Don't know what to do..what do you think??

[MaskedBeauty]

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[Rosalie1915]

I didn't mind reading it and, i am so sorry that your in that situation and the boy "drama" involved. I am no expert but i would ask and let your Ex know exactly how you feel . tell him you want him to try to see you through a new light as a new "you". If he still has feelings for he will do it for you!
hope it helped

 

[gildedangel]

I think that you need to break it off with this new guy and start afresh. Sometimes you have to be single for awhile to find yourself and be independent.

 

[moopoint]

If he claims there will always be this "hate" he probably means it. Its not a nice thing to hear, but you witnessed it yourself. He's not over it, and won't ever be. Don't beat yourself up. You're human, mistakes make us grow. This heartbreaking experience will make you a better person.

As for new dude, I don't know him but he's no prize to me. Sounds like he's scoping other options. Which isn't necessarily a bad thing, if you were doing the same. But you are seeking a relationship, at the moment he's not. Let him go. If he wants you, he'll speak up.

 

[user79]

New guy: Dump him. 6 months he's known you and he's still not sure he wants to be together with you? Well, you might be waiting forever. I agree with what someone said, sounds like he's keeping you on the backburner until something better comes along. Next!

Old guy: Forget it - been there, done that. He harbors resentment which may never go away. At least he was honest about it. You probably just miss being in a relationship, but don't get back together with him.

Overall, I don't think either of these guys are worth it. I'd stay single for a while til you find someone who really wants to be with you.

 

[MaskedBeauty]

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[DILLIGAF]

If the old bf cannot see himself forgiving you and says that there will always be a "hate" there I dislike to be the bearer of bad news, but you really should move on. If he can't forgive and forget and move forward, the two of you will NEVER have a good relationship. No matter how much you want this a relationship is a twosided event. With investments from both parties. If you continue to put more into the relationship then the other person you will eventually begin to resent that person.
My other question is why do you need to fill a void? I understand the need to want be with someone else, but IMHO one needs to be comfortable with being alone before they seek someone else out. No one can love you more then you love yourself. Just some food for thought.

 

[mern]

Id honestly break all ties you have with both men. Your ex-ex obviously cant get the past out of his head which to me in my own experience means it dignifys him cheating. The new guy well seems like hes just up for fooling around but nothing serious which is cool but not what you personally want. Id take a step foward and change your number so there is no contact with either of these men. Once you find a new "good" man you'll be like what the hell was I thinking. As well with changing the phone number its good for a new relationship as you dont have those backties and history effin with your shit. I broke up with my ex of 3 years, 2 years ago, sick of his cheating lying ways and I changed my phone number and moved on. Best thing ive ever done in my life. Then again he was very controlling and possessive and would call me constantly so that was a good option for me.

 

[MaskedBeauty]

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