blindpassion needs some relationship advice -

[blindpassion]

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Thankyou everyone for your suggestions.

 

[Beauty Mark]

How big is your school and are you going to take similar classes? If your school is large enough and you have different concentrations, there is a very good chance you won't run into him much unless you plan it. I live about 2-3 blocks away from some people I go to school with, and I have yet to run into them anywhere in my neighborhood, if this helps put it in perspective.

It sounds like you have more problems going on. For starters, while I understand that school is your time away from him and how necessary that is, what will happen when you are finished with school? I really think you should, before you even tackle the school issue, tackle the issue that you feel that you don't have much time to yourself.

 

[blindpassion]

Its small. Its an upgrading school probably the size of most peoples houses. That's one of the issues in this situation. It has like one classroom. Its not crappy like I'm making it sound, its pretty cutting edge but its a part distance education school so they dont need a crazy amount of space.

 

[sharkbytes]

I agree...everyone needs their alone time, and also time where they can just chill out and relax. But if you're *only* alone time is when you're at school, there might be a deeper issue there. It sounds like your boyfriend is angry because he assumes that this means you don't want to spend time with him, so perhaps he has some insecurities when you're not around? As in, he might irrationally fear losing you if he isn't around 24-7. I'm not sure of course, and I hope this is resolved the best way for *you*.

 

[Beauty Mark]

Have you asked him why going to this school is so important to him?

I basically am trying to figure out if it's just one of those situations where your school is really the best for him or if he is trying to spend every waking hour with you

 

[blindpassion]

Thanks guys, its not that school is my only down time, we have alone time and nights with family and friends because that's healthy. But its the one big activity in my life that we don't do together and I feel its important for me to have it.

Hes going there because he thinks its easier then upgrading at the college itself, but he could easily go to another upgrading school... there's 3 that are close to us.

 

[kaliraksha]

I would with an open mind try to listen to why he chose this school- is it the best of it's kind, is it the most convenient, is it the most affordable, does he have other friends that go there, is he thinking you might be able to help him? All of these, for me, would be valid reasons. If I felt he had a valid reason, I would really find something else to do that is entirely my own. Plus it's more fun to do something on your own that is an interest or hobby that lives on past school. Finding something else again that is entirely yours can be fun and exhilarating.

Or if all else fails you could set some guidelines for when you're both at school.