Great lover or great love?

[MAC_Pixie04]

A lot of my single friends stay promiscuous (for lack of a better word) because they think that by testing the waters they get to experience the different kinds of lovers (by that I mean sex partners and their styles etc) rather than settle down and fall in love with someone and find out that they aren't the best at sex.

Which would you rather have? The greatest lover or the greatest love?

 

[Simply Elegant]

Well I think the greatest love would be like that and the greatest lover would be a part of that package. Sex is important too but not the most important thing.

Overall though, with the way you defined it, I'd prefer the greatest love.

 

[MAC_Pixie04]

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Originally Posted by Simply Elegant Well I think the greatest love would be like that and the greatest lover would be a part of that package. Sex is important too but not the most important thing. Overall though, with the way you defined it, I'd prefer the greatest love.

Yeah, I get what you're saying. Idealistically, you'd get both. But after the 3 hour debate some of my single friends and attached friends and myself got into, it seems that not everybody thinks you can truly have both, so I guess I'm also just curious to see who else feels that way.

 

[J Art/Cosmetics]

I answered the greatest lover only because that's how I feel at this point in my life, being young and single. Eventually, though, I'd definitely rather have great love.

 

[MACATTAK]

I chose the greatest love, because if the person is worth the work, you can make them into the greatest lover!

 

[NutMeg]

I can't even answer that, because I've got both. My man and I are incredible in bed, and he's probably the love of my life. I'm really happy. Except for the fact that he lives in a different province.

 

[Bonbonroz]

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Originally Posted by MACATTAK I chose the greatest love, because if the person is worth the work, you can make them into the greatest lover!

That's definitely what I think!! Maybe because that's what happened with my husband

He's the best!!

 

[user79]

Great Love, because in my own experience, I've had the best sex with people I've been truly intimate with. Just sleeping with people who may be good in bed, there's no intimacy there.

 

[CaraAmericana]

IF you love them and they love you then you can tell them - This is how you do that to turn me on and this right here what you do does nothing for me.

The absolutely best sex is based on trust and comfortness and be able to speak freely to each other what works and what doesn't.

 

[Jot]

I'd rather have the greatest love, sex is great but its not the B all and end all. There are more times in my life where i'd need someone who was my greatest love rather than just great in bed. Mind you when you get both then yipee!

 

[Hilly]

I'd love both wrapped into one....while holding a bag of mac makeup to give me

 

[Willa]

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Originally Posted by Hilly I'd love both wrapped into one....while holding a bag of mac makeup to give me

You totaly forgot to mention a box of chocolate!!!

 

[Divinity]

I chose the greatest love because there is truly nothing like it and in my experience the greatest love make the greatest lover.

 

[MAC_Whore]

They are not mutually exclusive. The trick is to find your great love who is a great lover!

It does happen. I have 12 years worth of proof on that theory with DH.

 

[karenkillah]

I think when you have great love, it doesn't matter if they're good in bed or not...I would think that the greatest pleasure would be being with the one you love...but then i'm just young and neive

 

[SparklingWaves]

Of course, I chose the greatest love. Having been in love with the same man for more than half my life, I feel very blessed. I wouldn’t have it any other way. Times are not always easy, but I will share why this was my choice.

There are times that I needed his chest to cry on, his hand to hold, for him to be at my side while I was in mourning, to carry me when I couldn’t stand, to listen when I was angry/sad/frightened and to tell me that I wasn’t alone.

I still stare at him across the room and get goose bumps like I did as a teenager. I can’t stay angry with him long, because I can just look into his eyes and feel my heart soften. I still love the sound of his voice. I love to see him look like a little boy when he is sleeping. I still get excited to “go on a date” and hold his hand or just have him put his arm around my shoulders.

The physical part of our union is just the cherry on the cake. I can’t imagine sharing my life with anyone else. I still feel like I am learning new things about him every year we are together. I can only hope and pray we will be together till we leave this Earth.J

 

[labellavita7]

I've had both, and my greatest love was not the greatest lover, but I would go back to him in an instant. Even if he isn't the greatest at sex, being in love makes it that much better, and it just can't be bad.

 

[wolfsong]

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Originally Posted by SparklingWaves Of course, I chose the greatest love. Having been in love with the same man for more than half my life, I feel very blessed. I wouldn’t have it any other way. Times are not always easy, but I will share why this was my choice. There are times that I needed his chest to cry on, his hand to hold, for him to be at my side while I was in mourning, to carry me when I couldn’t stand, to listen when I was angry/sad/frightened and to tell me that I wasn’t alone. I still stare at him across the room and get goose bumps like I did as a teenager. I can’t stay angry with him long, because I can just look into his eyes and feel my heart soften. I still love the sound of his voice. I love to see him look like a little boy when he is sleeping. I still get excited to “go on a date” and hold his hand or just have him put his arm around my shoulders. The physical part of our union is just the cherry on the cake. I can’t imagine sharing my life with anyone else. I still feel like I am learning new things about him every year we are together. I can only hope and pray we will be together till we leave this Earth.J

Thats beautiful SparklingWaves - i love your attitude to life!

 

[CantAffordMAC]

I think its much easier to find a man that can give you great sex than to find a man that can give you the greatest love of your life.

Sex isn't that important to me. Its an important aspect of a relationship, of course. But I'd never take great sex over great love. Nothing can beat the feeling of when you find a person that you truly love more than anything in the world

 

[bebs]

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Originally Posted by SparklingWaves Of course, I chose the greatest love. Having been in love with the same man for more than half my life, I feel very blessed. I wouldn’t have it any other way. Times are not always easy, but I will share why this was my choice. There are times that I needed his chest to cry on, his hand to hold, for him to be at my side while I was in mourning, to carry me when I couldn’t stand, to listen when I was angry/sad/frightened and to tell me that I wasn’t alone. I still stare at him across the room and get goose bumps like I did as a teenager. I can’t stay angry with him long, because I can just look into his eyes and feel my heart soften. I still love the sound of his voice. I love to see him look like a little boy when he is sleeping. I still get excited to “go on a date” and hold his hand or just have him put his arm around my shoulders. The physical part of our union is just the cherry on the cake. I can’t imagine sharing my life with anyone else. I still feel like I am learning new things about him every year we are together. I can only hope and pray we will be together till we leave this Earth.J

thats wonderful, it really made me tear up because I know how that is and its totally true!

I've been with quite a few people before I was with my husband, and there is nothing better then being with somebody you love, with somebody that loves you. making love as cheesy as it sounds is real and I think a lot of people forget that or haven't had that yet.. so maybe don't know what to compare it to.

but I think love.. being with somebody you love is much better then with just a great partner, because they become that with time as it is! remember you should open up and tell them what you like and don't like!

but for me... one and the same, he's the best and I am so happy to have him in my life, and in my bed.