I hate Valentines Day.

[bettiecracka]

It's sad when you're married and Valentines Day doesn't mean a thing to you. Before my husband and I got married, we celebrated these things. This year he couldn't even get me a cheap card and he didn't get one for my birthday, either. I'm depressed. I hate these kind of holidays.

 

[amandamakeup]

same here. he didnt get me anything, but its ok.I didnt get him anything either. I could really care less about valentines day!

 

[kiwicleopatra]

Me too

 

[user3]

awww...that's sad. I am sorry

I'm not a bit V-day person and we tend to exchange more personal gifts. Not like naughty things (well ok yeah that too

)but stuff like I like my hair played with, foot rubs, etc...

 

[theleopardcake]

my v day was crap too. (but it didn't have anything to do with the lack of a male)

 

[jasper17]

My husband is the same way except he's always been that way and doesn't celebrate any holidays or birthdays. It sucks because it's kind of nice to be recognized or feel loved once in a while.

 

[Eye<3Colour]

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Originally Posted by jasper17 My husband is the same way except he's always been that way and doesn't celebrate any holidays or birthdays. It sucks because it's kind of nice to be recognized or feel loved once in a while.

mine is the same way. we've been together 5 years and ive gotten flowers like twice. and thats because i told him to get them. how romantic right!! lol im use to it, so its not really a big deal anymore. but i do know how your feeling. his excuse is i can have whatever i want any time of the year, why should a certain day make it a big deal.. whateva!!

 

[exodus]

I've always hated Valentine's Day. It's also my birthday, so as a teenager none of my so-called friends were ever available for my birthday party, seeing as there are more pressing issues on the day. So for me, Valentine's Day officially doesn't exist. I don't get flowers (I don't like them anyway), but I get birthday gifts instead hehehe.

 

[bettiecracka]

I think I'm just used to what my parents do for "holidays" like Valentines. They've been married for 36 years and act like they're still dating. There's a lot of love there and they are always expressing how much they love each other in many ways. I've only been married 3 years and I feel like things are getting worse every day. My husband sometimes makes me feel guilty though for talking to him, saying how I really feel.

 

[lovemichelle]

I've always loved Valentines Day. My boyfriend and I just decided to get each other cards this year because we didn't have the money to waste on big gifts and whatever. His card was so beautiful and he wrote a whole page inside which was so sweet. He always draws me things too( see pic below).. We actually had a little arguement earlier in the day, but nothing major and we made up and later on made some good valentines day love.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v2...i/IMG_1054.jpg

 

[Beautiful1]

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Originally Posted by bettiecracka I think I'm just used to what my parents do for "holidays" like Valentines. They've been married for 36 years and act like they're still dating. There's a lot of love there and they are always expressing how much they love each other in many ways. I've only been married 3 years and I feel like things are getting worse every day. My husband sometimes makes me feel guilty though for talking to him, saying how I really feel.

You Should Never Feel Guilty About Expressing Yourself To Your Husband! Have You Thought About Maybe Getting Some Counseling?

 

[msthrope]

i think everyone should give risa's LJ a read. it gives a refreshing perspective on the day.

 

[bAbY_cHiCkEn01]

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Originally Posted by bettiecracka I've only been married 3 years and I feel like things are getting worse every day. My husband sometimes makes me feel guilty though for talking to him, saying how I really feel.

To me it's just another day, yea I looooove nothing more than to receive small gifts and romantic things but really, why should you spend so much money on the day when theres another 364 days to spend showing somebody that you love them and that you care... to me it's sorta wrong but my girlish ways get the better of me sometimes...

And Bettie, no man should EVER make you feel like that, I hate to say but he's mean, selfish and sadly, you'd probably be better off without someone who treats you like that... that's really awful, you deserve better hun!

 

[Pei]

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Originally Posted by bettiecracka It's sad when you're married and Valentines Day doesn't mean a thing to you. Before my husband and I got married, we celebrated these things. This year he couldn't even get me a cheap card and he didn't get one for my birthday, either. I'm depressed. I hate these kind of holidays.

I'm not married yet but I've been with my Bf for 7 yrs and I can kinda relate to how u feel.

Oh yes, me kinda hate Vday too! Technically speaking,it's a meaningless day for me BUT I always fail to ignore the stupid so-called love atmosphere created by the retailers & media. On Vday, most of us tend to expect/demand more from our partner and that sucks.

It worsen the day and worsen the relationship with ur hubby.

Vday is WAY too commercialised and don't take it too seriously.
Be glad that ur partner loves u with all his heart and is always nice to u on the non vdays! Vday=1day Non vday=364days!

Cheer up!

 

[Leana]

I Hate Valentines Day! My husband of almost 13 years always make me fell like crap. I had the worst Valentin's day ever. He usually get me flowers and sometimes we go out, but the whole time he expressed how he was pressured into do those things for me. It make me feel like he doest want to do anything for me at all. So I feel like crap. I'm made to feel guilty because I do want to give him something. This year he mad feel like crap and he did not get me nothing. No flowers no dinner not even a happy Valentine day kiss. Not asking for an arm and a leg. I just want to feel like he wants to get me something or I just want to feel special. At lest he could shut up about valentines days. Ok so he don't want someone else to tell him how to express his love for me. Fine. He sat there yelling at the stupid TV saying you know what getting my wife NOTHING Ha! RRRRRRRRR I'm not going on face book today.Just to read what all the husbands had done for there wives. I don't want to read all the gooey mush stuff. The thing is my husband is a great guy. He really is. He is a hard worker, fantastic father. It just annoys me sometimes he puts the kids first. He bought our kids valentines. He dose every year. Never gripes that he buys them valentines. Isn't valentines day the one Holiday that is meant for us adults. As I'm typing I'm crying. I just cant stop. O well I will get over it. I mean after we got married I took me 3 freaking years to get him to acknowledge my birthday. I just don't understand men. If you love some one why would you not want to do something for them. Even if its just offering to cook dinner.Ok I'm shutting up now.

 

[RealDoll]

I tihnk you should take this day to spoil yourself and perhaps a lil splurge will help...I know that always helps me when I feel this way

I Hate Valentines Day! My husband of almost 13 years always make me fell like crap. I had the worst Valentin's day ever. He usually get me flowers and sometimes we go out, but the whole time he expressed how he was pressured into do those things for me. It make me feel like he doest want to do anything for me at all. So I feel like crap. I'm made to feel guilty because I do want to give him something. This year he mad feel like crap and he did not get me nothing. No flowers no dinner not even a happy Valentine day kiss. Not asking for an arm and a leg. I just want to feel like he wants to get me something or I just want to feel special. At lest he could shut up about valentines days. Ok so he don't want someone else to tell him how to express his love for me. Fine. He sat there yelling at the stupid TV saying you know what getting my wife NOTHING Ha! RRRRRRRRR I'm not going on face book today.Just to read what all the husbands had done for there wives. I don't want to read all the gooey mush stuff. The thing is my husband is a great guy. He really is. He is a hard worker, fantastic father. It just annoys me sometimes he puts the kids first. He bought our kids valentines. He dose every year. Never gripes that he buys them valentines. Isn't valentines day the one Holiday that is meant for us adults. As I'm typing I'm crying. I just cant stop. O well I will get over it. I mean after we got married I took me 3 freaking years to get him to acknowledge my birthday. I just don't understand men. If you love some one why would you not want to do something for them. Even if its just offering to cook dinner.Ok I'm shutting up now.

 

[cutemiauw]

I have to say, my husband also not the classic romantic type either. He never got me flowers, gifts... the only time he ever did was when we had a fight

. Over time, though, I realized that he had a different way of pampering me, of telling me that he cared a lot for me. It's the little things like he always would go shopping with me if I asked him, or the way he would remember getting my favorite little snacks when he goes grocery shopping. He would put up with my pms tantrums without complaining, carry the heavy bags from the shopping.
There won't ever be something like breakfast in bed in my house, but I know he loves me and he always tries to give his best for me ♥

My point is, maybe he already did something special for you and we didn't realize it... Happens to me a lot at the beginning of our relationship (and now too, from time to time

).


PS: We've been together for 10 years and married for 7.

 

[User38]

Cutie.. you are so cute and frankly it is amazing you have been married that long

you look so young!

Lean.. I can feel your pain thru the monitor.. I can sense that you feel a bit neglected by your husband.. and as a woman you need affirmation of his love and his attention. What you are feeling is totally normal and is to be expected.

That said.. don't feel bad.. go out and buy yourself something lovely, get a facial, a mani/pedi.. something for yourself only and then tell him that you gave yourself whatever you did or bought, and that you are telling him and thanking him, cause he will pay for it. Men can very stupid sometimes.. and you have to kind of throw ice water in the crotch for them to understand. Just do it and don't feel guilty.

I miss my husband, particularly today.. first Valentines Day we are not together or doing something special.. but he passed on and left me here to keep fighting the good fight.

you go girl.. and keep that chin up.

HAPPY VALENTINES TO ALL -- MARRIED, SINGLE, WIDOWED OR STILL LOOKING.!!

 

[ElvenEyes]

It always make me sad to see others sad or feeling neglected on Valentine's Day. Heck, I am in my pj's with cramps and hubby is at work. How romantic is that? lol This is where we learn a valuable lesson, I think. Don't count on others to make your day special. Make it special for yourself and pamper yourself. Put a little bit of money aside and go out a few days before and buy yourself flowers. This way you can get anything you want and what you want! Wear some special perfume, put on a red or pink sweater, heart jewelry, pink and red makeup or lipstick, some pretty nail polish. Watch a romantic movie that makes YOU feel good, not bad or resentful. If someone gifts you flowers, chocolates or gives you a card, then that it the cherry on top. If you are really mad still, be sure you have bought your loved one something and if they don't return the gesture, say it out plain. "Nothing for Valentine's Day? That wasn't very thoughtful!" Let them wallow in it and maybe learn a lesson...that you want to feel EXTRA special on that day.

Today I am in pink jammies. I did my nails in Princesses Rule, by Opi and have Vera Wang Princess perfume on, plus soft pink blush and a pretty rosy Lancome l/s. I am reading Possession and watching The Tudors, season 1. At lunch hubby and I had some chocolates for dessert. There are some roses and mixed flowers in a vase downstairs. That is our Valentine's Day. He is grouchy with work and I am overtired. We will do something special like eat at our favourite Chinese later this week on a day that is good for both of us. He is stressed out with work and holidays are the last thing on his mind. I can tell. He loves chocolate and he doesn't even care right now! So life goes!

A Happy and Sweet Valentine's Day to everyone on the forum. Make it special. Make it yours!

 

[rockin]

In the 17 years I was married, my husband never bought me a Valentines card or gift, he didn't and still doesn't believe in buying/giving Christmas cards or presents, or even birthday cards or presents. Just once, on our 5th wedding anniversary, he bought me a bunch of flowers, and on that occasion he laid a trail of torn up bits of paper around the house for me to follow and find the flowers.

The thing that upset me most, though, was that our first child was born shortly before Mothers Day, and I made lots of comments to him about it being my first ever Mothers Day as a Mum (hinting heavily), yet still he didn't think to get me a card. Any other Mothers Day it wouldn't have bothered me, but you only get your first Mothers Day once! Oh, and I was the only new Mum in the hospital not to get a bunch of flowers and a balloon from her husband or partner Some men are just so thoughtless

I did get a Valentines card from my daughter today, though, same as I do every year