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gildedangel
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Sometimes ignorance is bliss. I'm sorry that you found that out, but I am glad that you are not too bothered by it. You have both moved on, and that is a good thing! If he wasn't willing to put that much effort into your relationship, then he wasn't worth having around anyway, right? And you are right, facebook is the devil!
starbucksmocha
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Damn Facebook! There is such a thing as too much information...grr! That sucks that you had to find that out. But I agree with gildedangel, he obviously wasn't worth having around if he didn't put any effort into your relationship. Right now you just need selective amnesia, lol.
Good for you for taking it relatively well.
Good for you for taking it relatively well.
FiestyFemme
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That's the unfortunate part of stuff like that... you can find out things you didn't want to know. Been there, done that. Like gildedangel said, sometimes ignorance is bliss. You've already dated him so you know what it's like... it might not be the way it seems, especially after how he treated you. Just be glad you're not her!
shimmyshimmyya
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I see where you're coming from. It's like why would I want to be with someone who would treat me like that. On the other hand, I feel betrayed. Like I put in all the time and energy into you, for you to turn around and be the perfect guy for the next girl? Are you serious? Love and life are cruel.
Gonna admit, I can't stop thinking about this. I can't eat and its hard for me to get out of the bed...
Gonna admit, I can't stop thinking about this. I can't eat and its hard for me to get out of the bed...
FiestyFemme
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Been there.
I dated the same guy for 6 years, and he was an asshole. Great guy to everyone else, and he treated me like crap. I was young and dumb, and I stayed with him because I was afraid to be by myself. Right around our 6 year anniversary, he drops off the face of the planet. That's because he was already seeing a new girl, and I was tore up. Then, come to find out, he was doing all these things for/with her that I'd been begging him for years to do. I felt betrayed in the worst way possible. It took me a year and a half to get over him, but hang in there! Karma is a bitch. He tried to get back together with me last summer, which was 3 years after he'd broken up. Told me how his life hadn't been right since me, how sorry he was for how he treated me, blah blah blah. Whatever, like I didn't already know what I'd be getting, LOL. I cut off all communication with him, so I don't know how he's doing now... but I'm married to my best friend & love of my life. So it all works out in the end. Hugs to you!!
Originally Posted by shimmyshimmyya
I see where you're coming from. It's like why would I want to be with someone who would treat me like that. On the other hand, I feel betrayed. Like I put in all the time and energy into you, for you to turn around and be the perfect guy for the next girl? Are you serious? Love and life are cruel. |
Been there.
I dated the same guy for 6 years, and he was an asshole. Great guy to everyone else, and he treated me like crap. I was young and dumb, and I stayed with him because I was afraid to be by myself. Right around our 6 year anniversary, he drops off the face of the planet. That's because he was already seeing a new girl, and I was tore up. Then, come to find out, he was doing all these things for/with her that I'd been begging him for years to do. I felt betrayed in the worst way possible. It took me a year and a half to get over him, but hang in there! Karma is a bitch. He tried to get back together with me last summer, which was 3 years after he'd broken up. Told me how his life hadn't been right since me, how sorry he was for how he treated me, blah blah blah. Whatever, like I didn't already know what I'd be getting, LOL. I cut off all communication with him, so I don't know how he's doing now... but I'm married to my best friend & love of my life. So it all works out in the end. Hugs to you!!
RedRibbon
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Testify! I went through the exact same thing, a time will come when you're over him and he will come bakc you won't give a shiny shite.
| Originally Posted by FiestyFemme
Been there. I dated the same guy for 6 years, and he was an asshole. Great guy to everyone else, and he treated me like crap. I was young and dumb, and I stayed with him because I was afraid to be by myself. Right around our 6 year anniversary, he drops off the face of the planet. That's because he was already seeing a new girl, and I was tore up. Then, come to find out, he was doing all these things for/with her that I'd been begging him for years to do. I felt betrayed in the worst way possible. It took me a year and a half to get over him, but hang in there! Karma is a bitch. He tried to get back together with me last summer, which was 3 years after he'd broken up. Told me how his life hadn't been right since me, how sorry he was for how he treated me, blah blah blah. Whatever, like I didn't already know what I'd be getting, LOL. I cut off all communication with him, so I don't know how he's doing now... but I'm married to my best friend & love of my life. So it all works out in the end. Hugs to you!! |
Testify! I went through the exact same thing, a time will come when you're over him and he will come bakc you won't give a shiny shite.
kaliraksha
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I've gotten myself into a lot of heart break with e-stalking. That just plain sucks... I'm sorry this happened to you. Only time will begin to make you feel better (or at least it did for me)... and finding out new information just kind of brings you back to all that BS that happened, so try to steer clear of it.
christina83
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Hi shimmy, Im really sorry about what happened to you
Don't get me started on facebook,lol its pure evil. I found out more or less (well saw tell tale signs) that my ex was cheating.
I checked my ex for a few weeks after we split on facebook, but the pain got too much so I deleted my account, as I didnt want him to know i was hurting by just blocking him and his friends.
Maybe your ex is all talk with this new girl hes talking to? Maybe he thinks he can make all these plans, but probably nothing will come of it. Or maybe she'll get fed up anyway.
Men always, always think the grass is greener on the otherside, and it never is (my male friend has told me this,lol).
There is going to be someone out there that will treat you like a princess, and you'll one day look back at all of this as a learning curve
Me and my ex split over a year ago, we were together 5years, and I'm single, but its my choice, I like being on my own and being me for a while
Plus I can buy whatever I want now, haha. And Im at uni studying art, so something good came of all the crap I went through
It will get much better, I promise.
Don't get me started on facebook,lol its pure evil. I found out more or less (well saw tell tale signs) that my ex was cheating.
I checked my ex for a few weeks after we split on facebook, but the pain got too much so I deleted my account, as I didnt want him to know i was hurting by just blocking him and his friends.
Maybe your ex is all talk with this new girl hes talking to? Maybe he thinks he can make all these plans, but probably nothing will come of it. Or maybe she'll get fed up anyway.
Men always, always think the grass is greener on the otherside, and it never is (my male friend has told me this,lol).
There is going to be someone out there that will treat you like a princess, and you'll one day look back at all of this as a learning curve
Me and my ex split over a year ago, we were together 5years, and I'm single, but its my choice, I like being on my own and being me for a while
Plus I can buy whatever I want now, haha. And Im at uni studying art, so something good came of all the crap I went through
It will get much better, I promise.
