darkishstar
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So last night while I was PMS-ing. I haven't talked to my bf for about 3 days. 2 of the days was because I didn't feel the need too. But then I got annoyed by Saturday with zero contact other than a few texts.. and Sunday... sent him a "We have to talk." And yeah.. I got mad at him for not calling me. Because before we did have a problem with him not calling me and me always having to call him. And we managed to compromise on that. And we were going good for a month.
But then he started telling me.. "Oh, it's not working out. We better just end it." What the hell? the most we talk is once a day. Sometimes not even and we live about 40 minutes apart. I know I'm not being smothering, I'm asking him to give a damn about me. I don't want to know where he is 24/7, I let him hang out with his friends whenever he wants... I told him.. "This is something not worth breaking up over." And I just apologized for about 2 hours because I really shouldn't have gotten mad over us not talking for one night. I said we can fix this. He just keeps saying.. "I don't want to. I don't want to deal with this. I really hate drama." Then he brought up something about our relationship almost ending in the beginning and how it started on a bad note in the first place. I didn't even know what he was talking about, but then yeah, I remembered it was when he visited me the first time and I was trying to get all of us, me, him, and my friends to go to a party.
Basically what happened then was... the party and my friends were all over the place... we tried for an hour to follow them.. lost them... and he said he basically felt like he was my chauffeur and that it seemed like I wanted to hang out with my friends more than him... because he came all the way down just to see me. And.. yeah.. I know I was wrong then. But he brought it up.. and I didn't even think we were in danger of breaking up at that time. I was like.. "Why didn't you tell me if you didn't even forgive me then or accept my apology. It's not fair to me." That when I apologize now he says.. "It's too late." or "This is just going to keep bothering you."
He doesn't give me options. I want to fix things, he just hard-headedly says "No, it just won't work out." It's like there is nothing I can do about this. We just hit 3 months just yesterday. Everything was going fine, he was texting me good night.. sweet dreams.. he missed me.. he loves me. That was just 2 days ago! And all of a sudden he has this change of heart because I mentioned something.
And he has a final this Thursday. Maybe he's just stressed out?
I just kept asking him if he loved me... like.. if he meant it or anything, what he said before. He just kept saying.. "I don't know." I was like.. "You're really saying that then? Just straight up your feelings can change just because I bring up something like this, and I apologized." And he's like.. "Well, yeah, people's feelings can change really fast."
I don't know... basically at the end of the whole argument, we're not broken up, but he said he needs space.
So what the hell am I supposed to do? I'm not going to call or contact him, but the whole thing just seems really weird. It's like.. all of a sudden... And we wouldn't have been distance anymore just in two weeks when we both got back to school. He even said.. "I probably won't see you that much in the fall, since of rushing and everything I have to do with the frat and stuff."
And the whole like.. this ending right at three months it's like.. he was only here for the honeymoon period or something, in the new relationship. None of his other relationships have lasted past 2 or 3 months. It just.. I don't know.. I really love him. And everything.. but it just... maybe he's just too immature and just not ready for a relationship. Things just get a little difficult and he wants out. But I think this is such a silly thing to end things on. Over a damn phone call...
Yeah.. I just want some advice or something...
But then he started telling me.. "Oh, it's not working out. We better just end it." What the hell? the most we talk is once a day. Sometimes not even and we live about 40 minutes apart. I know I'm not being smothering, I'm asking him to give a damn about me. I don't want to know where he is 24/7, I let him hang out with his friends whenever he wants... I told him.. "This is something not worth breaking up over." And I just apologized for about 2 hours because I really shouldn't have gotten mad over us not talking for one night. I said we can fix this. He just keeps saying.. "I don't want to. I don't want to deal with this. I really hate drama." Then he brought up something about our relationship almost ending in the beginning and how it started on a bad note in the first place. I didn't even know what he was talking about, but then yeah, I remembered it was when he visited me the first time and I was trying to get all of us, me, him, and my friends to go to a party.
Basically what happened then was... the party and my friends were all over the place... we tried for an hour to follow them.. lost them... and he said he basically felt like he was my chauffeur and that it seemed like I wanted to hang out with my friends more than him... because he came all the way down just to see me. And.. yeah.. I know I was wrong then. But he brought it up.. and I didn't even think we were in danger of breaking up at that time. I was like.. "Why didn't you tell me if you didn't even forgive me then or accept my apology. It's not fair to me." That when I apologize now he says.. "It's too late." or "This is just going to keep bothering you."
He doesn't give me options. I want to fix things, he just hard-headedly says "No, it just won't work out." It's like there is nothing I can do about this. We just hit 3 months just yesterday. Everything was going fine, he was texting me good night.. sweet dreams.. he missed me.. he loves me. That was just 2 days ago! And all of a sudden he has this change of heart because I mentioned something.
And he has a final this Thursday. Maybe he's just stressed out?
I just kept asking him if he loved me... like.. if he meant it or anything, what he said before. He just kept saying.. "I don't know." I was like.. "You're really saying that then? Just straight up your feelings can change just because I bring up something like this, and I apologized." And he's like.. "Well, yeah, people's feelings can change really fast."
I don't know... basically at the end of the whole argument, we're not broken up, but he said he needs space.
So what the hell am I supposed to do? I'm not going to call or contact him, but the whole thing just seems really weird. It's like.. all of a sudden... And we wouldn't have been distance anymore just in two weeks when we both got back to school. He even said.. "I probably won't see you that much in the fall, since of rushing and everything I have to do with the frat and stuff."
And the whole like.. this ending right at three months it's like.. he was only here for the honeymoon period or something, in the new relationship. None of his other relationships have lasted past 2 or 3 months. It just.. I don't know.. I really love him. And everything.. but it just... maybe he's just too immature and just not ready for a relationship. Things just get a little difficult and he wants out. But I think this is such a silly thing to end things on. Over a damn phone call...
Yeah.. I just want some advice or something...
