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ElvenEyes

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shadowaddict~I am so sorry to hear about your sweet fur baby. It is so hard to put them to sleep, but I remember when I got my first cat and how another cat owner told me one of the most responsible things I will ever do is know when it is time to put my cat down and be brave about it, knowing they are not feeling well and depressed and that I must be the strong one. And it is true. Oh, I cry like a baby afterwards until I am sick and depressed, but in the end I know I did the right thing. My first cat was 17 3/4 yrs old and I tried everything under the sun to help her when she stopped eating. I remember her just ignoring the food and that pleading look at me that said "It's okay, Mom. But can you sit down so I can lay on your lap?" She was accepting it and I was fighting it. That night she slept up by our faces, which she had never done. That morning we put her to sleep early, before the vet open officially and she went before the syringe was even half empty. She was just so ready. I miss her so much and my other cat, but I know I was with them, saw them draw their last breath, stood by them in their hour of need as they always did for me and buried them sweetly in our back garden, now full of life with flowers, birds and wild critters. I'm sure they are happy in heaven and will never be forgotten.

xo to you during this difficult time. Oddly both of my cats were put to sleep during the week of Ash Wednesday, but 2 years apart. So, never a happy time, though I pull out their pictures and look at them with happy memories now. (((())))
 

WhatWouldJoanDo

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Lou:

I enjoy watching your videos, but now after seeing a few I'm wondering where are your purple shadows??? You have green eyes right? They would look lovely in purple !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

Miss QQ

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shadow - sorry to hear about your dog.
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WhatWouldJoanDo

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shadow, only you can decide when ... it's hard and sad, but when pain and suffering is involved it can be the humane thing. ... The pack of hotdogs is unsettling, because I tend to think if they still have energy and desire to enjoy things then ..... but what do I know, nothing of the situation. My only suggestion is to tell your beloved pet what you are doing so that he knows what's going on when you say good-bye. xo
 

LMD84

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Lou:

I enjoy watching your videos, but now after seeing a few I'm wondering where are your purple shadows??? You have green eyes right? They would look lovely in purple !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i have a puple and red look coming up next week which i filmed on sunday! but i shall certainly do some more purple looks! i'm pleased you like watching the videos!
 

shadowaddict

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Thank you guys so much for your kind words and thoughts.

Debi, like you said I have wondered that when he lays his head on my knee and looks into my eyes if he is telling me "it'll be ok mommy, it's time" It is so hard for me to watch him when he is going to lay down he has for months now walks against the sofa and turns slowly to the chair with his side right up against it and slowly lowers himself down. I know this is probably because it is very difficult for him to go from upright to a laying position, otherwise he gets part way down and then kind of flops. He has to very slowly rise to get back on all fours but often falls and cannot get up and we have to lift him to his feet. When we were at the vet last he said Ishmael had lost most of the muscle mass in his back left leg. We could see it was getting kind of skinny and very weak and continues to do so. I know the vet was not hopefull at much improvement and the pain pills were a last ditch effort to make him a bit more comfortable. The pills just aren't really helping anymore. The vet was very sensitive in telling us his condition, especially to me. When we were leaving the exam room the vet patted my shoulder and said "just use logic" I knew what he meant, that is was only a matter of time and would be soon. The life range for shelties is 12-14 yrs and Ishmael has stayed with us well past that.

He has also started having pee accidents inside and that never ever used to happen. I think he is losing control in that area as well. His stomach is very sensitive also. I have been buying the special dog treats for sensitive stomachs at the pet store. Other treats he used to love make him sick. I don't think he could get down and certainly not stay down a pack of hot dogs like that guy said he did with his dog. But perhaps a hamburger just down from the vet will stay down long enough. He doesn't get excited about treats anymore but he does eat them. I just think that even if its for my own benefit taking him for a treat first instead of putting him in the car and taking him directly to the vet will ease my mind at least a little.

Thank you so much for your support and understanding. My family really doesn't get how close I am with Ishmael and that he truely is my best friend. He and I are here all day together since I quit my job 12 yrs ago. I think he saved me in 2006 when my son was in Iraq the first time and there were so many of our troops being killed each day and then my mother passed away while he was there. Every time I heard on the news a Marine had been killed I almost fell apart till they released the name or where they were from. I felt relief when it wasn't my son but then guilt because of the other young man's family. I was such a mess and he was here to snuggle up to me through my sobs. I tried to be stronger and hold it together in the evenings for my daughter and husband. They were both having a hard time as well and it was her senior year in high school and had so many things going on. I wanted her to enjoy it as much as she could. And I didn't want to put more stress on my husband as there were a lot of changes going on in his affice at the time. So during the day Ishmael let me fall apart and be by my side no matter how long I needed to cry.

You guys are the greatest.
 

shadowaddict

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Lou--I loved the forest green. It was so pretty and looked great on you. I need to pull out Club from my 15 palette and put it in a quad. I haven't used it in a while. I look forward to the purple one as well. Greens and purples are my favorites.
 

ElvenEyes

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shadowaddict~I truly know how you feel. With no children, my first cat was my best friend/constant companion and my 2nd cat was my baby. The bonds between owner and pets are often strong than that of blood. It is hard to match unconditional love!

Lou~Love the look! Humid is one of my favourite greens of MAC. I hope to see you someday in soft greys and purples! I was surprised at how cool greys made my green eyes pop!

Today I have some nasty cramps so heating pad, books, naps and movies. I seem exhausted again from the pain. :( No fun...
 

WhatWouldJoanDo

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Hi Shadowaddict,

I understand how deeply connected you are to Ishmael. It will be hard to let him go, and afterwards give yourself time to grieve. Our beloved family pet Buster was cooked whole chickens because that's all he could/would eat before he got to state where he needed to be allowed to rest without pain. Our family use to joke when someone opened the fridge by proclaiming that the chicken couldn't be eaten since it was "hands-off that's Buster's chicken" lol. He was happy and loved.

I know the vet was not hopefull at much improvement and the pain pills were a last ditch effort to make him a bit more comfortable. The pills just aren't really helping anymore. The vet was very sensitive in telling us his condition, especially to me. When we were leaving the exam room the vet patted my shoulder and said "just use logic" I knew what he meant, that is was only a matter of time and would be soon. The life range for shelties is 12-14 yrs and Ishmael has stayed with us well past that.

He has also started having pee accidents inside and that never ever used to happen. I think he is losing control in that area as well. His stomach is very sensitive also. I have been buying the special dog treats for sensitive stomachs at the pet store. Other treats he used to love make him sick. I don't think he could get down and certainly not stay down a pack of hot dogs like that guy said he did with his dog. But perhaps a hamburger just down from the vet will stay down long enough. He doesn't get excited about treats anymore but he does eat them. I just think that even if its for my own benefit taking him for a treat first instead of putting him in the car and taking him directly to the vet will ease my mind at least a little.
 

shadowaddict

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Aw that was so sweet of you guys to take the time to cook chicken especially for him. I think there are a lot of prople who wouldn't put that much effort in helping their pet, which is sad. I put Ishmael's medicine in a small piece of bread with peanut butter or sometimes honey. He also likes it in a bit of cheese. When we've been out of bread I will tell everyone else they are not to even think of eating any cheese, it is for Ishmael. One time my son stopped by and of course opened the fridge, the first thing he always does. He said I'm gonna grab a few slices of cheese and I told him nope but you are welcome to anything else. He gave me a very strange look. Ishmael loves chicken too so when we have it for dinner I break off tiny pieces for him and give it to him slowly so he doesn't gobble it down too fast and upset his tummy.

It will be the second hardest thing I've ever had to do. The first would be hugging my son at the airport before walking through security to go to Iraq and not knowing if that would be my last hug from him. I didn't want to let go. I've always told him I would be with him to the very end. I will be right there with Ishmael holding him and giving him kisses and hugs to take to heaven.


Debi--I'm sorry to hear you are dealing with these cramps again. Hopefully soon they will be gone forever. Snuggle with the heating pad and watch a movie and I'm sure a nap will give you some relief.
 

LMD84

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Aw that was so sweet of you guys to take the time to cook chicken especially for him. I think there are a lot of prople who wouldn't put that much effort in helping their pet, which is sad. I put Ishmael's medicine in a small piece of bread with peanut butter or sometimes honey. He also likes it in a bit of cheese. When we've been out of bread I will tell everyone else they are not to even think of eating any cheese, it is for Ishmael. One time my son stopped by and of course opened the fridge, the first thing he always does. He said I'm gonna grab a few slices of cheese and I told him nope but you are welcome to anything else. He gave me a very strange look. Ishmael loves chicken too so when we have it for dinner I break off tiny pieces for him and give it to him slowly so he doesn't gobble it down too fast and upset his tummy.
It will be the second hardest thing I've ever had to do. The first would be hugging my son at the airport before walking through security to go to Iraq and not knowing if that would be my last hug from him. I didn't want to let go. I've always told him I would be with him to the very end. I will be right there with Ishmael holding him and giving him kisses and hugs to take to heaven.


Debi--I'm sorry to hear you are dealing with these cramps again. Hopefully soon they will be gone forever. Snuggle with the heating pad and watch a movie and I'm sure a nap will give you some relief.
i can't imagine how you felt when your son was leaving. one of my friends dad was in Iraq too and he was always a wreck over things.

i hope everybody is having an ok week. sadly last night i barely slept. i think it was all the stress of yestredays interviews that got to me in the end. i kept waking up thinking of certain things and praying that what i want to happen does actually come true. and then also dreading something else that could happen even though i made my feelings clear :( i must say though i was so impressed with one young man - he'd never had any sales experiance and we asked him to do a role play. he was shaking so hard but did an amazing job! i just wanted to give him a hug afterwards because he was so nervey!
 

banana1234

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did anyone watch marlena's video about haters? she mentions a forum that was talking about her, it made me think, we dont really say much about her on here, but she was the main reason i got into make up in a big way, she was my first youtube guru and it makes me sad that there is a forum out there like ours that is full of so much hate and would write those nasty things about her. people must be jealous, when things start going well for other people there's always some one that's jealous and wants to bring the person down. i think she should have just ignored them, but props to her for addressing the issue straight on, that's very brave
 

ShesAFoxyLady

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Sorry to hear about your beloved dog, Shadow addict.

I just wanted to add one thing - I have a very elderly dog who is also very frail (especially his back legs) and he recently started having peeing 'accidents' in the house. Because of his age and condition, I automatically assumed he had lost control of his bladder, but I took a urine sample to the vets to be on the safe side and it turns out it was just a urine infection due to him not moving around quite as much as he used to. One week of antibiotics and he's back to normal, with no further 'accidents'. I'm not saying that it isn't time for your dog, he sounds like perhaps he's not enjoying things as much as he used to? My old dog is still enjoying his walks and is still very happy and 'chirpy' despite his frail state, so it is not his time quite yet. However, I just thought I should mention the possibility that it could be a urine infection rather than necessarily old-age related incontinence - incase this was playing a huge role in your decision. An infection could also explain his tender stomach. I would check with your vet anyway, so you know the cause and to ensure it isn't something that can be relieved with medication.

Whatever you do, just do what is right for your dog (as I know you will). It's the final act of showing our love for them and we must be totally unselfish when we do so - no matter how heartbreaking it is (I cry regularly over the thought of losing my old dog in the not so distant future, he's been with me for the last 15 years).

I'm sure you'll do what is right & I feel your pain ((hugs))


P.S... my apologies if this isn't well written, I'm in a rush at work but thought it was important that I commented incase it was of any help.
 

ElvenEyes

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Lou~I thought of you yesterday and wondering how the interviews were going. You sound stressed out. I hope it all gets sorted out soon and favorably! I agree on the videos. You can stretch yourself thin on those and then run out of ideas, not to mention the time it takes to do them, edit them, download them. Do them at your own speed and just have fun, since that is the true purpose.

shadowaddict~Hang in there. We've got your back on this one.

banana 1234~Yes, I did see it and apparently there are some forums set up just to trash YouTube gurus, etc. It is pretty pathetic. People who would never say these things to anyone's face, but boldly bully others behind the safety of a computer screen. Very immature, very unclassy. Of course, you have to take it with a grain of salt, too. Anyone who acts that way has a major problem and is striking out. Jealousy, a victim themselves, family or school problems. Probably a very long list. Anyone with a decent sense of morals and self-esteem would never even consider being cruel to another person. And this kind of crap didn't exist before IM, texting, blogs and such. There was no quick way to reach people and spread the word to hate someone as a sport. I swear if I ever found out any of my nieces or nephews were bullies I would drag them by the ears to the closest children's cancer ward at hospital and make them do volunteer work to learn to appreciate all they have. Then it would be the soup kitchen, visiting nursing homes, ha! No one would dare having me as an aunt. I have no patience for this kind of behaviour. Can ya tell? Auntie's Boot Camp!

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LMD84

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Lou~I thought of you yesterday and wondering how the interviews were going. You sound stressed out. I hope it all gets sorted out soon and favorably! I agree on the videos. You can stretch yourself thin on those and then run out of ideas, not to mention the time it takes to do them, edit them, download them. Do them at your own speed and just have fun, since that is the true purpose.

shadowaddict~Hang in there. We've got your back on this one.

banana 1234~Yes, I did see it and apparently there are some forums set up just to trash YouTube gurus, etc. It is pretty pathetic. People who would never say these things to anyone's face, but boldly bully others behind the safety of a computer screen. Very immature, very unclassy. Of course, you have to take it with a grain of salt, too. Anyone who acts that way has a major problem and is striking out. Jealousy, a victim themselves, family or school problems. Probably a very long list. Anyone with a decent sense of morals and self-esteem would never even consider being cruel to another person. And this kind of crap didn't exist before IM, texting, blogs and such. There was no quick way to reach people and spread the word to hate someone as a sport. I swear if I ever found out any of my nieces or nephews were bullies I would drag them by the ears to the closest children's cancer ward at hospital and make them do volunteer work to learn to appreciate all they have. Then it would be the soup kitchen, visiting nursing homes, ha! No one would dare having me as an aunt. I have no patience for this kind of behaviour. Can ya tell? Auntie's Boot Camp!

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thanks Debi - yeah i am still pretty stressed but all will be sorted soon i hope! :) and i agree totally with what you are saying. these people must have issues to rag on others so much. i never understand when people hate on others youtube vids. if it's not your thing then do not watch. don't bully and talk crap about the person. at the end of the day they don't have to make videos!
 

ElvenEyes

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It isn't just about bullying YouTubers though. It is the whole bullying attitude in general. I mean, what are these people's parents teaching them? Why are they not aware of their doings or if so, why are they approving them? Scars, too, last a lifetime. I had a 37 yr old stalker/bully from the tarot forum. We got the police involved. Both she and her husband are extremely poor and con artists. She has a police record and is supposed to be getting psychological treatment. He abuses her. When I told the moderators the facts and that in spite of everything I felt sad that she was being abused and could not imagine something so horrible. They didn't even care and felt she had it coming to her for scamming people. My God! Where is the compassion of anyone? As for those who do focus on specific individuals it is out of jealousy and envy. Sad really. They ought to be happy with who they are and if they are not, change themselves. But we don't know what is happening behind the scenes. Are they being verbally abused and told they are not worth anything? All in all, there are some pretty crappy parents out there. The lady that burnt her house down here is one and sure enough, one daughter is a bully and the other has major problems. Yet on that night they were just 2 very scared kids. I think Marleena was smart to take them on, but not smart to be taping while she was crying. That just showed the bullies that they won this round. They upset her and got to her and that is their goal. She would have been better off giving them the finger and saying "yeah, whatever" and moving on to another subject. Give them an audience and they will keep coming. This I know from personal experience.
 

LMD84

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It isn't just about bullying YouTubers though. It is the whole bullying attitude in general. I mean, what are these people's parents teaching them? Why are they not aware of their doings or if so, why are they approving them? Scars, too, last a lifetime. I had a 37 yr old stalker/bully from the tarot forum. We got the police involved. Both she and her husband are extremely poor and con artists. She has a police record and is supposed to be getting psychological treatment. He abuses her. When I told the moderators the facts and that in spite of everything I felt sad that she was being abused and could not imagine something so horrible. They didn't even care and felt she had it coming to her for scamming people. My God! Where is the compassion of anyone? As for those who do focus on specific individuals it is out of jealousy and envy. Sad really. They ought to be happy with who they are and if they are not, change themselves. But we don't know what is happening behind the scenes. Are they being verbally abused and told they are not worth anything? All in all, there are some pretty crappy parents out there. The lady that burnt her house down here is one and sure enough, one daughter is a bully and the other has major problems. Yet on that night they were just 2 very scared kids. I think Marleena was smart to take them on, but not smart to be taping while she was crying. That just showed the bullies that they won this round. They upset her and got to her and that is their goal. She would have been better off giving them the finger and saying "yeah, whatever" and moving on to another subject. Give them an audience and they will keep coming. This I know from personal experience.
oh absolutely. the parents obviously didn't teach them to respect people. that is so sad about the lady on your tarrot forum. she shouldn't have conned people but nobody deserves to be abused either :( such a terrible thing to happen.
 
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