Is there any way to go over their heads? Like a District Supervisor or something? Maybe the District Attorney can advise you, unless things are too political for that person to be really straight with you.
We intend to contact the DA. We're just not sure where all their damn strings are.
Yes, if you don't get anywhere with the DA, you may need to consider going much higher up and outside your district where the person at that level doesn't even know the locals. Try to get a sense of the structure of the chain of command from the DA if you can, or perhaps there are government websites that will give you that information if the DA is unwilling to be truly helpful. Or maybe there are some state or even national crime victims' groups that can assist that really know the ropes for this kind of thing.
I organize by color/color family, not by brand because it's too easy for me to forget about say a fab red Chanel
I organize by color/color family, not by brand because it's too easy for me to forget about say a fab red Chanel
lippie, but if I look in reds I see all of them. I store lip liners and glosses with the lipsticks, by color.
You couldn't pay me all the money in the world to give away a used lip gloss or accept one. Whatever germs are
on your lips--the entrance to your mouth are on that wand and in that gloss. I equate it to using someone's
toothbrush.
I was afraid it would be something like that. That sucks. Glad that Rob is doing a little better, though. Keep us posted.
[@]Paint&Ink Chick[/@] She just turned 12. She's such a girly girl but she can beat up her brothers. Lol, sounds like mine. Look @ her being fierce! Luv the dress, we'll have to keep in touch.
Thanks. I'm just tired of the drama & fighting. So if that makes him feel like he's down something worthy for my child so be it. Child support does Not get your child up in the am, dressed on the buys, feed them ect.
Aww, sorry your feeling down chick. Big hugs! I know some families don't like to talk about things, but it actually helps. My family isn't that close, well I don't talk to a lot of them, but when my granny died that's all me & a few cousins did. About things she said, did. She may not have any of his items, but you'll Always have your memories. But it would be nice if you could have a Lil piece, momentum of his. The car would be nice & you'd think she'd want a family member to have the car. I think you should try to talk to her, let her know how your feeling, you'd like to have a little something to remind you of your father, even if she doesn't want to give you the car. I think it helps to cry, but like I said it helps to talk about it and you ll Always have the pics & memories, no one can take that from you. Hugs!
I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this. Death seems to bring out the worst of people at a time when everyone needs support and community the most. I lost my father to cancer as well, in September 2012. My mother is saving a couple of small items for me so I'll have something of his. There are other larger items I would have kept but it wasn't practical for me at the time. But she constantly puts him down and complains about how he didn't get his affairs in order before he passed.. which is stressful for a child.
I agree with Veronika. Don't focus on the car because your stepmother has all the control over the item, so by doing that you are just giving her control over you. The car is just a symbol of your father, and probably wouldn't be a practical choice if you were to buy a car, anyway. Focus on what the car really means, which is your memories. Nobody can take those away from you. All the car really does is bring up memories of your father, which you already have. So maybe think of some way you can honor your father that nobody else can interfere with, like making a small donation to a cancer society or take a long walk and really think hard about some of the things he taught you and what you learned from having him in your life. It's better to experience the feelings rather than try to suppress them-- go through it, not around.
I agree with the others that have posted. If you really do want to buy the car, maybe see if your stepmom is willing to work out a payment plan with you to buy the car. Explain to her how much this item in particular means to you. Good luck!
