Help reconnecting with an ex lover

[Miss Rose]

This has been killing me for weeks and i think this is the place where I wont get judged...A year ago I went to London to spend the summer with friends and family since I was raised there. Then I met this guy through my moms best friend and we hit it off right away. We would hang out almost everyday. He was such a gorgeous man and his accent killed me lol. We began flirting and hitting on each other from there and briefly talked about being together but i could see he wasnt the long distance type. When I got back we would talk/im all the time and grew closer and closer. He traveled here on business trips with his dad all the time and he would stay with me most of the times. Our relationship grew more and more. His birthday was in september so I decided to take a week break and fly there and we eneded up sleeping together, over and over haha. We stayed in bed for 3 days. I didnt want to ruin the mood so i said my goodbyes without talking about any relationship or anything. He would call me and say he was addicted to me and could see himself being with me so we decided to give it a try. Long distance was getting very hard so we kind of just slipped away from each other and returned to being friends. But it was too late for me i had fallen hard for him. One night i decided to tell him how I felt, I basically poured my heart out to him. Im sure it might have been to early but its how i felt. He kind of freaked at first and then kept saying its just a crush you cant fall in love with me we have only known each other for8 months etc. It was hell

. Everytime we talked since that he would act so cold and hardly talk. This went on for about a month and I asked him why he is being this way. To make it short more arguments and hanging up on each other from there. Then one night I told him that i couldnt talk or see him anymore because I could not take it. He said that he understood and wished me the best and that was it. This was 1 year ago ,but these few weeks he has been haunting my dreams. I cant stop thinking about him. I miss him so much. I really want to become friends with him but im way too scared to call him. I am thinking about sending an email to just let him know im thinking about him or somethig in those lines. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should write?
-and yes I know I am insane

 

[TDoll]

You're not insane! I can understand why this guy is still on your mind...there's nothing wrong with that. And definitely nothing wrong with being curious. I think there is definitely no harm in an email. Just keep it casual..."how are you doing?" , "how is your job going", "just thinking about you"...etc. That way you'll at least get some response back from him without putting yourself out there!

 

[X4biddenxLustX]

It seems like you two definitely had a connection so it's not surprising that you suddenly start thinking about him again out of the blue. But from the way he reacted towards you when poured your heart out to him makes me think he's an ass - no offence! But maybe he was just scared and didn't know how to react since this would of been a long distance relationship?

It sorta seems like you didn't really get much closure when you stopped talking to him a year ago so maybe sending an email would be a good idea. It won't hurt plus you never know. Like TDoll said just keep the talk casual nothing too serious cause thats coming onto him too strong. This reminds me in a way of that saying that if you love someone set them free and if they come back then its meant to be. I wish you the best of luck!

 

[BAMBOOLINA]

I agree with TDoll, just be very ¨casual ¨ with hi, ´til you see his reaction, good luck! and let us know what happened!

 

[knobs]

I would definitely be casual about the way you talk to him in your email. Make it seem like you randomly thought of him and decided to say hello.