tokyo_juliet
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Here's another rant (sorry, it's long again) about my two nephews from my previous post that I made (I tried to find it, but I think it got deleted, otherwise I would of posted it up on here too). I'm really tired of what I'm having to deal with right now and I need some of your advices and opinions on how to handle this. Since I also know there's a lot of women on this board who are way more experienced with this kind of stuff than I am.
Here's my rant: My older sister and her two kids (who are my two nephews that I was talking about earlier) have moved into our house, and they're now living with my family. My sister and her husband are separated due to the husband being a jerk to her so that's why she packed up and came to live with us. She and her kids have no where else to live, and I understand that. But as I said in my earlier post, my two nephews (reminder: one is 8 yrs old and the other is only 3 yrs) don't listen to anyone or behave themselves when they're told. The 3-year-old, I can let off since he doesn't know much yet, but the 8-year-old is really rude, obnoxious, and is really pissing me off with his catty attitude. Just earlier today he was yelling at the 3-year-old non-stop when I told him to be quiet. Not even one minute later, he starts screaming again at the 3-year-old and once again, I told him to be quiet about 5 more times. He wouldn't stop or even care much to listen to me. I was so angry that I was on the verge of cussing at them two. I can't stand being around these kids. So then, I got sick of it and told my two nephews to go down into the basement so they can scream at each other if they want and I wouldn't have to hear it so much since I would be upstairs. Well, the 8-year-old got mad at me for telling him to do that and then after awhile, my mom tells him to come upstairs because it was time for him to go to sleep. Then as he comes up the stairs, he says in a haughty voice, "see....i knew i shouldn't have gone downstairs!" at me. And me with my hot temper, I yelled back at him saying he deserved to go downstairs for not listening to me at all. I never hit my two nephews. So they basically get off easily whenever they do something. This was one of the first times I even told my 8-year-old nephew to do something like go stay down in the basement. I mean damn, my mom and I tell him to be quiet so many times but it's like he always has to go back to screaming and running around the house. For the running around the house part, it's not just running, it's literally running and laughing out loud. So at the same time, you hear pounding and laughing and after this goes on for awhile, you just want to pull your hair out. He's so loud. Also, if you tell him to stop jumping on the couch or to stop screaming at the 3 year old, he would say "oooooooookay....." and then go back to doing the same thing a few seconds later. I think I know why he always does that because he knows that if he's behaving badly like that then he'll just get a simple "stop it" or "be more quiet", so that's why he never listens. My dad also told me that if I ever did feel like hitting them, to don't ever hit my nephews. ^_^;
Plus, he even cries almost every morning because he's too lazy to get up to go to school. I'm totally fed up with him.
Then, as if things aren't already bad enough with the 8 year old, the 3 year old is just about as bad. He's spoiled. If he doesn't get what he wants, he'll start to cry and fall down on the floor, crying even louder than before. And then their mom who is my older sister, is so annoying towards me. I can't stand her. I've stopped talking to her for about a year now, but she bothers me non-stop. I'm also sick and tired of her bs. She knows I DO NOT like her and that I want her to just leave me alone, but she still tries to get on my nerves. Even after she bothers me, I still don't talk to her. Reason being that she said a load of hurtful words to me in the past, repeatedly. She lowered my self-esteem so badly and just wouldn't stop it with putting me down and all.
I wrote a lot. So I'll be happy if anyone actually read all of this and still can give me advice on how to handle this situation. I'm worn out from those three, and just want my peaceful life back. On some days, I don't even want to go home anymore after I'm done with school. I just want to go to some place quiet where I can sit alone without hearing all the drama and having to deal with it everyday. Seriously, this is really taking a toll on my attitude too. I get so pissed at my sister and my two nephews sometimes that I basically have to take everything in and then when I can't hold it in anymore, I become cold towards other people. I'm becoming more and more bitter towards my nephews everyday because I can't stand being surrounded by them, especially my sister.
Am I overreacting? Is this how kids are supposed to act like? How am I supposed to deal with this stuff when my attitude is getting cranky too?
P.S. - i guess you can say that we don't discipline my two nephews. they're not my kids so i can't discipline them or tell them what to do much. i would if i could. my sister barely disciplines them and like i said before, she usually just hits them more than she explains things to them. i don't know what to do anymore.
Here's my rant: My older sister and her two kids (who are my two nephews that I was talking about earlier) have moved into our house, and they're now living with my family. My sister and her husband are separated due to the husband being a jerk to her so that's why she packed up and came to live with us. She and her kids have no where else to live, and I understand that. But as I said in my earlier post, my two nephews (reminder: one is 8 yrs old and the other is only 3 yrs) don't listen to anyone or behave themselves when they're told. The 3-year-old, I can let off since he doesn't know much yet, but the 8-year-old is really rude, obnoxious, and is really pissing me off with his catty attitude. Just earlier today he was yelling at the 3-year-old non-stop when I told him to be quiet. Not even one minute later, he starts screaming again at the 3-year-old and once again, I told him to be quiet about 5 more times. He wouldn't stop or even care much to listen to me. I was so angry that I was on the verge of cussing at them two. I can't stand being around these kids. So then, I got sick of it and told my two nephews to go down into the basement so they can scream at each other if they want and I wouldn't have to hear it so much since I would be upstairs. Well, the 8-year-old got mad at me for telling him to do that and then after awhile, my mom tells him to come upstairs because it was time for him to go to sleep. Then as he comes up the stairs, he says in a haughty voice, "see....i knew i shouldn't have gone downstairs!" at me. And me with my hot temper, I yelled back at him saying he deserved to go downstairs for not listening to me at all. I never hit my two nephews. So they basically get off easily whenever they do something. This was one of the first times I even told my 8-year-old nephew to do something like go stay down in the basement. I mean damn, my mom and I tell him to be quiet so many times but it's like he always has to go back to screaming and running around the house. For the running around the house part, it's not just running, it's literally running and laughing out loud. So at the same time, you hear pounding and laughing and after this goes on for awhile, you just want to pull your hair out. He's so loud. Also, if you tell him to stop jumping on the couch or to stop screaming at the 3 year old, he would say "oooooooookay....." and then go back to doing the same thing a few seconds later. I think I know why he always does that because he knows that if he's behaving badly like that then he'll just get a simple "stop it" or "be more quiet", so that's why he never listens. My dad also told me that if I ever did feel like hitting them, to don't ever hit my nephews. ^_^;
Plus, he even cries almost every morning because he's too lazy to get up to go to school. I'm totally fed up with him.
Then, as if things aren't already bad enough with the 8 year old, the 3 year old is just about as bad. He's spoiled. If he doesn't get what he wants, he'll start to cry and fall down on the floor, crying even louder than before. And then their mom who is my older sister, is so annoying towards me. I can't stand her. I've stopped talking to her for about a year now, but she bothers me non-stop. I'm also sick and tired of her bs. She knows I DO NOT like her and that I want her to just leave me alone, but she still tries to get on my nerves. Even after she bothers me, I still don't talk to her. Reason being that she said a load of hurtful words to me in the past, repeatedly. She lowered my self-esteem so badly and just wouldn't stop it with putting me down and all.
I wrote a lot. So I'll be happy if anyone actually read all of this and still can give me advice on how to handle this situation. I'm worn out from those three, and just want my peaceful life back. On some days, I don't even want to go home anymore after I'm done with school. I just want to go to some place quiet where I can sit alone without hearing all the drama and having to deal with it everyday. Seriously, this is really taking a toll on my attitude too. I get so pissed at my sister and my two nephews sometimes that I basically have to take everything in and then when I can't hold it in anymore, I become cold towards other people. I'm becoming more and more bitter towards my nephews everyday because I can't stand being surrounded by them, especially my sister.
Am I overreacting? Is this how kids are supposed to act like? How am I supposed to deal with this stuff when my attitude is getting cranky too?
P.S. - i guess you can say that we don't discipline my two nephews. they're not my kids so i can't discipline them or tell them what to do much. i would if i could. my sister barely disciplines them and like i said before, she usually just hits them more than she explains things to them. i don't know what to do anymore.
