Help!

[Lily_Lyla]

I have a lovely boyfriend. I met him in September and we've been together since October 4th.
Life with him is wonderful but there is only one downside. His best friend fancies the pants off him!
His best friend is gay and has a massive thing for my boyfriend. I try not to worry but I just now his best friends absolutely hates the idea of me and to be perfectly honest I'm uncomfortable about how open they are about sexual matters etc. His best friend often goes on about how I can't love my bf and only he does and what he'd like to do to him etc.
I don't know what I should do.

 

[braidey]

You should have a talk with your boyfriend and tell him that their relationship makes you uncomfortable, then ask him to talk to his friend. If it continues have a talk with the friend and demand that he respects you and your relationship with your boyfriend.

 

[laguayaca]

Yes I think that if this relationship is going to last his friend has to respect you! You are now a part of his life and part of being his best friend is also being a friend to you. If he cant understand that your man has to decide: him or you. Definetly talk to your man about what is going on and suggest he talk to him, do let him know that situation and how uncomfortable it makes you feel!

 

[Evey]

this is just my opinion but, you may want to re-evaluate their relationship. I don't know of any straight guy that would like to hear another guy tell him what he would do to him sexually. And if your boyfriend is sharing intimate details with this guy about your sex life, that is very disrespectful. I think you need to let him know that this bothers you and suggest that he do something about it. It just seems really disrespectful to you on both their parts.

 

[Lily_Lyla]

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Originally Posted by Evey this is just my opinion but, you may want to re-evaluate their relationship. I don't know of any straight guy that would like to hear another guy tell him what he would do to him sexually. And if your boyfriend is sharing intimate details with this guy about your sex life, that is very disrespectful. I think you need to let him know that this bothers you and suggest that he do something about it. It just seems really disrespectful to you on both their parts.

I know my boyfriend is straight, but is just stupidly open with all his friends. I'm used to it I guess and I try to not let it worry me. But I'm only human

 

[Babylard]

i second the other girls that you should definitely discuss how you feel with the bf. Issues shouldn't be something that you should just get used to.

If I were you, I'd feel very uncomfortable and maybe a little threatened by this friend. I would not be pleased to hear someone talk about how they would do naughty things to my love, man or woman. Small things like "hey, your boyfriend is hot" end of story is fine. However, I'd actually be quite angry if it is constant worshipping and whatever else the dirty human mind is capable of.

BAck off, my man (or woman if I ever decide to swing that way)!

 

[_trimm_trabb]

That's not cool. My fiance's best friend is a (straight) girl, but I wouldn't be okay with her sitting there talking about all the things she'd like to do to/with him! That's just not okay...you wouldn't put up with that behaviour if the friend was a girl!

 

[lovelyweapon]

I think you should look at this exactly the same way as if that best friend were female. Would your boyfriend allow this girl to tell you the things she wants to do to him? Would your bf allow her to get in between the relationship? As Evey mentioned above, I find it a bit disrespectful and even though your bf may love you a lot he may just not realize what he is doing. Maybe he feels uncomfortable confronting his friend. It could be a variety of things and the only way to find out is by discussing it with him.

Most definitely the only way to resolve this is if your bf does something about it and takes matters into his own hands, so talk to him and make sure you let him know how serious this matter is to you! Good luck sweetheart!

 

[faithhopelove24]

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Originally Posted by Evey this is just my opinion but, you may want to re-evaluate their relationship. I don't know of any straight guy that would like to hear another guy tell him what he would do to him sexually. And if your boyfriend is sharing intimate details with this guy about your sex life, that is very disrespectful. I think you need to let him know that this bothers you and suggest that he do something about it. It just seems really disrespectful to you on both their parts.

It's just my opinion but some flags should be going off here about this whole situation. And I know you said you don't care but isn't it hard to be intimate with someone when you know that what goes on won't be kept between the two of you?