sheila_somebody
New member
Hey everyone, I'm a newbie and I've been lurking for a while, and I'm having a bit of a crisis and I'm hoping you guys can help me out.
I've been with my fiance for 3 years through TONS of drama. We come from different backgrounds so his family disapproves, wanting him to marry a girl from his own country. He also has a lot of family drama, compared to my relatively calm, tight knit family (knock on wood) which concerns my mother as she does not want me to get dragged into their issues and fights, even though my fiance has cut himself off from them for years. After a series of problems, being far apart and my fiance having some trust issues that piled up, we broke up for a month- and I honestly never thought we would get back together. Slowly we started talking sporadically and now we are good friends, rediscovering what we love about each other and ironing out all the issues we have.
So I'm over the moon- finally things are back on track. Then tonight, he got in a huge fight with his parents, ever since we broke up they have been trying to fix him up with a family friend of theirs that they approve of. He told them to leave him alone, that he was working things out with me, his mother freaked out and called my mom yelling "i don't want your daughter to have anything to do with my son".
My fiance grabbed the phone, but my mom still heard and she's understandably shocked, never having been though something like that before. Now things are messed up and I don't know how I'll ever get him back in my mothers good graces again.
He has been apologizing all day, he loves my mother and he is so embarrassed but it does not change the fact that my mom wants me to have nothing to do with his family. His parents are the problem, most of his siblings are lovely and stand up for me all the time. No matter how much my mom meets him and likes him, she is so turned off from his family that its like a never ending bumpy road.
Sorry for taking so long to reach my point, but what can I do to salvage this? Do any of you have problems with your boyfriends/fiance/husbands families? Do you think time will heal this incident or should I take some kind of initiative to get the two sides to meet and be civil? Its hard enough dealing with a semi-long distance relationship with a man who is really sensitive and has been through so many hardships in his life without having a Montague/Capulet warring family situation going on, haha.
Thanks in advance everyone xxx
I've been with my fiance for 3 years through TONS of drama. We come from different backgrounds so his family disapproves, wanting him to marry a girl from his own country. He also has a lot of family drama, compared to my relatively calm, tight knit family (knock on wood) which concerns my mother as she does not want me to get dragged into their issues and fights, even though my fiance has cut himself off from them for years. After a series of problems, being far apart and my fiance having some trust issues that piled up, we broke up for a month- and I honestly never thought we would get back together. Slowly we started talking sporadically and now we are good friends, rediscovering what we love about each other and ironing out all the issues we have.
So I'm over the moon- finally things are back on track. Then tonight, he got in a huge fight with his parents, ever since we broke up they have been trying to fix him up with a family friend of theirs that they approve of. He told them to leave him alone, that he was working things out with me, his mother freaked out and called my mom yelling "i don't want your daughter to have anything to do with my son".
My fiance grabbed the phone, but my mom still heard and she's understandably shocked, never having been though something like that before. Now things are messed up and I don't know how I'll ever get him back in my mothers good graces again.
He has been apologizing all day, he loves my mother and he is so embarrassed but it does not change the fact that my mom wants me to have nothing to do with his family. His parents are the problem, most of his siblings are lovely and stand up for me all the time. No matter how much my mom meets him and likes him, she is so turned off from his family that its like a never ending bumpy road.
Sorry for taking so long to reach my point, but what can I do to salvage this? Do any of you have problems with your boyfriends/fiance/husbands families? Do you think time will heal this incident or should I take some kind of initiative to get the two sides to meet and be civil? Its hard enough dealing with a semi-long distance relationship with a man who is really sensitive and has been through so many hardships in his life without having a Montague/Capulet warring family situation going on, haha.
Thanks in advance everyone xxx
