dating coworkers

[kimmy]

one of my coworkers and i were talking the other day and she got in on this teasing me about one of the guys we work with because she thinks he flirts with me. most of the guys we work with flirt alot because i guess that's just how they are, idk but it's cute hahaha. anyways though, it got me thinking about relationships in the work place.

what do you think of dating someone in your workplace?
what about someone who works for the same business, but maybe in a different location/office?
has anyone here ever dated a coworker?
if yes, what was it like?
did you ever talk about your relationship to coworkers?
if it ended, was the breakup weird at work?

tell me your stories! this has been a hot topic for a couple of the girls and i at work, so i want your input too.

 

[MACATTAK]

I've dated a couple co-workers before. It wasn't anything serious, but I've went out on dates with different people from work before. We went out, we had fun & enjoyed it while it lasted. Though I wasn't serious with anyone, if I had been, I think the end result would have been the same...fine. We all acted like adults after it was over. It's not surprising that you would find people you click with at work, since you spend so much time at it. Just a few things to remember if you decide to do it:
1. See if your company has any rule against dating a co-worker. If so, really think about that. My company did not have such a rule.
2. Always be professional about things. Keep your relationship professional at work. Don't be chasing each other around & making gaa gaa eyes at each other all day.
3. Be prepared (especially if people know you are dating, liking each other, seeing each other out of work) for people to be talking about your business. Especially in a work environment, people are going to be talking about it. It's always better to keep that part of your relationship private, and keep out as many people as possible.

 

[user79]

I met my bf at work, and we're still together over 8 years later. It was awkward at first because other people at work are almost part of what's going in the relationship, and I guess it could turn ugly if you break up badly and have to see the person everyday. Depends on the type of work as well, like if it's a very big office where you don't see the person daily, or if you make outcalls, etc. For us it turned out well.

Considering the fact that most people spent a huge part of their lives at work, it's no wonder that's where a lot of couples end up meeting.

 

[a914butterfly]

i once fooled around with my boss (he was married, but he was sooo HOT!). I knew it was a big NO-NO, but i couldnt help my lust for him. Anyway, the sex was HOT, and i loved the extra "favors" i got at work. This affair lasted about a year, but then out of the blue he called it quits (the affair), and it really hurt me to have to see him day after day, wanting him so bad and knowing it was over and i was hurt. It got so bad that i had to look for another job and quit. (thank god it wasnt a very good job or high paying job)
I guess the moral is be carefull, cause if it dont work out, you will be more hurt when you have to see your co-worker everyday.

 

[TIERAsta]

i think if both people involved can agree to be mature about it, there's not harm in dating someone at work. my bf and i met at work... and we've been together now for almost a year and a half (but we no longer work together). i have to admit that at first there were some difficulties in the work environment, not in the way we interacted together, but in reacting to our other co-workers trying to get involved in our own personal business. many of my close friends were co-workers, so some were in the know, but it was those of our co-workers who didn't actually have much of an idea of what was going on with us that made it difficult. and we were fortunate that because neither of us were in a supervisory position, so there were not rules/policies against dating each other. and the cute bonus of being on good terms with the manager that made the schedule was that we were able to work out our schedules to sync with each other, which was awesome cause he didn't drive! my best advice is to agree and work hard to be professional in the work place and be careful of how much detail you share with co-workers, and who you choose to share with!

 

[Raerae]

it's doable..

but it has it's pro's and cons..

I know i spend a lot of time with my girlfriends at work discussing the ups and downs of our relationships. And it's a safe place to do it because i don't really have to worry about it getting back to him. On the other hand, several people (and who knows if they have talked) know a lot about my relationship. So if he worked there, the gossip could get back to him.

You also get the perks of potentially working together. Which is great, until u break up...

I dunno... You spend so much time there that it's easy to meet a guy... But he's alwys gonna be around if the relationship goes up.

Also... Do you really want the other guys at work knowing about how you are in bed?

Just little things to think about...

 

[kimmy]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Raerae Also... Do you really want the other guys at work knowing about how you are in bed?

hahaha one of my friends asked me the other day "would it be wrong of me to date so-and-so?" (he works with her) and i said the same thing to her...'cause you know how dudes, and ladies sometimes, talk.

 

[alien21xx]

I met my current bf at work. It's a bit awkward, because he, my dad, and I are all working in the same company (radically different departments though), and to make it worse, he audits my dad's department. When he is being difficult, my dad calls me to tell my bf to shove off. And then bf will complain in excruciating detail why my dad is wrong. The good thing is they still get along outside of work, and both of them admit that the other is really good at the area where they are working at.

As for talking about the relationship, everyone at work knows about us because we're frequently seen together at office-sponsored event. I don't really talk to my colleagues much about the relationship though, because to us, he is like a complete outsider because there's no interaction between out groups/departments.

So I guess this can work really well.

 

[ILoveMacMakeup]

I met my guy at work. We now live together, have been in a relationship for 3 years and are engaged.

 

[NicksWifey]

I'm not trying to air my dirty laundry, but when I was 18, I had an affair with a married manager who was 45. I know what I did was wrong, so please don't reprimand me for it. That was three years ago and it's been over and he's still doing it with other co-workers today.
It was really interesting and fun and I did get special attention, but when it was over with, things got tense & really bad. He was not the manager of the department I worked in, but another. To this day, we cannot get along and I cannot be alone with him, because I feel like I'm going to knock the shit out of him. I do not trust him because he's a damn rat and last year when I was dating a divorced, single father, I had made the mistake of explaining to him some of the problems we were having. He just grabbed me and kissed me in front of one of my other co-workers and it was totally unnecessary & rude.

There was another co-worker who I had a small fling with. Whenever we were at work, he would totally ignore me. But would send me emails and whenever we went to parties after work, he was all over me. It was all fine and good until he slipped up that he was dating another girl at the same time...so to hell with that!

Just for me, it has not been a good option to date co-workers. That's not to say it wouldn't work for you, but I have to say no to it, because of my past. Best of luck to you!!