I need Advice bad.

[de-lovely]

Well any advice would be greatly appreciated on this subject. This guy I used to go to school with in Grade 9 asked me to be his Grad escort this year so I said ok. I haven't seen him since I moved after Grade 9 but I still have some friends there. Everything was fine but now he's acting really creepy and people are telling me they've heard rumors that he plans on forcing me to have sex with him after Grad and that he rented a hotel room and everything. Im really scared but I dont know how to tell my mom so I wont have to go. I mean this Grad is 17 hours away from where I live in the first place. And I was complaining to her the other day cause I thought he was crying on the phone with me lol. This whole thing is making me sick to my stomach and I dont want to go at all bc Im not a whore and I dont want to get raped or something. He won't have a real date if I don't go either...just a stand-in girl but really Im very very scared.How do I convince my mom to let me stay home??
Thanks.

 

[Janice]

Hey honey, you need to understand that you need to do what's best for you NOT him. too bad if he doesn't have anyone to go with! You're going somewhere that is completely unfamiliar and out of your element. The information you received is genuinely SCARY! As a woman you need to be able to recognize these types of situations and avoid them. Let your mom know what you heard, she will make sure you're protected from him.

 

[Hawkeye]

darlin,
if you are scared, and people are telling you this stuff, you should take it as a warning, tell your mom and flat out refuse to go.
End of story.
do not take your chances with this guy

 

[MissMarley]

don't go. don't take the chance. just tell your mom what you've been told and stay far away from this guy.

 

[ChynaSkye]

there is no reason to go if it going to be an unpleasant trip especially a scary one... trust your heart and dont go. your safety is the most important thing.

 

[lara]

DO. NOT. GO.

Tell your mother that you have extremely strong concerns for your personal safety, and tell her why. Even if it's just scuttlebutt gossip, it's still scary and you don't wish to take that chance.

I would also get in contact with his stand-by date as well and tell her everything. God knows what he might be planning to do with her in the event that you aren't there.

 

[Lalli]

Dont go those sort of rumors cant be a joke, better to be safe than sorry, just explain to your mum and im sure she'll understand. who cares if he doesnt have a date, your safety is more important

 

[giz2000]

Don't go...follow your gut instinct and go with that....just tell him that you can't go anymore and leave it at that...and you're right....he's creepy. Too bad for him if he doesn't have a date...

 

[Jaim]

Don't go!! Tell your mom that you just changed your mind!

If he intends to take advantage of you (or anyone else for that matter), he doesn't deserve a real date and he doesn't deserve your time and effort.

 

[bAbY_cHiCkEn01]

Tell your mom the truth... after she hears what you've told us, she will NOT let you go... If for any reason you feel even the slightesy bit anxious or "scared" thast your gut telling you that you know it could go horribly wrong. Listen to yourself and tell you mom everything you've heard.

 

[coachkitten]

I agree that you should not go. If you don't feel right about it then it is something that you should really think twice about. PLEASE DO NOT GO. It is better to do what you think is best than worry about hurting his feelings. Please tell your mom and don't go!!!

 

[MAC_Whore]

Please listen to all of these posts. These ladies are giving you great advice.

I once saw an article on a TV show that talked about the fact that so many women are afraid of being impolite or perceived as rude that they wind up getting into dangerous situations with strange men. For example: a man asking for directions, a women feeling obligated to help despite her internal warnings, and then being abducted. Listen to your internal warnings. Think about your safety. Period.

So you may hurt his feelings. So what. What is more important? Him feeling OK and possibly hurting you or you feeling OK and being safe?

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Originally Posted by de-lovely .....How do I convince my mom to let me stay home??...

I am sure that if you tell your mom, she will absolutely not want you to go. And hey, if your mom is worried about you keeping an obligation or thinks you are imagining all of this and tells you to go, ignore her. Do not leave that house. Don't put on a dress, don't put on makeup, just don't go.

 

[de-lovely]

Thank you all for your help!! I didn't think my mom would actually believe me but she did and now I don't have to go...thank god! Seems odd that my first post here is asking for advice haha but I swear I'm just a bad poster...I'm more a looker at posts. Thank you all again!!=)

 

[MAC_Whore]

Good for you! I am proud of you for facing a difficult situation. Well done!

 

[coachkitten]

I am happy that you told your mom as well! I think that you made the right decision and I, for one, am proud of you!

 

[Hawkeye]

Good Job!