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Beauty Mark
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First of all, while online dating isn't for me, I've had friends who have had a lot of success with it (two couples are live-ins) and no one has had an awful, scary experience. You just have to be very careful what you put in your profile, screen people, meet in public places, don't let them know your address, etc. My friends used match.com and eharmoney, as well as Yahoo! Personals.
If that isn't your thing, you might meet at a social activity. Some of my friends did salsa dancing and met some guys that way. No one that they want to date, but guy friends are nice and guys hang out with other guys
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Good luck! Don't pressure yourself to date if you don't feel that you're ready.
If that isn't your thing, you might meet at a social activity. Some of my friends did salsa dancing and met some guys that way. No one that they want to date, but guy friends are nice and guys hang out with other guys
Good luck! Don't pressure yourself to date if you don't feel that you're ready.
Urbana
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im almost like you. ive been with a boy 5 years, we even bought a house... but i left him, cos he was making my life a pure shit...
now i think im ready to date, but i dont know where to find men. i think i shouldnt go for it, but wait till love comes or that its too soon, but i dont know... sometimes i feel like it would be good to have someone who cares about you.
anyway, what i do its trying not to concentrate too mcuh in that. if someone comes its ok, if he doesnt then just wait
best of luck !!
now i think im ready to date, but i dont know where to find men. i think i shouldnt go for it, but wait till love comes or that its too soon, but i dont know... sometimes i feel like it would be good to have someone who cares about you.
anyway, what i do its trying not to concentrate too mcuh in that. if someone comes its ok, if he doesnt then just wait
best of luck !!
dmenchi
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As soon as you stop looking they all come. It's sooo wired.
i agree with a lot of what you said and maybe it's better for you to make sure of what you are looking for in a partner. often we end up with the same guy, just a differnt face . do you have any hobbies ? go to the gym? take college classes? go to a happy hour place in a business district (great for networking as well), most people there are not into getting wasted and screwing around ( excuse my language). guys are everywhere ,if i remmber you wee still under thirthy right? i think It's harder for women over 40. ...don't loose hope
i agree with a lot of what you said and maybe it's better for you to make sure of what you are looking for in a partner. often we end up with the same guy, just a differnt face . do you have any hobbies ? go to the gym? take college classes? go to a happy hour place in a business district (great for networking as well), most people there are not into getting wasted and screwing around ( excuse my language). guys are everywhere ,if i remmber you wee still under thirthy right? i think It's harder for women over 40. ...don't loose hope
Raerae
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Attracting men is simple...
Couple of things...
It's not what your wearing, it how you wear it that will attract men. So, you dont have to be overtly slutty in how you dress. But I wouldn't dress Ugly Betty eigther. Stand up strait, have good posture, back strait, tits out ;p lol. Look ahed of where your walking, not down etc.
DON'T look at the ground. Make eyecontact with men that you find attractive. Even just walking around doing your typical thing, going to the mall, the grochery store, out with friends whatever. And if you think he's hot, smile at him. Must guys are confident enough to where if you look confident, and give him a few simple body language hints, they just might get up the guts to chat you up. I've had guys ask me out in all sorts of random places by just doing the above.
MIX up your routine. If your doing the same thing every day, day in and day out, you've probably met most of the men in your tiny little world, that your going to meet. You have to get out to different places, and this doesn't have to be hard. Go to a diff Gym, go to a diff store, go shopping at a different mall, whatever. But whatever your doing, do it differently, EVEN if it means you have to drive a little farther out of your way.
Dont say no. Is there really any harm in a first date? When you get asked out, just go with it. Accepting a invatation to a first date, doesn't obligate you in any way to accepting the second. Your not getting married (yet anyways
) and dates are fun, and GOOD for your self esteem, and self confidence. You can even go so far as to date several guys at once, however, if you decide to hook up with one, I would be polite to the others and break off any more dating.
It's really not as complicated as people make it out to be... I get more dates and invatations just being myself, and doing my thing, than I do when i'm at a bar trying to find a man. I've been asked out on the escalator at the mall, when I smiled at the guy going on the down, and he chased me up the up side in order to ask me out. At Kinko's while making copies, i've been asked to coffee several times. Grochery shopping happens quite often. And just walking out and about doing my thing.
If you want to make it a little easier on the men, do what your doing alone, be it shopping at the mall, or whatever (as long as it's during the day, night time I would always go in a group). Guys have confidence issues as well (just like us!), and a lot of them might want to ask you out, but will be too afraid to get turned down in front of your friends, so they wont ask you.
Dating in a few easy steps... Other than that, just have fun. Smile, and enjoy being single. It's not the end of the world, and it can be a whole lot more fun than being involved
Couple of things...
It's not what your wearing, it how you wear it that will attract men. So, you dont have to be overtly slutty in how you dress. But I wouldn't dress Ugly Betty eigther. Stand up strait, have good posture, back strait, tits out ;p lol. Look ahed of where your walking, not down etc.
DON'T look at the ground. Make eyecontact with men that you find attractive. Even just walking around doing your typical thing, going to the mall, the grochery store, out with friends whatever. And if you think he's hot, smile at him. Must guys are confident enough to where if you look confident, and give him a few simple body language hints, they just might get up the guts to chat you up. I've had guys ask me out in all sorts of random places by just doing the above.
MIX up your routine. If your doing the same thing every day, day in and day out, you've probably met most of the men in your tiny little world, that your going to meet. You have to get out to different places, and this doesn't have to be hard. Go to a diff Gym, go to a diff store, go shopping at a different mall, whatever. But whatever your doing, do it differently, EVEN if it means you have to drive a little farther out of your way.
Dont say no. Is there really any harm in a first date? When you get asked out, just go with it. Accepting a invatation to a first date, doesn't obligate you in any way to accepting the second. Your not getting married (yet anyways
It's really not as complicated as people make it out to be... I get more dates and invatations just being myself, and doing my thing, than I do when i'm at a bar trying to find a man. I've been asked out on the escalator at the mall, when I smiled at the guy going on the down, and he chased me up the up side in order to ask me out. At Kinko's while making copies, i've been asked to coffee several times. Grochery shopping happens quite often. And just walking out and about doing my thing.
If you want to make it a little easier on the men, do what your doing alone, be it shopping at the mall, or whatever (as long as it's during the day, night time I would always go in a group). Guys have confidence issues as well (just like us!), and a lot of them might want to ask you out, but will be too afraid to get turned down in front of your friends, so they wont ask you.
Dating in a few easy steps... Other than that, just have fun. Smile, and enjoy being single. It's not the end of the world, and it can be a whole lot more fun than being involved
kaliraksha
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Ok, so I promise I'll post (edit) back later but I'm going to sleep and I just wanted to mention this book that a few of the girls at work bought and are "raving" about the advice:
http://www.amazon.com/Manual-Explain...8779568&sr=8-1
http://www.amazon.com/Manual-Explain...8779568&sr=8-1
breathless
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i met my finace 6 years ago in a yahoo chat room. now, we have a baby, live together, and are getting married next summer.
Macnarsandlove
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Thanks for all the advice!
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Well thats not the case with everyone. One of my friends a while ago met a really creepy guy and almost got hurt. And I like meeting ppl and talking and seeing what they look like. Chatting is ok but for me it seems hard to be romantic while typing.
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Originally Posted by breathless
i met my finace 6 years ago in a yahoo chat room. now, we have a baby, live together, and are getting married next summer. |
Well thats not the case with everyone. One of my friends a while ago met a really creepy guy and almost got hurt. And I like meeting ppl and talking and seeing what they look like. Chatting is ok but for me it seems hard to be romantic while typing.
little teaser
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i agree^^ i know someone that meet a creep online too
| Originally Posted by smith130
Thanks for all the advice! Well thats not the case with everyone. One of my friends a while ago met a really creepy guy and almost got hurt. And I like meeting ppl and talking and seeing what they look like. Chatting is ok but for me it seems hard to be romantic while typing. |
i agree^^ i know someone that meet a creep online too
