Child custody- long read- need some advice and peace of mind PLEASE!

[AdlersMommy22]

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[MACATTAK]

Seems like this guy should be in jail for all the underage girls he's been with.

 

[AdlersMommy22]

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Originally Posted by MACATTAK Seems like this guy should be in jail for all the underage girls he's been with.

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[joey444]

I agree with the post above. He should be in jail! I think you DEFINATELY need to get your lawyer involved and make him aware of all the nasty things he's done. Perhaps you can get some of these girls to testify against him??

As a mother of two little girls, my heart goes out to you and I wish you the best of luck.

 

[GlossyAbby]

I would try and get testimonies from these girls. Do you have the messages he sent you when you were pregnant? I would be scared that he would hurt my child b/c of the messages he had sent you.

 

[SkylarV217]

Could you get any of the underage girls to make statements ? Do you have any proof of the texts that he sent you or that he has had nothing to do with you or your child. You should be able to create a pretty strong case and lable him "unfit" and you might be able to avoid joint custody.

 

[NutMeg]

I reallllllly hope you have some sort of record of the threatening messages he left you. A text that shows him wanting the child to die is probably a good way to prevent him from getting custody. I don't know what the parental rights laws are in your area (I'm Canadian) but I have heard that in a few states if a man doesn't make some sort of claim on a child within a certain timeframe he looses paternal rights. Look into it. At the very least you can show a complete lack of interest on his part if you can show that he was aware of the pregnancy and have witnesses that say he's never seen the child/never shown any interest. Hell, make a timeline showing all the things he's said and done. Just try to present the evidence the best way you can. Make sure you and your lawyer are communicating and make sure you trust your lawyer to do a good job. Good luck.

 

[TISH1124]

You need to definitely get a good lawyer and have the lawyer get all this info pulled together about his past and request that if he is granted visitation rights that they must be supervised at all times.

 

[nursee81]

I am so sorry you are going thru this at this point of your life. Definetly get your lawyer involved and try to make a case against him that he is unfit. Do you have any of the messages he left you? Stay strong it will get real ugly but you have to stay strong.

 

[Shimmer]

Speak with an attorney. ASAP. Any advice received from this board could be less than helpful.

 

[AdlersMommy22]

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Originally Posted by Shimmer Speak with an attorney. ASAP. Any advice received from this board could be less than helpful.

Oh trust me I have an attorney. Im paying good money for him too... I got the letter on saturday and Im waiting to hear back from him to see what our next step is....

Legally-- Ive got things under control for the most part- i Just am wondering if anyone else has been through something like this and how it turned out...

And on top of it- everyone on this board is soooo supportive and sweet and I really really appreciate everyone's advice and support... I really ask that everyone pray (in your own way as I know not everyone here is a believer in God

)...that my son is kept safe no matter what happens... I really really only want whats best for him. He is truly the center of my world and just the thought of something horrible happening to him because of neglect just makes me sick...

 

[Shimmer]

See here's the thing, a state is going to say a parent has a right to their child, no matter what, barring any provable action. Saying "he might do..." or "He could do..." isn't going to work because the position he and his attorneys could and likely would take is that the child is his child as well as yours, and he has as much right to parent as you do.
That's a very hard thing for a mother to hear because she's the one who carried the child, but that's a reality a mother has to accept. He may have said things in anger or emotion, but he hasn't DONE anything yet, and may never. If he's had a legitimate and serious change of heart and wants to be a dad, you'll have to accept that.

However, since your child is so young, you'll likely be able to have age related restrictions placed on visitation.


Additionally, please be aware that whatever you post on the internet CAN be found and used against you, particularly anything related to your character and/or your case.

 

[M.A.C. head.]

Do you have any documentation, proof of the things he's said to you and about your son? Emails? Letters? Voice mails?

This is terrible. Even if he wasn't convicted of anything with that girl, I think it can still be brought up in court. Maybe this girl will testify. Make sure the courts know that he wasn't around your son at all until this point. I know my info is probably not helpful but I'm just throwing out what I can think of.

I'm really sorry that this is happening to you. I don't know what all will happen since he is on probation and can't leave his state. I don't think they will make you fly back and forth to take him to see the dirtbag, especially since he's so little. IDK I'm rambling. Best of luck.

 

[rbella]

I don't have any clue what happened, because the posts are gone. But, I do know that your son is your life and I am thinking about you and praying for you to get through this. I'm sorry you are having a tough time. HUGS.

 

[nunu]

I hope you and your son are going to be ok,

 

[AdlersMommy22]

thanks sooo much for all teh support ladies- the reason i deleated my original post is because of what shimmer said. I think she is VERY smart and sometimes I let my emotions run away with me- I shouldnt air my dirty laundry especially in a legal case on a forum board- I would hate to put my son in jeapordy.... I just ask that everyone continue to pray for the two of us and especially for my son that he stays safe and well through the child custody battle I have coming up. Im not nervous at ALL about loseing any kind of custody of him.... I know that would never happen.... Im just nervous about how he will react and how things are going to affect him if his father gets what he wants in the case....

 

[Shimmer]

Those are understandable fears, but you'll have a hard time, I think, of convincing anyone that they're more than fears. :/ Dads have rights to their kiddos too, even if mom doesn't like dad.

Good luck.

 

[TISH1124]

Just continue to Pray...and don't be afraid to Pray...God will hear you and keep you and your son from harm's way if you believe. We will all be praying for both of you as well.