Aggravated!

[NutMeg]

Ok, I live on the 17th floor of an apartment building on campus. Last year I was on the second floor over the entrance (of a completely different building) and I was constantly being awoken at 2 in the morning to the lovely smell of cigarette smoke coming in through my window. Now the residence contract that you have to sign to live on campus here forbids smoking in your room, in the hall, in common areas, etc. You have to be outside, 6 m away from the closest part of the building. Unfortunately last year because my building was right by the main building of that residence and there wasn't a place between the main one and mine that was 6 m from both, people were constantly smoking there (very high traffic area). It was such a loosing battle, so even though I hated it I gave up.

So this year I was stoked to be so high up, because there is no way in hell that smoke can travel 17 stories in the air. But for about three weeks now I've been dealing with cigarette smoke in my room, not everyday, but up to 4 times a day. And why? Because the bitch below me is smoking in her room, which is completely against the contract that we all signed. I've complained about it twice (and each time she stopped for a few days), but this morning when I was just getting out of bed and having breakfast I smelled it again!!! I am so pissed off. I'm going to talk to my RA again, he lives right next to me and we get along great. I'm going to confirm with him that it is the girl below me, and then I'm going to go talk to her. I'll let her know what's going on (giving her a huge benefit of the doubt because I know she's been warned twice now), and also warn her that if I smell it even once more after that conversation I will do my level best to get her kicked out. I pay a ridiculous amount of money for this place and I deserve to get what I'm paying for. I just can't believe that she's so blatantly defying the rules and making people around her deal with it, and expecting to get away with it! It is so damn disrespectful.

 

[rbella]

OHhhhhh Lawd, that would piss me off. Follow the rules beyotch. I cannot stand the smell of cigarette smoke (although I used to smoke). I will say this, when I was a smoker, I seriously used to think no one could smell it if I was at least one foot away. I think it ruins your sense of smell or something. Now that I don't smoke, I realize how ridiculous I was to think that. And, I'm totally embarrassed at how many people I probably offended.

But, keep in mind, she signed a CONTRACT. She isn't standing outside, minding her own business. She is breaking the rules of the contract. She needs to take her ass out into the cold of the night if she wants a stogie.

 

[NutMeg]

And I'm not hating on smokers here. I'm pissed because I pay $750 a month for a tiny ass studio (which I can barely afford, but I think is a bit over the top considering residence is supposed to be cheaper than living off campus!) where I am guaranteed a smoke free environment. And I don't have one because she thinks she doesn't have to follow the rules.

 

[MACLovin]

Oh that would totally piss me off.. I'd confront her about it and say "Look.. you obviously don't care if all your crap reeks of stale cigarettes, but I'd prefer to not smell your second hand smoke when I wake up in the morning.. so it would be great if you could smoke outside like you agreed to when you signed the contract/lease." or if you don't want to directly talk to her, maybe leave a note on her door or something..

 

[MACLovin]

double post

 

[singer92286]

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Originally Posted by NutMeg I'm going to talk to my RA again, he lives right next to me and we get along great. I'm going to confirm with him that it is the girl below me, and then I'm going to go talk to her. I'll let her know what's going on (giving her a huge benefit of the doubt because I know she's been warned twice now), and also warn her that if I smell it even once more after that conversation I will do my level best to get her kicked out.

First off, that totally sucks!! I would be equally as pissed, because in most cases, living on campus is supposed to have its perks and it's freaking expensive!!

I don't know how the Housing System at your school works, but a word of advice to you from a former RA

At my school, we wanted people to talk about it if they had a problem: roommate issues, privacy issues, noise issues, etc. So it's good that you've been communicating about this. Here's the thing though, you want to cover your back; don't go threatening to get her kicked out because then she can turn it around and get you in trouble. Just keep talking to your RA and asking her to stop once you're sure it's her. I promise the more you bug him about it, the more he'll do to help you out and get you to stop bugging him! The squeaky wheel gets the oil... you just don't want to do something to get yourself in trouble.

Good luck!!

 

[aleksis210]

My boyfriend and I used to live with his dad.. and his step-brother and girlfriend lived in the basement... well they BOTH smoked marlboro red's and not only that but all HOURS of the night. I used to smell it at like 4 in the f*cking morning(it would wake me up!)..what pissed me off even more is that my boyfriend could never smell it! Also my bf's dad couldn't either but I tried to explain that things that smell "rise" up they don't travel to the room to the right...So he told them they had to open their door, yeah that really helped considering our room was right above theirs..I finally said I was out of there unless he kicked them out(it may sound harsh but they were also eating all of my food and stole shit from me,which I found in their room...) Can your RA kick her out? She's def. had fair warning and did sign a contract!

 

[blazeno.8]

Dude, I'd totally encourage you to talk to your RA. I lived with someone who was first smoking inside the house, then decided to go outside and smoke right below my windows... great. I think that they ended up moving the smokehouse to the basement. Talk about annoying. It's just the inconsideration that really got me.

 

[Mizz Coco Lust]

that sux! shes obviously addicted and just doesnt care. i think shes gonna have a hard time not doing it until she sees shes seriously about to be kicked out!

good luck

 

[shadowaddict]

I would continue going to the RA because she could accuse you of threatening her or something else that you did not do. If that gets you nowhere then go the director of RA’s. This is not only about the contract she is so clearly breaking but it is also putting everyone in the building at risk for fire. She is a fire/safety hazard and I would think they would want to end it fast. You would have the RA’s statement that she has been warned.

There have been way too many firs in dorms to let this go. My daughter is away at college and people have to smoke outside. But I would be so pissed if someone was breaking that rule and doing it inside putting her at a fire risk. Plus it is just effing rude. I mean you sign a contract or a code of conduct for a reason. I would be willing to bet the college is getting a substantial discount on their building insurance for it being smoke-free. I don’t think they would want to jeopardize losing that. Also make a note of the dates and time you have smelled smoke and the times you have spoken to anyone with authority about this such as the RA, documentation goes a long way. Good Luck!!!

 

[NutMeg]

Yeah, now that I've calmed down I don't feel the need to go bitch at her anymore. The biggest thing is that he hasn't caught her doing it yet (and he does go talk to her every time I tell him I can smell it). I feel like I'm second guessing myself, but who else could it be but her? I've talked to the people on either side of me, one of whom is my RA and they can't smell anything so it would have to be rising up from directly below me, and I know the girl below her and she doesn't smoke. And I don't believe it would come from three floors down and be that strong (and it is, it smells like standing beside someone smoking) and not diffuse to the rooms beside me.

The nice thing is that since my RA is my next door neighbour we're really close because we're both in studios and we share a lot of food and cooking supplies. And he's come into my room and smelled it, so he's knows I'm not making this shit up. But if he can't catch her, I don't know what our options are. I did talk to him again last night (because I was lying in bed trying to sleep and smelled it again!!!!!) and he went down and talked to her, I don't know the results from that because I went back to bed. I'm going to sit down with him today and talk about what the options are. Because from circumstantial evidence it has to be her, and I'm sure her room stinks. There's got a to be a way to deal with this without catching her with smoke in hand. How are they going to do that, who is stupid enough to answer the door without putting out the cig and hiding the evidence?

 

[Malena]

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Originally Posted by NutMeg I'm sure her room stinks.

I´m sure as well!
There´s no way you can smoke & your room doesn´t smell of it. Moreover she must smell kind of ciggy-stinky, too.
Good luck, this really sucks & would annoy more than a bit as well!