Immature/Lame Boyfriend

[Dark_Phoenix]

Sometimes he just gets on my nerves. Like making stupid jokes in front of my friends, or being rude just to be funny. I really like him, and we're way close but I don't know how to tell him:
"I think your jokes are lame and you need to start acting more mature".

I'm afraid I'd hurt his feelings. We're doing pretty okay right now; he came to Easter dinner at my house this Sunday and there was nothing too bad that happened.

Except for making my niece cry by telling her that my mother was cooking the Easter bunny for dinner. She kept wailing throughout dinner as he tried to appologize. *sigh*

I'm just afraid that if it keeps going on (the lameness/immaturity) that I just won't be able to take it anymore and we'll break up. (we've been dating for ~1 month... usually e-mailing, texting, talking on the phone and hanging out when we're back in Jordan)

 

[lara]

"I think your jokes are lame and you need to start acting more mature".
I think that's a pretty good way of putting it, to be honest.

If he sulks and gets upset, then tough luck. He's upset you and other people with his assy comments, it's only fair that a bit of it gets heaped back on him.

 

[sharyn]

mmmmh... how old are you, hun? and how old is he? You know they say that boys are always a little more immature than girls of the same age? NO that is not an excuse to bring home an 28 year old rocker boyfriend with tattoos all over. but I do think that you do not need to be with someone who actually goes on your nerves. Tell him what you dont like about him, it's only fair to let him know- but if he doesnt change or even starts making fun of you... personaly, I'd say goodbye. but I suggest you talk to him first - give him a chance and maybe he'll change. Just dont blame it all on him like "Idiot!! I hate your stupid ass jokes" - thats def. going to hurt him, to say the least. It should be more of an "I really like you but there's something that irritates/hurts/insertyourpersonalfeeling me sometimes..." conversation.

Ooooh and BTW: please keep in mind, when you get older and start dating "grown up mature men", it doesnt mean they wont laugh for a good 10 minutes after farting on stuff. dont expect too much!!

j/k!!!!!!

good luck!!!

 

[MAC is love]

Tell him how you feel now, or else it's gonna keep bugging you further down the road.

 

[kimmy]

Quote:

Originally Posted by lara "I think your jokes are lame and you need to start acting more mature". I think that's a pretty good way of putting it, to be honest. If he sulks and gets upset, then tough luck. He's upset you and other people with his assy comments, it's only fair that a bit of it gets heaped back on him.

i totally agree.

if he keeps acting this way, it will get annoying, and it will cause you just too much drama and problems. try to fix it while it's still early, and if it can't be fixed tell him to hit the road.

 

[kaliraksha]

He may not have a clue that he is being "insensitive". If you want to stay with him then don't settle for what you're not getting. I would talk to him and see where it goes from there. If he's serious about it he will probably need your help in recognizing his actions and it is going to be a series of trials and tribulation.

 

[swtginbug]

honestly just tell him the truth, if you guys you guys are really close then there shouldn't be a problem with letting him your feelings. I know how you feel, i had a problem with an ex before. i didn't tell him how i felt and after awhile i couldn't stand it anymore and i looked at him differently and therefore he is the ex lol. but sometimes, people just don't realize they are being insenstive. so just let him know.

 

[saniyairshad]

Hon u should just come out clean, there's no use feeling like that, if ur frustrated, tell him, because I've had it happen to me...and it's not a good feeling when ur personal shit comes out in the open as a joke. My advise would be just tell him gently but be stern

 

[PrudeyNudey]

I'll put it out there...if he's shitting you after only 1 month then move on! You should be in the honeymoon period...you can do better!