Not necessarily teen mommys, but young mommies in general. Especially surprises and single mommys.

I'd like to hear some of your stories about what it was like. What would you have done differently (and not whether or not you would have had him or her... I mean in general), would you have any advice to your younger self, etc? With finances, family, the dad, anything at all.

Please share your stories!!

i was lucky because our families were supportive (at least in our faces they were). of course we had those that questioned our decision but many of their questions were answered once they saw the support and love from my 'baby's daddy'(i coldn't resist).
if i could do it all over i would have definitely secured a job before giving birth. i feel there is still a stigma for young working mothers depending on the career.

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'Be Encouraged'

I'm a young mom, had my children right after college, never had any regrets at having started young. Yes, missed out on many things, but this year Joshua is graduating from High School and off to college, and Jordan will follow him next year. So mom got "her life back" as they say ....

I'll miss my babies, miss helping them with their homework, miss wiping away the tears ....

It was hard, wasn't sure what I was doing, but children only want to be loved, they really don't care if you put the diaper on backwards

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i am 19 and pregnant now.. my bf's family is sooo thrilled.. my family on the other hand..is another story..

despite everything, gods given me a miricle and I am THRILLED =). Although i'll be missing my sumer from being prego.. (no amusment parks, random road trips, water parks, country thunder *music fest*, taste of chicago, blues fest, rib fest, scoop the loop.., ) lmao...there is soo much more i know ill be missing.. I don't mind.. things happen for areason.. before i met my boyfriend, i was a mess... a party junkie..i'd prolly be dead or in jail by now if it wasn't for him..the baby in my belly is a blessing =))

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Our first was born my sr. yr in college he was quite a surprise and times were tough but my family was really supportive and we did fine. He is now 5 1/2 and a pure delight along with his 3 yr old sister....

well im actually not a young mommy myself but my sister had her first child at 19 and if theres one thing i learned from her was to always carry two of EVERYTHING...

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I had my first at age 19 (my Lord, I can't believe she'll be 12 in less than a month). It was definitely tough - but not as tough as some would have had it. I was married and had a lot of support (we are still married).

One major thing I would have done differently would be to have gone to college and established my career FIRST. I took a quick secretarial course after I had her, but I HATE admin and those jobs don't go anywhere, IMO. Now, at age 31, I'm faced with basically having to retrain and start up a career all over again, when I feel as though I should already have an established career. Instead, I spent my 20's working low paying admin jobs and having babies. I love my kids (I have a total of 4) but, I will be teaching my girls that education is a MUST it is NON-negotialbe, lol. And they all better become doctors, lol - just kidding, sorta...

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I had my first son when I was 18 years old...he was born 1 month before my high school graduation! Although I was basically a "teen mommy", I still graduated and walked the stage with my class. =D

I wouldn't have had it any other way! My son is now 5 years old and I just recently gave birth to my second son in August 2007, so he's now 9 months old now. I'm a young mommy...23 years old...with 2 little boys, and I've been with their father since I was 16 years old...and we got married in 2006. I love the way everything is...I love my family! =D

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ne'er a truer word spoken!!!

I also had my babies young. In retrospect I might have finished uni first - doing it now with little ones at 32 isnt easy, and if I had the choice to do it again I would almost certainly have waited. Having said that I love all my babies so much, they all have given me great joy and plenty of tears, and we are growing & learning together. I have been with my hubby now for 14 years, since I was 18 and we are both still learning with the babes - he was 22 when we had our first son and he was so nervous about being a dad. We have supported each other and thats the most important thing I think - support and a whole lot of love!!

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My little pride & joy!!!

I was 18 when i gave birth in october 04.

I was scared, my parents were not supportive at first, it was my 2nd semester in college, and i was dirt poor. My boyfriend at the time had no interest in college, he is almost 2 years older than i am and i forced him to find a career fast, i am glad he is a great man without him to lean on i would probably have to let a family adopt her. He applied for his real estate license and passed, and worked under my cousin who is a broker and sold is first home when my daughter turned 2 months. My parents finally accepted that she is here to stay, and this is my life. So i quit school for a semester and they generously babysat and paid for my college expenses while my boyfriend paid for our living expenses. Its not as easy as i made it sound, there were a lot of nights were i cried myself of worry, where i was living in a room in some ones house for 400 dollars while i could only afford to eat mcdonalds mc chicken everyday and my boyfriend worked 80 hours a week trying to sell homes.

I Had 46 credits in my freshman year because i took summer school at my college since i was a sophomore in highschool and the credits transferred. That means i had 1 year left until i had enough credits to apply to pharmacy school, so i doubled up on credits that last year and got accepted. Into fall of 2008 students c/o 2012 baby!

Well..during that time my boyfriend worked at home and went to the office only to meet clients, so he watched her all day, and i stayed with her all night reading and reading and reading.... i went into depression... and im still trying to cope with it..

My boyfriend now finace is great with our financial things and we are pretty well off just as long as my parents pay for my schooling and car. I swear i will repay them back with everything i have when i can.

I regret not having fun, I regret growing up so fast, I regret not being able to find myself, but i would not change a single thing because i feel like everything is going to be just fine. And i really hope ill raise her to be a very happy, intelligent, and respectful girl. Maybe ill have 2 more when im in my early 30's.

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I had my son when I was 19. If I could do it again I wouldn't. I love my son but it's been a struggle the whole way. i guess that's what happens when the father is a selfish jackass! But he will be 18 soon and then we don't have to speak to him anymore!

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You can never have TOO much make up!

i was 19 when i gave birth to my son on oct. 29, 2007 (im 20 now)
it was really hard because me and my bf were in college at the time, but we both dont go anymore. we have moved in with his parents (not the best thing, lol) but we are managing. i think everything will be okay as long as you have support.
i love my son and he is the best thing in my life.

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Yikes. I had my Daughter when I was 19 years old. No regrets though.. She actually helped me mature into a woman y'know? I can proudly say that my Daughter and I grew up together. My parents were very supportive and although my younger sister was angry with me (I come from a Korean community where everyone just loves to judge, gossip, judge, and gossip.. happens eve