Im so sad.

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so. I really don't Have anyone else to talk to , Which sucks. My boyfriend has proven himself 100% worthless in despressing situations.

My grandmother passed away a week ago, her burial was yesterday, and it was terrible, im taking it pretty hard, My grandparents,were married 59 years, they married the day after my grandma graduated high school after dating just 9 months, They met on a blind date. They were perfect,

I feel terrible for my grandpa, who now has no one around, (except family of course but they dont live with him) hes so sad, and that makes me very sad. everytime i try and sleep i just think about all the things I did with my grandparents when I was little. Its so sad,

my boyfriend (of 4.5 years)who came with me to the funeral and burial, Is pretty worthless, He did nothing in the way of helping to comfort me, I just sorta stood alone, crying, and he stood on the sidelines like.. who knows.. Picking at his nails or something lame.. HELLOO!!! Damn Im right here, and some comfort would be nice.

Hes not even around to talk to on the phone, I called him , Hes busy working on a car with his friend..

I have never had to deal with death before, this is the first death In the family that I have been around for. im not taking it well
I dont even take it well when a pet dies.
aaaaaaaaackk.. I dont know what to do. I have no one to talk to.

 

[ben]

rip grandma @--}--

remember all the good times you had with your grandma, those memories will always be with you. think of the funny things she's done or ask your grandpa to tell you stories about the funny things she done.

stay strong for your gramps!

*hugs*

 

[bebs]

I'm sorry to hear about your grandma girl thats really sad but like said above its best to think of her in a better place and think of the good times.

as for your boyfriend, well I hate to say it but he might not have ever gone though anything like that before and doesnt know what to say or what to do for you

just be there for your grandpa. and your family now

 

[Shimmer]

I agree with Bebs, he may not know 'what' to do.
That said, it's natural, normal, and healthy to grieve...remember that. *hug*

 

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thanks to all of you , I talk to him last night and he was like "err i dont know what to do" which is understandable. It was just frustrating I guess.

 

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[NutMeg]

Yeah maybe he doesn't know what to do but that pretty much sucks for you. I mean come on, it's so easy to comfort a girl. A hug at the very least is awesome. I'm sorry that you have to go through this and that you feel so alone. I would hug you if I could.

 

[JULIA]

Aw. I am very sorry for your loss. Losing someone is the worst thing in the world. I hope you feel better soon <3

As for your boyfriend, like the others have said, he may not know how to deal with this sort of thing. Either a) He's never experienced a death before, doesn't know how it feels and has no idea what to do to comfort you or b) he has experienced death before and it really hurt him so he tries to distance himself from anything involving this sort of thing so he doesn't have scratch at old wounds.

Again, feel better hun. We're all here for you =]

 

[Lalli]

Sorry for your loss may your grandman R.I.P. Be strong for your grandad and do all you can to keep him busy.

as for your boyfriend maybe he doesnt know wot to say as he may never had dealt with something like this. dont stress yourself just talk things through with him and dont let it get to you

xx

 

[lightnlovly]

I know it seems hard now and to be honest the only thing that will help you heal is time. I have lost many (many) people throughout my 26 years on this earth and it doesn't get any easier. As much as you are hurting, your grandfather is probably hurting 20 times worse. Now is the time that you should be there for him and try (try is the key word) to focus on him and help him deal with his grief. I lost a very dear friend just last month...he crosses my mind everyday, but a month later I can smile and laugh when I think about him. When we grieve over a loss, we don't grieve for the person that we lost, but for ourselves. Your grammy is looking on you now and as long as you keep her memory alive and her close to your heart she will always be there. Her body is gone, but her spirit lives on through you and the rest of the family...keep with you all those good memories and remember that the pain doesn't last that long. She is happy and at peace. If you ever just want to talk about it...I have no problems listening and comforting. You are more that welcome to hit me up. Stay up hun and remember you have people around you that care

 

[Hawkeye]

Awww

*HUGS* that really sucks. RIP Grandpa!

As for your BF, honestly it could be a number of things. Just know your gramma always loved you and always will

 

[Raerae]

I lost my Grandma two years ago to Ahlztimers. She was married to her husband for 56 years. Same for me, was the first real death I had expierenced (or was old enough to really appreciate and remember).

One thing to remember, life does go on. My grandpa grieved heavily for about a year, saying how he didn't care about anything anymore, didn't wanna golf, fish, etc. All the stuff he loved to do while she was alive.

About 6 months ago, a woman moved onto his street was who a widow. She was in her 80's like my grandpa, and had been married for a long time as well. Well they sorta hit it off. And although they are probably not going to get married anytime soon, they eat dinner together several times a week, go on walks, ride their bikes, and do all sorta of things.

Life goes on. it's hard to see it now, but it does. You just gotta give things time.

 

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Originally Posted by lightnlovly I know it seems hard now and to be honest the only thing that will help you heal is time. I have lost many (many) people throughout my 26 years on this earth and it doesn't get any easier. As much as you are hurting, your grandfather is probably hurting 20 times worse. Now is the time that you should be there for him and try (try is the key word) to focus on him and help him deal with his grief. I lost a very dear friend just last month...he crosses my mind everyday, but a month later I can smile and laugh when I think about him. When we grieve over a loss, we don't grieve for the person that we lost, but for ourselves. Your grammy is looking on you now and as long as you keep her memory alive and her close to your heart she will always be there. Her body is gone, but her spirit lives on through you and the rest of the family...keep with you all those good memories and remember that the pain doesn't last that long. She is happy and at peace. If you ever just want to talk about it...I have no problems listening and comforting. You are more that welcome to hit me up. Stay up hun and remember you have people around you that care

aw that made me all teary eyed, but its true. I always think of my grandma as an angel in heaven, She had been ill for some time. She had cancer .
then. 2 weeks ago she had a terrible stroke she couldnt talk , when i saw her all she did was hold my arm..the strock is what did her in, it was time for her body to go.

Now I imagine her the same way that she was when i was ...say... 6 years old. with all her fluffy brown hair and healthy. and no longer suffering the one who loved to cook and go camping. THATS my grandma.