Resolution "LOW-BUY" 2014! Who wants to play?

[lyseD]

A guy I know from when I was younger asked me out on a date, but we had this conversation that went awkward when it came to the topic and I said I don't want kids. It was more like he was interrogating me and I had to come up with good points why I don't want any. He wouldn't take me seriously either. Because ''it's the best thing in the world'' and ''aren't you curious what your child would look like?''... Needless to say I'm waaaaay too busy now to go out with him, lol.
I tried online dating for a while, and despite having a lonnng profile with lots of info, the thing a lot of men would use as a conversation starter was the ''doesn't want kids'' remark. It's like they were baffled that a ''woman in her best years'' doesn't want to put her uterus to any use, lol.
Aaaand we're way off topic...

I think I'm in for a new blow drier this year, my super old one is starting to get a little wonky. I've always had cheap ones, but I was wondering if pricier ones are any better? Is it worth it to invest in an expensive one? Any recommendations?

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Originally Posted by veronikawithak
At least you wouldn't have to worry about its moral development? Or buying it an iPhone. But bamboo costs could get excessive..

I love my hair dryer but it wasn't super expensive, $120 I think. I do believe it makes a difference especially in the time it takes which means less damage.

 

[Naynadine]

I love my hair dryer but it wasn't super expensive, $120 I think. I do believe it makes a difference especially in the time it takes which means less damage.

That is pretty expensive to me, I think I've always spent less than like $20 on mine.

I do feel like it takes forever to dry my hair, so I guess it would be a good idea to spend a little more. I'll browse some Amazon reviews.

 

[Anneri]

Naynadine, I'm pretty happy with my Braun Satin Hair dryer! I think I've one from the 7 series.

I just sold some things and am pretty happy about it. Will also skip both Playland and PS and By Request!

 

[lyseD]

I've been putting extra cash into a box on my dresser -- yesterday I realized I had enough for a new bag for spring.

They'll be calling as soon as it's in stock and it feels good to have the money so I can go pick it up right away.

 

[jennyap]

Quote:Originally Posted by Alysse011


I'm going to have to jump in on this with y'all. I don't want kids either - I have a lot of various reasons. But the looks I receive when I'm asked are just ridiculous-like they are horrified. People look like I just kicked their own child or something. And then, like y'all have already said, people start arguing with me about how I'm going to change my mind etc. When I was in college someone told me I was selfish for not wanting children. That really made me angry. It's quite obnoxious to be honest. I once told someone "I'm more of a dog person." The look on her face was too funny.

I also want to add in that telling a significant other you don't want kids is always do awkward for me. Honestly, I probably spit that out too early in the relationship, but I don't want to get attached if he has different views. What's the point?


I'm on the no kids wagon too, funny how there are so many of us in this group! I was never hugely fussed either way to be honest, so it has been as much circumstance as anything. With a different man I might have made a different choice (my husband is 20+ years older than me) but it is the right one for us as a couple and he's the right person for me so... I occasionally have slight pangs of regret, but not strong enough to think that I should have done things differently. I adore my nephews and nieces and I'm glad I have children in my life in some form, but reading my SIL's twitter feed is usually enough to remind me that they're not all fun and games LOL! Luckily very few people have ever asked about it, not even family, so I haven't had to 'justify myself' much.

 

[vaisforluvrs]

I love my hair dryer but it wasn't super expensive, $120 I think. I do believe it makes a difference especially in the time it takes which means less damage.

Yeah, mine was about $100 which I consider a lot for a hair dryer, but it really does make a difference. I've used BabyLiss dryers for many years now, and they are great. Folica.com is a good resource for reviews and they tend to give decent discounts. I used to own this one and it was great: http://www.folica.com/tools/hair-dryers/babyliss-pro-ceramix-xtreme-babyliss-2000, but I dropped it too many times and the handle broke (but it still worked!) so I bought a different one from my local beauty supply because they didn't have this one in stock.

 

[veronikawithak]

A guy I know from when I was younger asked me out on a date, but we had this conversation that went awkward when it came to the topic and I said I don't want kids. It was more like he was interrogating me and I had to come up with good points why I don't want any. He wouldn't take me seriously either. Because ''it's the best thing in the world'' and ''aren't you curious what your child would look like?''... Needless to say I'm waaaaay too busy now to go out with him, lol.
I tried online dating for a while, and despite having a lonnng profile with lots of info, the thing a lot of men would use as a conversation starter was the ''doesn't want kids'' remark. It's like they were baffled that a ''woman in her best years'' doesn't want to put her uterus to any use, lol.
Aaaand we're way off topic...

I think I'm in for a new blow drier this year, my super old one is starting to get a little wonky. I've always had cheap ones, but I was wondering if pricier ones are any better? Is it worth it to invest in an expensive one? Any recommendations?

Wow! The "best years" comment always grinds my gears lol.. as opposed to a man whose best years are.. all of them? From puberty to impotence at least (and beyond through the medical marvel that is viagra)..

I realize there is a legit biological clock involved for us but seriously.. if you know it's not your plan, it's not a concern. Did you ask these guys why they weren't out fulfilling their life's purpose by trying to impregnate anything and everything with a uterus?

So off topic.. lol! But, I remember a wise Specktrette once said there was no such thing as off topic in #teamlowbuy and I'm going with that. If anyone gets annoyed, feel free to say so! I'd like to think I respond well to constructive criticism.

 

[User38]

Wow! The "best years" comment always grinds my gears lol.. as opposed to a man whose best years are.. all of them? From puberty to impotence at least (and beyond through the medical marvel that is viagra)..

I realize there is a legit biological clock involved for us but seriously.. if you know it's not your plan, it's not a concern. Did you ask these guys why they weren't out fulfilling their life's purpose by trying to impregnate anything and everything with a uterus?

So off topic.. lol! But, I remember a wise Specktrette once said there was no such thing as off topic in #teamlowbuy and I'm going with that. If anyone gets annoyed, feel free to say so! I'd like to think I respond well to constructive criticism.

wow.. and I thought I was so strange.. lol. My whole family was on the beat up wagon and took their swings at me. Now, when they see the cute pudgy faced baby is a pimply nasty teenager (who gets along better with me, because I HAD no expectations of them), they kinda see my point. But in truth, the reading and observation I acquired while in school gave me my rationale. I would have been a horrid mother -- I have bad genes. My father as much as I adored him was a benevolent dictator, my mother a passive agressive latin female (I adore her but man she can really crank me up sometimes). I would have wanted nothing less than a Sheldon Cooper brain combined with a Brad Pitt face -- and that would have surely been a clear disaster. In all cases, this is the great thing about this thread -- there is no condemnation for whatever is ailing our hearts or spirits. Yay or Nay we take it as it is and don't criticize but just offer our best ideas or advice for life/lving and anything that improves our lives.

I was away for a few days and my mother is now all over my ass about me getting married to Bert.. oh geeze. I am independent and 53... I tried to explain to her in economic terms that I cannot afford marriage lol .. and she who has never had a full time job in her life, just doesn't get it. Sigh. Sigh.

but I plod on, I feel like hitting Sephora or NM's or anything lol. I think I will go for an early run instead.

but I am really so proud of all the ladies in this thread... you are an amazing group!

to all

p.s. I hateddddddddddd my grandmother... one was a Devil missing a tail and talons.. and the other, a Virgin (Mother Teresa) type, who was so loved, the whole town shut down when she was buried. Go figure.. it's a wonder I am not totally

p.s.2: men should take viagra vaginally... and then see what hot flashes really are..

 

[User38]

and no.. I am not drinking.. lol

 

[CrimsonQuill157]

I know! That disclaimer is kind of an automatic response for me now. People just assume you must be defective and that you don't like children. Of course I *like* children. I *like* panda bears but I don't want one in my house for 25 years.

When I said I didn't want children, I was told I wasn't a "real woman", that I was a robot. And that was from a close friend. Horrible feeling. I'm glad to see ladies here understand!

 

[User38]

When I said I didn't want children, I was told I wasn't a "real woman", that I was a robot. And that was from a close friend. Horrible feeling. I'm glad to see ladies here understand!

stick to your guns, Crimson.. do what you feel is right and good for you.

 

[User38]

Aww, I wouldn't mind having a panda.

pandas are adorable.. but they have major claws and have been known to eat meat, as a side to their bamboo!

 

[CrimsonQuill157]

Well, I hemmed and hawed about coming over here, but after this weekend I realized I needed a SERIOUS intervention. I've spent so, so, so much money in the last few months on makeup it's not even funny. I'm so embarrassed and ashamed of myself because I used to be so good with money and I could hold onto it. I'm happy with my purchases, I don't really regret any of them, but it's just that I know there's no reason I should be spending all this money when I have plenty of makeup. I seriously need help with this so I'm committing to an absolute no-buy until April and then a low buy. I haven't figured the details of the low-buy but at least putting this out there should help me.

 

[Naynadine]

When I said I didn't want children, I was told I wasn't a "real woman", that I was a robot. And that was from a close friend. Horrible feeling. I'm glad to see ladies here understand!

Oh no, sorry you had to experience that

 

[charlotte366]

Welcome!! You are in the right place! Do you know what triggered your purchases or what your weak spot is (mines blush and feelin low, sure fire reason for a make up haul!)

 

[shellygrrl]

When I said I didn't want children, I was told I wasn't a "real woman", that I was a robot. And that was from a close friend. Horrible feeling. I'm glad to see ladies here understand!

That's horrible, what they said. :hug: When I was younger, I thought I wanted one or two kids. Then I hit my twenties and wasn't sure if I wanted any. Now I'm in my early-to-mid-thirties and am Team Childfree. On hair dryers: I just bought a new one myself. The one I have currently is around nine to ten years old, so I was due for a new one. I got the Hot Tools Whisper Quiet Salon Turbo Ionic Dryer. I tried it out at an Ulta over a year ago and really liked it, then finally got it together and bought it.

 

[veronikawithak]

wow.. and I thought I was so strange.. lol. My whole family was on the beat up wagon and took their swings at me. Now, when they see the cute pudgy faced baby is a pimply nasty teenager (who gets along better with me, because I HAD no expectations of them), they kinda see my point. But in truth, the reading and observation I acquired while in school gave me my rationale. I would have been a horrid mother -- I have bad genes. My father as much as I adored him was a benevolent dictator, my mother a passive agressive latin female (I adore her but man she can really crank me up sometimes). I would have wanted nothing less than a Sheldon Cooper brain combined with a Brad Pitt face -- and that would have surely been a clear disaster. In all cases, this is the great thing about this thread -- there is no condemnation for whatever is ailing our hearts or spirits. Yay or Nay we take it as it is and don't criticize but just offer our best ideas or advice for life/lving and anything that improves our lives.

I was away for a few days and my mother is now all over my ass about me getting married to Bert.. oh geeze. I am independent and 53... I tried to explain to her in economic terms that I cannot afford marriage lol .. and she who has never had a full time job in her life, just doesn't get it. Sigh. Sigh.

but I plod on, I feel like hitting Sephora or NM's or anything lol. I think I will go for an early run instead.

but I am really so proud of all the ladies in this thread... you are an amazing group!

to all

p.s. I hateddddddddddd my grandmother... one was a Devil missing a tail and talons.. and the other, a Virgin (Mother Teresa) type, who was so loved, the whole town shut down when she was buried. Go figure.. it's a wonder I am not totally

p.s.2: men should take viagra vaginally... and then see what hot flashes really are..

Hilarious.. I too would make a terrible mother! My parents were also very dysfunctional, with a lot of the same characteristics as you mentioned and mismatched as a couple. My man's father left when he was very young. Not to mention we both have a family history of genetic disorders that we'd rather not pass on. I think we both value our space, freedom, and control over our own lives too much to make that kind of commitment to something so unpredictable and so permanent.. just our personalities. I'm happy to live vicariously through those who have been looking forward to motherhood as enthusiastically as I've been avoiding it.

Ps. I completely agree with your stance on the marriage front. In some provinces/states even living together can incur the responsibilities of support (ex. this trophy husband case from BC http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/british-columbia/trophy-husband-awarded-157k-from-b-c-widow-1.1397699). If you and B do decide to go down that road, in the words of Kanye West, "if you ain't no punk, holla we want prenup!"

CONGRATS on going for a run instead of to a store!! I need to get that kind of attitude on the go! Get two birds stoned at once. Haha.

Also, not sure what you meant by men taking viagra vaginally.. but I'm intrigued by the idea. Lol.

 

[User38]

No. But I'm convinced that what most of them do anyway.

Mothers will be mothers, no matter what age I guess.


Oh no, sorry you had to experience that

My mother could have been Woody Allen's Zionist castrator had she not been a latina

As to castor oil, it's an old fashioned method of making hair grow -- and it's for both eyebrows and eyelashes as well as scalp. Not sure it works on scalp tho, but it has worked on my eyebrows when I really got into growing them out two years ago. It helped me fill in sparser areas but it did not give me Cara's eyebrows - just a bit thicker and fuller although my hairs are still too light for my liking.

 

[User38]

Some people lack empathy so they can't understand anything unless they've personally experienced it.. A deficiency on their part and not on yours!

"Real woman" can mean whatever you want it to mean.. I know men who consider themselves "real women" and I have to agree with them lol. It's your strength of character and presence that makes you real, not your superficial traits or lifestyle choices.


Hilarious.. I too would make a terrible mother! My parents were also very dysfunctional, with a lot of the same characteristics as you mentioned and mismatched as a couple. My man's father left when he was very young. Not to mention we both have a family history of genetic disorders that we'd rather not pass on. I think we both value our space, freedom, and control over our own lives too much to make that kind of commitment to something so unpredictable and so permanent.. just our personalities. I'm happy to live vicariously through those who have been looking forward to motherhood as enthusiastically as I've been avoiding it.

Ps. I completely agree with your stance on the marriage front. In some provinces/states even living together can incur the responsibilities of support (ex. this trophy husband case from BC http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/british-columbia/trophy-husband-awarded-157k-from-b-c-widow-1.1397699). If you and B do decide to go down that road, in the words of Kanye West, "if you ain't no punk, holla we want prenup!"

CONGRATS on going for a run instead of to a store!! I need to get that kind of attitude on the go! Get two birds stoned at once. Haha.

Also, not sure what you meant by men taking viagra vaginally.. but I'm intrigued by the idea. Lol.

lol.. I just got back and ran like Forrest Gump. It takes the immediate stress away and I concentrate on other things. like right now, a glass of wine.. lol.

oh good grief on that BC trophy husband.. eek. This would not really be a trophy husband as he is an MD, but I would have to give up my late husband's pension which is quite nice and what if this new deal/marriage goes belly up, I know we would both insist on pre-nups.. oh geeze. It's a lose lose situation. oy. I just realized as I write this: I am not into marriage anymore either. Been there, done that -- terrified of burying a husband. No good. No mo.

as for vaginal viagra.. I guess I meant up theirs..

 

[User38]

lol @ book on sexual experiences.. YAy she is 86 and he is 66