Eoraptor
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Well, Magon and I are no more. It all began Wednesday...
For some background knowledge, my friend Nikki was the one who introduced us, and she's seeing a guy named Hal. Nikki and I are Magon's only friends in this state, since she moved from California recently. Magon and I had a second date last week, which went really well (or so it seemed). I still didn't love her but I was starting to feel affection for her.
So Wednesday afternoon, Nikki texts me asking if Magon and I were still together, and I was like "yeah, I thought so, why?". Apparently Magon added Hal as a MySpace friend and told him we had broken up. Nikki texted her and Magon said that I knew. I had no idea. Magon and I were both at our workplaces that evening, and she claimed her phone was broken, so I had to figure out what she was trying to do and why via a tediously long sequence of text messages. Hers included such varied things as "I'm not ready for a boyfriend", "you're going too fast" (HA! two dates and we hadn't even kissed; how could I go slower?), "your girliness bothers me", and "I still like you and still want to date". I was so confused, because she had seemed overwealmingly positive and happy the previous night, saying that she was starting to love me, that she thinks of me 24/7, etc.. When we both get home from work, we were able to chat online. That resulted in her saying she still wanted to date me but that she needed to be eased more gradually in to my girly side, which is perfectly understandable. I berated her for making such a simple situation into the huge mess, and for making it so that I had to learn about the would-be breakup from Nikki. She apologized for it and everything seemed okay, but I was wary. Some things didn't add up. Why all the talk of breaking up if it was just an issue of being more gradual with my girliness? She said she thought I'd hate her if I knew she was uncomfortable with my girliness, so that would break us up. But she knew my ex-gf Jenny broke up with me partially for my girliness, and now Jenny and I are best friends. And why tell Hal first?
The next day Nikki calls me and asks me again- "are you and Magon still together?" Magon had been texting Hal all day, flirting with him. And Nikki was with Hal, reading over his shoulder. Magon told Hal she had broken up with me and blocked me on MySpace(!). Indeed she had blocked me. So I was through with her. Nikki was furious because Magon was going behind her back flirting with Hal, and lying to her about it. Magon claimed Hal contacted her first, but Nikki remembered Hal asking who she was when he got her friend request. It's funny that she was hitting on Hal in the first place, since she only said hi to him once before (on our second date), and they're VERY different people. Hal's a ~30 year old ex-marine with three kids, a messy divorce and is very outgoing. Magon's 20 years old, has led a very sheltered life, is incredibly shy (or so she claimed) and spends most of her time on the computer. Plus Hal's with Nikki anyway.
Then today was amusing because Magon's aunt and cousin came to a party Nikki and I were at, and told us all about Magon. Seems Magon had lied about me to them, saying that I insist she wear clothes that show more cleavage(!!), that I was moving away soon, etc.. The cleavage thing is especially amusing since I don't really care about breasts. I much prefer faces and non-physical traits. She also told her aunt that Hal and her only chatted once, that Nikki's friends had forced her to dress uncomfortably sexily for Rocky Horror, etc.. And it seems Magon had lied to Nikki and I about what her aunt and cousin said- that she wasn't allowed to visit my apartment or spend the night, that she wasn't allowed to take a job Nikki offered her, that her cousin disapproved of me because of my crossdressing, that her phone was broken, that she couldn't call long distance, that she worked as a nurse, etc.. It just goes on and on. Her aunt describes her as a pathological lier. I suspect many of our apparent shared characteristics are also lies that she told me after reading about them on my blog.
Needless to say, I don't care to see or speak to her again. Luckily, my tactic of waiting to fall in love until I knew we were compatable was successful. I was a bit sad on Wednesday, but I'm fine now. I figure she'll suffer enough by losing her only two Washington friends and being unsuccessful with Hal (he describes her as crazy and has blocked her on MySpace already).
Now if I can just find a non-crazy girl...
For some background knowledge, my friend Nikki was the one who introduced us, and she's seeing a guy named Hal. Nikki and I are Magon's only friends in this state, since she moved from California recently. Magon and I had a second date last week, which went really well (or so it seemed). I still didn't love her but I was starting to feel affection for her.
So Wednesday afternoon, Nikki texts me asking if Magon and I were still together, and I was like "yeah, I thought so, why?". Apparently Magon added Hal as a MySpace friend and told him we had broken up. Nikki texted her and Magon said that I knew. I had no idea. Magon and I were both at our workplaces that evening, and she claimed her phone was broken, so I had to figure out what she was trying to do and why via a tediously long sequence of text messages. Hers included such varied things as "I'm not ready for a boyfriend", "you're going too fast" (HA! two dates and we hadn't even kissed; how could I go slower?), "your girliness bothers me", and "I still like you and still want to date". I was so confused, because she had seemed overwealmingly positive and happy the previous night, saying that she was starting to love me, that she thinks of me 24/7, etc.. When we both get home from work, we were able to chat online. That resulted in her saying she still wanted to date me but that she needed to be eased more gradually in to my girly side, which is perfectly understandable. I berated her for making such a simple situation into the huge mess, and for making it so that I had to learn about the would-be breakup from Nikki. She apologized for it and everything seemed okay, but I was wary. Some things didn't add up. Why all the talk of breaking up if it was just an issue of being more gradual with my girliness? She said she thought I'd hate her if I knew she was uncomfortable with my girliness, so that would break us up. But she knew my ex-gf Jenny broke up with me partially for my girliness, and now Jenny and I are best friends. And why tell Hal first?
The next day Nikki calls me and asks me again- "are you and Magon still together?" Magon had been texting Hal all day, flirting with him. And Nikki was with Hal, reading over his shoulder. Magon told Hal she had broken up with me and blocked me on MySpace(!). Indeed she had blocked me. So I was through with her. Nikki was furious because Magon was going behind her back flirting with Hal, and lying to her about it. Magon claimed Hal contacted her first, but Nikki remembered Hal asking who she was when he got her friend request. It's funny that she was hitting on Hal in the first place, since she only said hi to him once before (on our second date), and they're VERY different people. Hal's a ~30 year old ex-marine with three kids, a messy divorce and is very outgoing. Magon's 20 years old, has led a very sheltered life, is incredibly shy (or so she claimed) and spends most of her time on the computer. Plus Hal's with Nikki anyway.
Then today was amusing because Magon's aunt and cousin came to a party Nikki and I were at, and told us all about Magon. Seems Magon had lied about me to them, saying that I insist she wear clothes that show more cleavage(!!), that I was moving away soon, etc.. The cleavage thing is especially amusing since I don't really care about breasts. I much prefer faces and non-physical traits. She also told her aunt that Hal and her only chatted once, that Nikki's friends had forced her to dress uncomfortably sexily for Rocky Horror, etc.. And it seems Magon had lied to Nikki and I about what her aunt and cousin said- that she wasn't allowed to visit my apartment or spend the night, that she wasn't allowed to take a job Nikki offered her, that her cousin disapproved of me because of my crossdressing, that her phone was broken, that she couldn't call long distance, that she worked as a nurse, etc.. It just goes on and on. Her aunt describes her as a pathological lier. I suspect many of our apparent shared characteristics are also lies that she told me after reading about them on my blog.
Needless to say, I don't care to see or speak to her again. Luckily, my tactic of waiting to fall in love until I knew we were compatable was successful. I was a bit sad on Wednesday, but I'm fine now. I figure she'll suffer enough by losing her only two Washington friends and being unsuccessful with Hal (he describes her as crazy and has blocked her on MySpace already).
Now if I can just find a non-crazy girl...
