DH was talking to his mother he asked if they may have gotten left at her house and she was like no, i went and picked some up but thats all i have here.

Well this weekend we are in and staying at her house and we were puting the little one to bed. And low and belhold we found all of the missing underware in her drawer. You could tell they were from random packs b/c there weren't a single set of 3 ( which is what they come in). Now I'm really miffed. I mean keeping one or 2 would have been okay but 12 was rediculous b/c we are here maybe once a month and thats something we need with us. I know it may sound silly but we had to go out and buy more b/c we needed them after my parents had done something nice to help us. Then she lied about it...

SO now I don't know what to do because

1.- We are already in the midst of some big family problems
2- Even though I'm really upset about it, I'm afraid it will seem kindda stupid

So ladies any help would be apreciated. I really want her to knwo we know she lied. Becasue she's not been complying to our wishes and lying about them lately then when caught saying the thigs were conincidences and stuff... I just don't know how to go about it....

breechan · 07-04-2008, 11:45 PM #2 (**permalink**)

I think this is one that you just have to let go. I don't think you'd have much to gain by kicking up a stink. You have to pick your battles wisely.

Good luck girl.

Monica22 · 07-04-2008, 11:47 PM #3 (**permalink**)

I think i would just be up right an honest and ask her why she felt the need for keeping 12 pairs At her house, Find out what her reason was for it after she gives you a reason i would just Again explain to her your situation and even though he has 11 pairs at home.. The other 12 would help out and you would prefer if they staid with you at your house and when he comes to visit you will send him with enough.

OR just let it go.. Save the troubles of all the drama.. And just make sure you take them back with you if you havnt next time.. if you took them all the better.

DirtyHarriet · 07-04-2008, 11:50 PM #4 (**permalink**)

that's a tough one. it sounds like there's a lot of stuff going on other than the undie issue.

though i would not start a fight over the undies, i'd probably let her know that you had to buy more and how hard that is since you're so strapped for cash.

but if the lying on her part persists, you may have to talk to her about it...in a 'let's sit down and talk about it like adults' kind of fashion.

Girl about town · 07-05-2008, 06:46 AM #5 (**permalink**)

i would jut say to her in a non confrontational way that you saw the underwear and is it ok if you take them back home again because you need them!!! And see if she offers you an explanation!! xx

SkylarV217 · 07-05-2008, 04:40 PM #6 (**permalink**)

Thank you guys so much. It irritates me to no ends. I think the current family situation has a lot to do with the amount of irritation I feel due to the situation.

Brittni · 07-05-2008, 05:06 PM #7 (**permalink**)

Janice · 07-05-2008, 06:26 PM #8 (**permalink**)

So to clarify your parents bought them, but the MIL kept them at her house?

gigglegirl · 07-05-2008, 07:45 PM #9 (**permalink**)

so you found them in one of her drawers, you did take them back right?

was she maybe keeping them in anticipation of your son staying over? (is this often?)

I think its a bit much, i mean 50% of your son's stuff if (what it seems implied) he doesn't stay there 50% of the time. I know this is sounding wrong but I think she's a bit over the top with not mentioning things to you, lying, whatnot but to have a big fight that could possibly ensue and add more aggravation to what sounds like an already tense environment, may just cause you guys more stress.

id say leave it since it sounds like there are so many other issues.
that is, unless she's taking a lot more stuff from you guys. then thatd be an issue I would definitely touch on.

Simply Elegant · 07-05-2008, 07:54 PM #10 (**permalink**)

I wouldn't be mad at her taking the underwear, but lying about it would really irk me. If I were you, I'd let her know that you don't appreciate her lying, especially over something so simple.

Beauty Mark · 07-05-2008, 10:44 PM #11 (**permalink**)

Depending on the situation, you can outright accuse her of stealing (no matter how nice you are about it, that's what you'd be doing) or play dumb and act like she accidentally forgot about it.

I don't know what's best, but I wish you good luck

SkylarV217 · 07-05-2008, 11:21 PM #12 (**permalink**)

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Originally Posted by Janice

So to clarify your parents bought them, but the MIL kept them at her house?

exactly, there would be no problem if she bought them , but she eveb lied about buying any for her house, the ones that she had here were all ones that were bought to go to our house. We are are at her house one or two nights a month if even that.

Janice · 07-05-2008, 11:43 PM #13 (**permalink**)

That's really odd, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it (to her) just when you're packing up the kidlets things pack them too. IMO if your parents bought them they aren't hers to keep or decide how to allocate them.