Birth order: does it make a difference?
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purrtykitty
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Maybe, being the oldest, I identify with many of the "older child" traits and my sister has many of the "youngest child" traits...and it's just the two of us.
*Stargazer*
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I'm 4th of 5 and 1st of 2. I've never figured out which I am.
Shimmer
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My daughter displays none of the typical 'oldest child' tendencies, but my middle child displays both oldest child and middle child tendencies. He's 4 years younger than my daughter, my oldest biological boy, and a natural alpha.
It's interesting to see traits in my children that come from people they've never seen or met or interacted with or anything, but there they are. Some of the gestures my daughter displays are spot on for members of her family she doesn't even know.
Kind of cool really.
It's interesting to see traits in my children that come from people they've never seen or met or interacted with or anything, but there they are. Some of the gestures my daughter displays are spot on for members of her family she doesn't even know.
Kind of cool really.
*Stargazer*
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My middle daughter is what some call an Indigo Child. She's been like that since birth. She is absolutely the polar opposite of my first daughter. Interestingly enough, my son seems to be a combination of both of them.
I think with my kids, nurture has made them all into well behaved young children but nature gave them their very distinct personalities.
Originally Posted by frocher
I agree. I don't believe we are a tabula rasa, most mothers I know don't either. Quite a few have told me that all their children were born with very distinct personalities. I think it is both nurture and nature that shapes who we are. Mothers, any thoughts or insights? |
My middle daughter is what some call an Indigo Child. She's been like that since birth. She is absolutely the polar opposite of my first daughter. Interestingly enough, my son seems to be a combination of both of them.
I think with my kids, nurture has made them all into well behaved young children but nature gave them their very distinct personalities.
Paramnesia
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My brother and I totally show those characteristics, I'm the oldest and that makes him the youngest lol.
I'm overweight and my brother isn't (though he was always pushed into sport and supported, whereas I was never supported with sports).
I'm overweight and my brother isn't (though he was always pushed into sport and supported, whereas I was never supported with sports).
xsnowwhite
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I'm the middle of three and I can definitely relate to all of the traits listed, although I don't really know about the list about personality, mortality, ect.
Abbytabby
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I'm the youngest of five and although some of those characteristics fit me they don't all. The oldest is one of two boys and well...to be blunt the girls (second, fourth and fifth born) are smarter than the boys. I'm definitely not a risk taker or an extrovert (I'm the shyest of the family) None of us had any but the normal (chicken pox, measles) childhood illnesses.
Shouldn't admit it but the sexual partners part may be true
I don't really feel like I ever acted like an only child per se but there was a five year difference between me and the next youngest so I wasn't particularly close to any of my siblings until I got older. I am the smallest though since I take after my mom in terms of height.
Also in our family the second born was really the hardworker and definitely far from a rebel and was much nicer than the fourth
Shouldn't admit it but the sexual partners part may be true
I don't really feel like I ever acted like an only child per se but there was a five year difference between me and the next youngest so I wasn't particularly close to any of my siblings until I got older. I am the smallest though since I take after my mom in terms of height.
Also in our family the second born was really the hardworker and definitely far from a rebel and was much nicer than the fourth
xxManBeaterxx
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Im the youngest but i dont really agree with my description, my eldest brother is extremely smart, responsible, dependable but hes 12 years older than i am. My middle brother is extremely implusive espeically with shopping, he didnt do well in college and hes a big major procrastinator.
I think i can consider myself an "only child" since by the time i was 4 or 5 both of my brothers moved out, its like we arent even in the same generation.. I feel like i have something to prove to my parents since my 2 older brothers are doing so well in life, i feel like my older cousins and brothers set the expectation bar so high for the younger ones, and being asian, education and prestige is everything to the older 1920-1960 generation, it can affect your relationship in a bad way forever if you dont live up to their expectations. whaa.. i think i just went on a semi rant..
I think i can consider myself an "only child" since by the time i was 4 or 5 both of my brothers moved out, its like we arent even in the same generation.. I feel like i have something to prove to my parents since my 2 older brothers are doing so well in life, i feel like my older cousins and brothers set the expectation bar so high for the younger ones, and being asian, education and prestige is everything to the older 1920-1960 generation, it can affect your relationship in a bad way forever if you dont live up to their expectations. whaa.. i think i just went on a semi rant..
