NutMeg
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So I think I've mentioned before that I'm in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend and I started dating in March '05, when we still lived in the same town. He moved to another town an hour away when we'd been dating for a few months. We continued to do that until November '06. I know that it wasn't very far at the time, but we were only sixteen when he moved so it made things pretty difficult. We ended up breaking up in November because of a number of problems (which I think I've written about in more detail elsewhere) in addition to the fact that he was moving to another province. Basically, neither of us was ready for how serious we were becoming and he was being pretty insensitive and immature about how he treated me. He was gone for that winter and we didn't have a whole lot of contact until he moved back in April '07. We started hanging out and began the slow process of getting back together. I had a lot of trust issues relating to the way he handled things before we broke up, so we took it pretty slow.
I was in my last year of high school when he moved back, and the plan had been both before we broke up and while we were apart for me to move to Vancouver (We're from Alberta) for university. So essentially while we were getting back together the cloud of even more long distance was hanging over our heads, but we decided to try and see how things went. We did this with the assumption that he would move out here to Vancouver this fall (Sept '08). We made it through the year which was extremely difficult and painful but now we're looking forward to it being over. I've been planning for him to be here this fall, looking for apartments, etc when a few days ago we/he come to the realization that as far as his education and financial situation go, it would be way better for him to stay in Alberta. And now I'm faced with the prospect of doing this for another year.
It's so devastating, because now my life plan for the next couple years has just been thrown out the window. My living situation for next year is up in the air... I'm so stressed out and upset, and it's finals right now! I can't concentrate enough to study properly, but I really have to. And more than that, this morning I realized something about his job situation that he hadn't figured out, and I won't be able to see him for weeks after I move back home for the summer (I'm moving back on the 28th and I thought I'd see him on the 30th). I'm just so angry and unsure of what I should do. I feel like none of this is his fault enough to justify my being angry with him, but it's just enough that I'm furious. I'm so tired because I took such a heavy course load this semester and I volunteered for too many things. I haven't seen him in a month, and now I won't for almost another month when I've been expecting and counting down for less than two weeks from now. Anyone whose been in a ldr knows that you just focus on the next good thing, the next time you see him, the next time you talk to him, when it's all going to be over, and I feel like two of the big things that were giving me hope and strength have just been torn away from me.
I'm so devastated and worn down. I know that I want to be with him for the long term, and I know that what we have is really special. It's just so hard because we want to be together so badly, but life and it's responsibilities keep getting in our way. We keep making decisions so that when we finally are together, our life will be as good as possible, but it's killing us in the here and now. I want him, but I don't what this. I hate the distance and what it does to us, but I feel like our relationship itself right now is the best its ever been. I just don't know what to do, or how to find the strength to get through the next couple weeks until exams are done, and then the next month until I see him, and then the next year until we're together.
I truly love this man. He is so good to me, he is supportive of my education and my choices, he respects and cares for me, he knows me so well, he makes me feel talented and beautiful, and being around him makes me so happy. Getting a text from him makes me day, hearing his voice when I wake up makes getting out of bed worthwhile. I don't want to be without him, but I have no choice.
Sorry this is so long. I just need to vent about my feelings. Some support would be great, and maybe some advice from others that have been in a ldr. Thanks ladies, and gents.
I was in my last year of high school when he moved back, and the plan had been both before we broke up and while we were apart for me to move to Vancouver (We're from Alberta) for university. So essentially while we were getting back together the cloud of even more long distance was hanging over our heads, but we decided to try and see how things went. We did this with the assumption that he would move out here to Vancouver this fall (Sept '08). We made it through the year which was extremely difficult and painful but now we're looking forward to it being over. I've been planning for him to be here this fall, looking for apartments, etc when a few days ago we/he come to the realization that as far as his education and financial situation go, it would be way better for him to stay in Alberta. And now I'm faced with the prospect of doing this for another year.
It's so devastating, because now my life plan for the next couple years has just been thrown out the window. My living situation for next year is up in the air... I'm so stressed out and upset, and it's finals right now! I can't concentrate enough to study properly, but I really have to. And more than that, this morning I realized something about his job situation that he hadn't figured out, and I won't be able to see him for weeks after I move back home for the summer (I'm moving back on the 28th and I thought I'd see him on the 30th). I'm just so angry and unsure of what I should do. I feel like none of this is his fault enough to justify my being angry with him, but it's just enough that I'm furious. I'm so tired because I took such a heavy course load this semester and I volunteered for too many things. I haven't seen him in a month, and now I won't for almost another month when I've been expecting and counting down for less than two weeks from now. Anyone whose been in a ldr knows that you just focus on the next good thing, the next time you see him, the next time you talk to him, when it's all going to be over, and I feel like two of the big things that were giving me hope and strength have just been torn away from me.
I'm so devastated and worn down. I know that I want to be with him for the long term, and I know that what we have is really special. It's just so hard because we want to be together so badly, but life and it's responsibilities keep getting in our way. We keep making decisions so that when we finally are together, our life will be as good as possible, but it's killing us in the here and now. I want him, but I don't what this. I hate the distance and what it does to us, but I feel like our relationship itself right now is the best its ever been. I just don't know what to do, or how to find the strength to get through the next couple weeks until exams are done, and then the next month until I see him, and then the next year until we're together.
I truly love this man. He is so good to me, he is supportive of my education and my choices, he respects and cares for me, he knows me so well, he makes me feel talented and beautiful, and being around him makes me so happy. Getting a text from him makes me day, hearing his voice when I wake up makes getting out of bed worthwhile. I don't want to be without him, but I have no choice.
Sorry this is so long. I just need to vent about my feelings. Some support would be great, and maybe some advice from others that have been in a ldr. Thanks ladies, and gents.
