a website for cheaters......
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CellyCell
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Cheaters to me, are really selfish people.
That site is really disgusting and disturbing.
Some of FAQ on that site is just - ugh!
They talk about you can trust one another and blah blah - yeah, mmkay. And how they don't promote infidelity.
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By cheating? I don't get that!
That site is really disgusting and disturbing.
Some of FAQ on that site is just - ugh!
They talk about you can trust one another and blah blah - yeah, mmkay. And how they don't promote infidelity.
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| Most unfaithful people do care about their spouse and will take steps to work out their problems. |
By cheating? I don't get that!
sayah
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I've also cheated in the past and I promise you, you can change inside, grow, mature or whatever you wanna call it. It works is my point. Good luck, I'm sure you'll do great!
And lelaelena, the same goes for you and everyone else who needs some encouragement.
Originally Posted by ashk36
No, I'm not married, but I am in a committed relationship, and I did cheat on him in the past. I still feel like a piece of shit for it. |
I've also cheated in the past and I promise you, you can change inside, grow, mature or whatever you wanna call it. It works is my point. Good luck, I'm sure you'll do great!
And lelaelena, the same goes for you and everyone else who needs some encouragement.
3jane
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Sounds like he's a cheater, and would've cheated sooner or later, even if it wasn't with you.
But really, sounds like you have a pattern of being attracted to guys like this. I hate to say it, but assholes seem to gravitate to girls with low self esteem and/or who look for relationships to give them that self esteem-- it's like they know who will have the highest tolerance for their bs.
From what you wrote, it sounds what really upset you is that triggered the pain you felt in your own past...
You might want to seriously analyze 1) why you define yourself so much by relationships 2) why you're attracted to the type of guys you are. I know going all "see a therapist!" sounds lame, but they might be able to give you the attention and gentle prodding in the right direction to really get at the root of this. Or, at least talk to a friend or relative...
| Originally Posted by lelaelena
Ugh, well here's a place to talk about a recent transgression. Background story. I have had 5 boyfriends. 2 of them I was madly in love with. Each and every one of them cheated on me. My second one was in a particularly humiliating and confidence stripping manner, and to this day I'm still trying to get past it, move on and regain what little confidence I can. ... At this point, I could not possibly be any lower. And I am the type that defines herself by her relationships and current marital status. ... That's when he leaned in to kiss me and it was downhill from there. He would jump on top of me, start kissing my neck and I would slightly push him off, saying this was wrong and he needed to stop, he would ignore me and then I would kiss him back |
Sounds like he's a cheater, and would've cheated sooner or later, even if it wasn't with you.
But really, sounds like you have a pattern of being attracted to guys like this. I hate to say it, but assholes seem to gravitate to girls with low self esteem and/or who look for relationships to give them that self esteem-- it's like they know who will have the highest tolerance for their bs.
From what you wrote, it sounds what really upset you is that triggered the pain you felt in your own past...
You might want to seriously analyze 1) why you define yourself so much by relationships 2) why you're attracted to the type of guys you are. I know going all "see a therapist!" sounds lame, but they might be able to give you the attention and gentle prodding in the right direction to really get at the root of this. Or, at least talk to a friend or relative...
X4biddenxLustX
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^^ I agree. That guy totally took advantage of the situation because he could sense how you felt. I too am attracted to assholes for some reason, trying to work on that =[ And yes therapy does work! But its not like waving a magic wand, instant fix to your problems. It takes time and lots of patience and I guess in a way soul searching. I've been seeing one for a few months now on a weekly basis and its made me see things a bit clearer and understand myself better.
triccc
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It doesn't surprise me that someone would stoop to such a low level to provide people with a way to have an affair to the one whome they said, "til death do us part".
I think it's sickening and makes me question everyone and everything even more. Trust is something that barely exists anymore.
I think it's sickening and makes me question everyone and everything even more. Trust is something that barely exists anymore.
X4biddenxLustX
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I think a part of society has killed a lot of trust in relationships or even people in general. Because with the technology that's coming out its just getting easier and easier to deceive someone. Plus people keep on getting more creative.
Lauren1981
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^^ and now they're basically advertising it on the radio station i listen to! i mean, they don't outright promote it but the announcer is talking to him about the site and the point of it and then she goes "go to ashleymadison.com to express your thoughts and comments on this controversial website"
WTF?! WHY!!!!
WTF?! WHY!!!!
BeccalovesMAC
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ok. I'm going to put my two cents. It is really sick and I think people who enroll for this service are pathetic. Unfortuantey, there is a big market for these types of websites. I watched a segment on this on Tyra one day. This lady wanted a divorce but was scared to leave. She got onto this site and gain the confidence to finally leave her abusive husband. Their logo is lame. "you only live once, have an affair" It kinda sounds like a phrase that I say all the time...'' We are all going to hell...LETS CARPOOL!" I have never messed around on my hubby. I dont get it how people can be so skanless like that.
Lauren1981
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^^ i feel you on that. i mean, i understand that sometimes ppl do make mistakes. shit happens. but a website that actually PROMOTES those kinds of mistakes??!!
that i will never understand.....
that i will never understand.....
3773519
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Boy have a grown up a lot. I know im only 25 but i've been through some stuff, and if this was over 5 years back I think I would of looked at it and seen what was going on.... but I have dont my dirt and got played and it doesnt feel good. I wonder how it can be brought down!!
snowflakelashes
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I've really got my backup about this site ever since I heard of it. I've never had a relationship but I know I would feel extremely hurt if I was , and I got cheated on. I think it's really sad that people would go out of their way to cheat by going to a site like this. I honestly don't think I could ever forgive a husband if he did this to me. I mean the accidentily encounter with a friend or a coworker, would hurt like all get-out but I might might might be able to forgive them. But blatently seeking out an affair would be hurtful beyond repair in my books.
cupcake_x
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It's disgusting. I can see people who are separated and are going through the divorce process (which is where my mother is in her "marriage"), but for people to go behind their partners backs? Be a man/woman and own up if you don't want to be with your S.O.
I saw this on Tyra, actually.
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"If you like pina coladas and getting caught in the rain..."
You know. That song where they place ads in the dating section and they meet up and it's their own spouses?
I saw this on Tyra, actually.
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| Originally Posted by MissResha
it'd be hilarious if 2 people decided to meet up and they found out they were meeting their own spouse. |
"If you like pina coladas and getting caught in the rain..."
You know. That song where they place ads in the dating section and they meet up and it's their own spouses?
