Did I do the right thing? HS drama. Sexual content and bad words.

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Classic Beauty

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I feel like I have just ruined like twenty friendships. The names I put on here are made up.

Last friday, my friend (Wendy) and I met four of our other friends (Jessica, Ashley, Ana, and Mindy) at the cheesecake factory for dinner and then we were going to go see Just Friends afterwards.

So when we sit down, Ana starts immediately arguing with Wendy about something so stupid. Wendy was right, but Ana wouldn't back down. Finally, I was just like, "Chill out y'all."

Then we get to talking and my best friend (Brittany) who was grounded came up. Wendy and I had NO participation in this conversation. Well, Brittany and her boyfriend (David) messed around the day before that and he well, popped her cherry (by finger). David used to go out with Mindy, but Mindy cheated on him with her ex-boyfriend (now current boyfriend).
Jessica (who was sworn to secrecy about this) told EVERYONE at the table about this. Only me, wendy, and jessica knew about it.
Ana said, hmm...looks like she knows David really well, but not as well as Mindy.
Mindy says well, he's Brittany's boyfriend. Personally, I think I was a better since I took his virginity.
Then Jessica says, that's a shame. Why does she like him? She could have done better with JM because they're both (the same race). At least David's better than (his older brother). You know. The one that Elise went out with. *Elise is one of Jessica's best friends*

At this point, Wendy and me got really quiet. They went on blabbing about this, but I just tried to tune them out. I was so appalled that they would talk about my best friend, the most sweetest, prettiest, smartest, perfectist girl ever in front of my face. She was good friends with everyone at that table!

So after cheesecake factory, wendy and I ditched them. We were totally pissed! They kept on calling us asking where we were, why did we ditch them, are we mad at them?

AHH!

Ana called Wendy Sunday and told her that she didn't say anything about Brittany at all, that it was just Jessica and Mindy.

So, then on to Sunday. I told my best friend about it. She was way pissed. I mean I dont blame her at all. I sent her what I remembered from the conversation to her myspace titled "Brittany's eyes only." Not knowing what was inside the message, she opened it up, with Elise reading it next to her. Cool....

Monday. Brittany and I went to school. They acted like nothing was wrong and was like trying mess with us by trying to trip us and stuff. Hello! Can't you see the evil scowl we are giving you right now?! Finally they figured it out and sat across the cheer gym looking at us with pissed off looks, even though they didn't know why. Wendy eventually told them.

Tuesday. When Brittany and I were walking out to her car, Jessica comes up to Brittany and says, hey we need to talk. Brittany was like no we dont. Then stupid-a Jessica asks brittany really loudly in the middle of the crowded school if brittany had sex. Brittany, even more furious, says what the hell?! No. Then Jessica goes off crying.

Wednesday (today). Ana tells Wendy that we were saying stuff about brittany too .. IN FRONT OF LIKE 5 people just so people wouldnt think she was like bad. Wendy was having a horrible day too. Luckily, one of our best friends told ana to STFU and buzz off.
This is the final straw for me! I am seriously abou to give Ana a piece of my mind and a knuckle sandwich. The f-ing coward cant take responsibility for her own actions! She is a horrible friend and treats everyone like dirt. She thinks she's the shizz, but she isn't.

Did I do the right thing by telling Brittany that her friends are talking shit behind her back? We both had an agreement to tell each other when people are talking shizz. We've known about it for a while, but this was the final straw. We both cant deal with their lying, backstabbing, boring, ugly, horrible, mean selves.

Or should I have let it slide by and let everyone be "happy" and fake?

I feel bad for Brittany b/c she already has enough going on in her life right now. I mean her mom has bone marrow cancer, her parents are strict as heck, and she always gets caught drinking. But I feel like I have added another thing to her burden.
 

Classic Beauty

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Sorry about the horrible writing. I was writing this really fast. Hope it makes sense, if not then just ask. Thanks.
 

exodus

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Disclaimer: I can say this only because I'm 23 and the specks of memories about high school are all but gone. 'Friend politics' just don't apply to me anymore at this point in my life.

I think you absolutely did the right thing. You stood by your best friend and as far as I'm concerned, that's the best thing you could've done. Imagine if she found out about it from someone else and that you were there as well but didn't let her know. In regards to your other "friends", if they're backstabbing, horrible and mean, you're better off without them anyway (again, I know it's not that easy, but I have the luxury of having it already behind me
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, so for me it's easy to say). Good luck!
 

lovejam

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I agree with exodus' post above. You were 100% right to tell Brittany. She's your best friend, and it's important to be loyal to her.

Just know that all this high school drama tends to stop after high school is over. Most of these girls, once high school is done, you won't see again for years. And by the time you see them again? They'll have either forgotten what the drama was about, or they'll look back and think it was really dumb.
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pushhupsindrag

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i think you totally did the right thing, from experience she would have been madder if she knew you knew and didnt tell her and she is your best friend and you stuck by her, that shows true character.
 

Isis

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I agree with exodus. I'm 25 myself, and have been there and scraped that issue too.
You did the right thing. You're better off without those people.
But hey! Next comes college! And that's a whole new mess of drama & sillyness to look forward too
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You seem like you've got a good head on your shoulders though, so I wouldn't stress over anything too much. Keep making the right decisions and you'll do just fine. Just remember that friends will come & go in life no matter what stage you're at, and along the way you'll find what is most importaint to you. (God that sounds so after-school special :roll: )
 

Pink_minx

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Ah I remember those days in HS! I rather have one friend than a bunch of girlfriends. I mean I dont even have friends anymore except one friend but she lives 7 hours away from me, I usually hang with my bf and my family. Life is much easier and stress, drama free now. sry that that had to happen, but its part of HS life...DRAMA. Its hard finding TRUE friends out there that wont talk crap about you behing your back or about their friends behind their backs. They dont deserve people like you and your best friend.
 

Julie

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Ah I remember those days in HS! I rather have one friend than a bunch of girlfriends. I mean I dont even have friends anymore except one friend but she lives 7 hours away from me, I usually hang with my bf and my family. Life is much easier and stress, drama free now. sry that that had to happen, but its part of HS life...DRAMA. Its hard finding TRUE friends out there that wont talk crap about you behing your back or about their friends behind their backs. They dont deserve people like you and your best friend.

I totally agree with you. The only people I hang around are my bf, sister and a few family members and because I have no other friends I am often looked upon as anti-social when all I want is less drama and no stress. I used to have so called friends when I was in high school and all that ever happened was gossiping about each other. It is really hard to find someone you can truly call your friend. I have been depressed in the past and even sometimes now because every now and then people make me feel uncomfortable for not having any friends but I choose to have only people I geniunely care about and who feel the same for me.
 

dirtygirl

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Originally Posted by exodus
Disclaimer: I can say this only because I'm 23 and the specks of memories about high school are all but gone. 'Friend politics' just don't apply to me anymore at this point in my life.

I think you absolutely did the right thing. You stood by your best friend and as far as I'm concerned, that's the best thing you could've done. Imagine if she found out about it from someone else and that you were there as well but didn't let her know. In regards to your other "friends", if they're backstabbing, horrible and mean, you're better off without them anyway (again, I know it's not that easy, but I have the luxury of having it already behind me
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, so for me it's easy to say). Good luck!


24, so i've been there and done that, too.

and i totally, totally, totally agree with this post.



my best friend today is someone i met in HS, and I wouldn't trade her or our friendship for anything in the world. our friendship lasted through HS and all that other bullshit because we treated each other lik eyou and brittany--with the utmost respect (well, we tried most of the time anyway haha.. no one's perfect!). I don't tolerate people who shit talk about her and she doesn't tolerate it about me. We are each other's biggest advocates (aside from our main squeezes).

If you're lucky, you and Brittany's friendship will also stand the test of time, and it will be due to y'all making the right choices like you did with this incident.

Let the other girls be catty and stupid. You and Brittany know what counts.

Best wishes,
dg
 

Chelly

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just wait till u hit college - you probably wont ever speak to any of those girls again and this will be the most meaningless thing in your life - you'll probably look back on this and be like "why was i makign a big deal out of somethign so stupid!" dont worry huni - things like this'll blow over in a few days
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giz2000

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Girl, I could be your mother! Your post brought back a lot of memories...but you did the right thing by sticking by your friend...don't worry...you'll be out of there soon enough and not have to deal with any of the HS crap anymore...
 

Hawkeye

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I think it would've been done a lot better if you actually picked the phone up and called Britney.

YOu did the right thing though. I can say that as for me, I would've said something right then and there at the table.

Now as for these so called friends-heres the deal with both you and Britney from what you've told us.

Britney has enough shit going on in her life. Does she seriously need this? No.

She and YOU have the choice of who to allow to throw shit at you. You have the power to say, NO you will not be my friend anymore and NO you may be popular but you are too immature for me. So does Britney.

This is the hardest part of High School is the childishness and the kids roaming around doing whatever it is they do. You got to know what to stress over and what not to. I mean seriously your life is not going to end because some stupid fellow 16 (or so) year old is mad at you.

I had to learn this lesson too (I'm 23) and you know it's hard. It sucks but you can do it. Rise, be the better person, but you know don't let them give you any crap. It takes a lot of strength to do what you did (telling your best friend) now you gotta continue your strength and tell your so called friends exactly what you think and let them know your not going to put up with it.

Thats just my opinion.
 

nobella

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u totally did the right thing if people were talking shit about me behind my back i would want to know and im sure brittany feels the same way and why the hell did jessica go off crying after asking if brittany has had sex all i can say is that girl has issues
 

mamadiaspora

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You did the right thing!!! And maybe it would be a good idea, in the interest of harmony and reconciliation, to have a meeting where everyone can apologize and/or speak their mind? I had a similar thing happen to me in my high school and it just dragged on and on and the atmosphere became really bitter and hostile.

I really wish now, in retrospect, that we'd been mature enough to rise above it and worked things out, or at least found a way to remain civil with each other.

In the end, you don't need people who talk about you/your friend like that in your life.
 
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