Ex boyfriends...

[Kayteuk]

So the story is, I dated a US marine for 10 months, he lived in VA, i lived in UK. I flew over about 10 times! So once a month! I spent half that time over there with him at least! We broke up in January.... I am meant to be flying back to visit him and get my stuff back, and now he wont email back...Hes emailed back a few times, but I have a feeling his girl is stopping him.

So i sent him this....Was this a wise move??



""

Okay I'm really not sure I can be bothered with Virginia any more.
You were so great to talk to in Thailand, so much fun! I was so extatic about coming and I pretty much forgave you for messing me about with getting my stuff back to me. And now it seems like I'm talking to an unemotional robot who hates me =(.
Ron you think you work hard? I'm in my 1st year of med school, I model or have to do extra activities every day after nearly. On weekend I'm up at 5am to work in a clinic, till 11pm some nights! I don't get a day off very often! And I still find time to email you!
I realise it may be someone influencing you, and telling you "Not to contact me" and this upsets me so much, I always thought you were the one not listening to others, and you were the one telling me not to listen to others?

I tried to prove people wrong, that your not a complete asshole, that you were just "too busy" to respond, and i realise your busy but getting 5 letter responses and blocking my number is a bit stupid, I dont think voicemails cost anything to pick up do they?


And I know you can receive calls even without money on your phone. Remember my friend from T mobile, i got him to check and I can reverse charges back to me.
I don't even get a summer vacation. I get 2 weeks which I'm choosing to come and see you. So you and your weekends of and your big long leave breaks, don't get me started on "I have no time". You have a blackberry too! Arghhh! I would kill to be living your life right now! Im down to about 105lbs, eating nothing cause I am constantly working! So America spent with you I thought was going to be an amazing holiday.

Sorry if I'm seeming a bit annoyed, but I know after asking a few people they would of given up with you about 1 week ago. But hello, I'm Katie, I persevere , I succeed, and I am a damn good at what I do. And yes I email a lot. In hope of a response. Because I have commitment in believing our friendship will work, I have honour by coming back and saying I'm sorry, and trying to be friends. And i have courage coming out to Virginia without any protection and facing the ex love of my life, and wanting nothing more than to have an innocent friendship.
I qued up 5 hours to get you a signed shirt by chelsea, and I also got you a huge bag of malteasers to say sorry for being a bitch these past few months. =( And I really am. And im trying to insanley hard to give this friendship a try, and instead of taking a nap, i am sitting up exhausted and crying because I am scared that I said something wrong to upset you. And I havent cried in a very long long time...I am thinking you must really not be as bothered about this friendship as I thought you were. Which is such a shame. Cause your a nice guy, at times you are quite selfish but i always loved you (As a friend!) for it. And I really do respect you.
I am not angry, more dissapointed and upset you cant take 5 mins to call me, or 5 mins to write back an email.
Dont worry, I havent told Ashley or Amanda, or anyone else. I didnt want them to think bad of you.

I hope you understand how I am feeling. And this is my 10 mins out my day on my PDA on a coffee break I am taking to email you back. So how about that huh? =P
I hope works going better for you than it was last year. I miss you.

Love

A very emotionally drained and exhausted Kate

Ps

Got my clothes for Virginia today, I hope i get to wear them, And please dont write me a moody nasty responce, this is just how I am feeling and in no way is it a personal attack. It may seem that way because of our different values and societies, but in England its a polite email
I sincerly hope you are doing okay. Please tell me a good time to call or something. Or just write something random back.

""


Still........No response, from 4 days ago.

 

[rosenbud]

I think your e-mail was wonderful in getting accross your feelings and so articulate, hang on in there and if you don't get a response just walk away, its his loss.

Is your stuff that you left quite important to you?
If so it might be wise to try to reach him on the telephone, I can find you an overseas access number if you like so that your phone call will not end up costing lots of ££££, just pm me.

Big hug

 

[Kayteuk]

Awww thanks hun! I do have a phone number, but he just sends my call straight through to voicemail. And i kinda get all shakey on the phone! The worst bit is, i still wanna be mates so adly. And i his new girl, well, he appears to influence her a lot!

 

[M.A.C. head.]

He obviously really is just an asshole, and he's not worth the love you have to give.

Just try the best you can to get your stuff back unless it's not really that important or valuable. If it's not just let him keep it. I bet his girlfriend is using /wearing your stuff already.

 

[Kayteuk]

Right now I wish I could strangle him........A few of his friends tell me they often feel similar =P

 

[User93]

*Hugs*

Your email is great, and so are you. I understand how's it like to work and study really hard, and to have lack of sleep, because you wanna talk or be with someone. I sometimes sleep 3-4 hours a day. I love that you're a med student! This is sooo good!

It was my dream to be, but i didnt know chemistry and biology good, plus was a little bit afraid of that to be honest. But you're doing a really great job, i want you to know that

As for this guy.. Do you really need him? And do you really need this friendship? I think sometimes its just better to let it go, and go on living your life. I know its hard at first, and its hard not to call or text or email. But see, his ex is against it now. Ok, lets say he wont give a damn. But one day he will be in the relationship, which he will value more than your friendship. So why hurt yourself? IMO you should get your things back, and just stay neutral with him. Maybe in some time he will contact you himself, and if no, just let it go.

And sorry im a noob, did you mean you went to see him once a month over the ocean frpm UK to the US? Thats impressive.

 

[SkylarV217]

is it possible that at the moment he can't get to the phone or e-mail... with Marines there are times when they simply can't do those things ?

 

[Kayteuk]

Nahh, its just him as per usual... Imagine what our relationship was like =P

Hes probally ignoring my calls. I know him too well..

 

[Kayteuk]

I got through to him on the phone and he screamed like a banchee down the phone at me.
Big lesson today girls, Do it kayte style! Call him and call him until he picks up! Persistance annoys the hell outta anyone =) And it worked!!

 

[iluffyew769769]

I don't think it was a bad move. You needed to say it.

 

[X4biddenxLustX]

Your email was real nice and you got your point across to him. Maybe just a tad bit too nice considering this guy sounds like a complete jerk! I hope that your stuff that he still has isn't really valuable because I definitely wouldn't want to have anything to do with this guy again whatsoever. He's not worth your time. I know you still want to have a civil nice friendship with him but most of the time it's not a good idea to be friends with someone you've broken up with. Theres a reason why that relationship didn't work out in the first place and theres probably alot of hurt too behind it. Its better to just move on and get away from all those negative feelings and thoughts.