So being that my daughter is almost hitting her terrible 2's, I've been wondering what's the best way to teach her right from wrong? I've seen some people use the "corner" method, or "go to your room" method but I'm not certain it's the right way. I guess with trial and error, I'll find what works best for us.

Lately my daughter has been acting out and tries to hit me and when I get mad at her she breaks down into tears and right away comes to give me a kiss. It's frustrating but at the same time cute cause I love her kisses. If that makes sense lol.

Anyway, I don't believe in hitting kids to discipline them so I was wondering...what works best for other moms and kids?

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I have used the time-out chair and it worked. You just have to be firm and make them stay there even if they cry. I made the time spent on the chair based on the age.

On whatever method you try, be consistent. I think that's what makes the difference in what works and what doesn't. Kids know what they can get away with and not...so once they see a dicipline pattern on behavior that is not accepted...they eventually catch on. Yeah...consistency works!

do you watch Supernanny? shes fab at disclipning kids

if your daughter does something wrong, give her a warning that if she repeats it, she has to be punished. if she ignores the warning and does something that she shouldnt do, send her to a naughty step or bench, and the length of time of her to be on there should be for each minute of her age in this case 2 minutes, leave her be for that two minutes then come back to her and ask her to apologise to you and finish with a kiss and a cuddle. this will be different for her but after a while she'll catch on and do her time quietly.

HTH!

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I care for a 2 year old, and have a 4, 6, 10, and 13 year old.
One thing I've learned, particularly with the younger ones, is never raise the voice. Speak firmly, and without hystronics.

I use a combination of time out chair, sitting on hands (for the 4 year old), if there's a temper fit I generally remove the child from my presence.

My kids don't hit me. Not today, not tomorrow, not ever. Riley (the 2 year old) did it once, and I grabbed her hand, put it by her said and said very clearly "Do not hit me ever again." I can't say it'll work for everyone but it's worked thus far for me.





note: my daughter is the singularly most stubborn and disciplinarily intensive child I have encountered. Consistency of rules is important when dealing with a child like her. She's a good kid in every aspect except that she doesn't like doing school work, and will hide it from me and my husband at any cost. ANY cost.

Luckily I haven't hit this part yet-but my best friend has. Her daughter is in this time period and she does spank. She doesn't do it hard, she just does a quick swat on her butt (which is heavily padded by the diaper LOL) and she speaks in a very firm voice.

That being said-she is a very well mannered child. She is polite very sweet child and she is spoiled rotton! LOL But when she does act out thats what my best friend does.

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i dont spank my kids either and i have a three year old that acts like your daughter at times and i give him time out and if he is out of control crying and stuff i send him to his room and once he calms down i try to talk to him but it isnt always easy to talk to a 2-3 year old

Very true. I whole heartedly agree with what Shimmer stated also. I usually give a firm verbal warning and if she repeats whatever she was doing, I put her in time out/heads down on table. You can start giving her "the look" too LOL. You know, when you give your child "the look" they stop doing whatever it is that you don't want them to do Maybe that's just me...

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I've actually seen that method on Supernanny, and it does seem to work! I'm glad to hear from a regular person that it does, because that's the discipline I was thinking about using when my daughter is older. It's completely non-violent, non-scary, but it shows them that there's consequences for misbehaving.

My daughter knows "the look" lol. She's a very good girl so I'm not sure if she's learning this from other kids at day care but believe me, she will not get away with this! She's hit me a few times or attempted to and most of the time when I give her the look she stops and puts her hands down. The few times she has hit me I do tell her NO and of course she cries and then here comes that kiss lol. Once she gets older i'm definitely going to try the time out thing. Thanks!

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I have spanked her (with the diaper on of course) and the times I have she's listened. I don't do it often but there are times when she gets up from bed over and over whinning and then WACK, there goes the spank and she jumps back into bed fast and goes straight to sleep. It's worked for me at times when I'm frusterated and have tried everything else but I want to avoid this method cause I don't think hitting is the answer. If there are times when it is necessary then by all means. I was never hit as a child, I mean I can think of a few times I had but I deserved it!! lol

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I dont have children, but a "time-out" does work. For a two-year old, puting he/she in time out for 2 minutes can make a big change on their actions, especially if its consistant. and honestly, two minutes may not seem like a long time, but for a child its like a life time.

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