AbovexThexStars
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okay.. so Soo heres the wholee story..we were going out for about 2 years...
He broke up with me early august, saying he didnt want a girlfriend anymore and at this time in his life he felt it wasnt right. The thing that hurts me the most, is that , he never had told me those things before, or problems he had with me, and that we had s
ex for the first time about 2 weeks before he broke up with me. I lost my virginity to him as well. He still wants to remain friends, but i find it hard. He went away to college last week. He wants to remain friends, but sends alot of mixed signals..im just really confused. because i want to be with him, but im not sure how i can...=/
ive refrained from seeming too attached to him and when he asks whats up with me and stuff, i tell him im having a good time and enjoying myself and all the good things that are going on with me...eventhough sometimes i cant help but be upset when i do talk to him but i dont show him that ive been really happy, but there is still that one piece of happiness missing... i am 17 and he is 18 so yes we are young...he just went off to college last week. he said he just wants to be friends and stuff, yet he sends mixed signals of when he sees a picture of me, hell say i look beautiful , things like that..or he got upset when i spoke to this other boy that i used to date but was a complete ass to me and treated me bad sexually and i technically could have went to the police but i didnt with him. but i dont know...weird situation? mixed signals? i do want him back, but it seems like he is having too much fun in college and doesnt think of me or anything..i dont know even though when he talks to hes really nice..
he broke up with me like a month before he left for college....2 days after our anniversary, 2 weeks after losing my virginity to him. thing is , he told me that he wanted to make love to me, but let me decide when i felt right. and we did it when i finally did, then he told me that he regrets it and he only did it to see if he would be happier bcause of it but he wasnt and it didnt mean a thing to him..pretty messed up? i think so. that hurts me the most. having sex with him, then just ending it, its tough. ive come to realize its really tough. i have been fine though, keeping busy and all,ect butits like, i never thoguht i would have ever ever ever did that unless that person was perfect and i was confortable with him, and i did and was, then he stavs me in the heart and says all taht stuff to me.. i havent tried to pay too much attention to him lately, because he doesnt really deserve. im just confused i guess with what i want becuase my head and my heart are telling me two different things...he contacts me and stuff because he wants to maintain the best friendship we had without the relationship, honestly im not sure that is possible... its just weird, he got mad at me for talking t an old friendand stuff i mean really? i can choose to talk to who i want, regardless if they screwed me over and technically raped me, you know? its my choice, and like i only talked to him to wish him a happy birthday and find out how he is..not cause i want to get back with him or anything.
and he was the one who suggeted being friends. he said that he wants to remain best friends but not have the relationship attached. though e said h broke up with me cause he felt like he was my only source of happiness because i was having a lot of family problems for a while..but really, i cnat help that. and isnt that what a boyfriend is ultimately, a best friend, who is there for you no matter what? and exspeciall when the going gets tough? maybe he was just scared of committing to a girl? but really, he probbaly wont be finding a girl like me anytime soon, not to be cocky...but he will realize what he missed out on eventually, right?
i think that i just want that satisfaction, to know he is hurt too, and i havent really goten that from him, though he also tries to get revenge or make me jealous by posting photos of him and another girl and his ass grinding her vagina...but yea, not makin me jealous, just making yourself look sleezy and trashy. haha..
i havent talked with him and when i did i made is quick and said i had to go cause i promised my friend mike that id take him to the store/dinner. he freaked out and was like WHO IS MIKE?!?? wouldnt he like to know? hahah and i think its funny you say he is expecting to be treated like royalty and just be treated so nicely because he is it and is self absorbed. thing is he is short and overweight...and not too hot in the looks department? so really i am too good for him, cause i have always had guys after me and all that. every other girl he has attempted to go out with denied his ass.hahah. and he is very self absorbed ...too confident in himself.he thought i had no friends and like sat at home in my closet where my secret shrine s of him or something....yea rightt. i dont see why he thought he was my only source of happiness, i mean i have been having a lot of family issues, taht id talk to him about, but then he broke pup with me cause he said i was his only source of happiness and that he felt that we were just friends and that itd be better that way...is thats what a boyfriend is though, your closest friend, for the most part? i have realized that my girls will always be there for me and have constantly been there for me, so until i find that one guy , who appreciates me for me, and doesnt take, no steal my virginity and leave me 2 weeks later on the account of false claims , im not planning on keeping anyone who is anything clsoe to this last ex boyfriend. hes possibly the worst, only by the things he does and how over confident and absorbed in himself he is. i never realized it until now after the fact..he is and that is not fair to me. and he also told me that he had been trying to be the worst boyfriend he could so id dump him first...i think he succeeded pretty much, eventhough he dumped me in the end but i was def thinking it, but then i was like , maybe things are tough at home and getting ready for transition but i should have listened to my gut and my head, not my heart... but really, i can not wait until someone screws him over soo bad, case karma is a bitch.
i forgot to add i think he wants the freedom to see other girls and do what he wants without having to worry about me and stuff while acutually at college.... Yet at the same time, he wants to have something with me with no strings attached while he is home and rekindle the relationship? but really who is he to think i would wait around for him? i mean reallly ,the nerve of some people.. and also, theafter we broke up the night before he left for college, he said i could come pick my stuff up at night so when i got there and called he goes, oh im not home im out with some people.. like wayto have the deceny to tell me instead of me wasting my gas. so i got my stuff the next morning, and he gave me all the gifts and everything i ever gave or made him., all notes, everythinggg...yet the things that i actaully wanted like the things i bought for myself and left thre, he threw out, like my lingerie i had, and these comfy boxers i wore and the condoms i bought and everything....i found that super rude,. i didnt throw his stuff out that he bought or his clothes or anything. i dont know, i found that soo aggravating especially cause he called me a materialistic snobby dirty scumbag bitch and didnt take that back i apologized for being fiesty over what i said and he was like , im not apologizing its waht you were acting like and what you were at that time but its over now so time to move on. im like ...wow ass? haha i mean, so what, i have a job and i spend my hard earned money on clothes at jcrew or sephora and stuff... big deal, its my money, that doesnt make a materialistic or a snob..
thenn, i havent tlked to him in a long time. a few months. today he imed me cause i have had him blocked and he was talking to me but i was i dunno, impartial it was a waste for me because i really didnt want to talk to him and i now know why. but i wouldnt up telling this guy htat ive been flirting with a little and who has bee nreally nice to be for a while about everything that happend and he apparently imed my ex boyfriend about it and my ex emailed me saying :
" So why did you find it necessary to tell your new buddy about something we talked about? I really don't have time nor the patience for that meat head to talk to me and boost his ego, nor do I appreciate that I can't even talk to you anymore without everything being awkward and aimless. I'm also tired of trying to make the effort of talking to you and trying to let you know that I still care about keeping in touch when all it gets me is bull****. So i'm just letting you know that i'm not going to bother you anymore, and i'd appreciate it if we just don't speak again. Sorry for everything and all that, but this is getting pointless and if you really hated me so much, you should have told me. I don't even know what compels me to still want to talk to you and care, but I somehow do. I'm perfectly happy and have plenty of friends and things to do but still, I care enough to try and talk to you. But forget it, i'm just wasting my time.
Maybe I made the right choice in the end, and should just forget you and stop caring about you. You've obviously done it."
then he was talking to my best friend and said ""i miss her alot, like some girls have been flirting with me and stuff, but i kind of don't feel anything... i dont know, it's kind of weird,its not like it was with melissa" melissa is me...so realy, i dont know what to do..im a mess right now and none of my friend are giving good advice so help, pllease=) id appreciate it alot=) thanks!
He broke up with me early august, saying he didnt want a girlfriend anymore and at this time in his life he felt it wasnt right. The thing that hurts me the most, is that , he never had told me those things before, or problems he had with me, and that we had s
ex for the first time about 2 weeks before he broke up with me. I lost my virginity to him as well. He still wants to remain friends, but i find it hard. He went away to college last week. He wants to remain friends, but sends alot of mixed signals..im just really confused. because i want to be with him, but im not sure how i can...=/ive refrained from seeming too attached to him and when he asks whats up with me and stuff, i tell him im having a good time and enjoying myself and all the good things that are going on with me...eventhough sometimes i cant help but be upset when i do talk to him but i dont show him that ive been really happy, but there is still that one piece of happiness missing... i am 17 and he is 18 so yes we are young...he just went off to college last week. he said he just wants to be friends and stuff, yet he sends mixed signals of when he sees a picture of me, hell say i look beautiful , things like that..or he got upset when i spoke to this other boy that i used to date but was a complete ass to me and treated me bad sexually and i technically could have went to the police but i didnt with him. but i dont know...weird situation? mixed signals? i do want him back, but it seems like he is having too much fun in college and doesnt think of me or anything..i dont know even though when he talks to hes really nice..
he broke up with me like a month before he left for college....2 days after our anniversary, 2 weeks after losing my virginity to him. thing is , he told me that he wanted to make love to me, but let me decide when i felt right. and we did it when i finally did, then he told me that he regrets it and he only did it to see if he would be happier bcause of it but he wasnt and it didnt mean a thing to him..pretty messed up? i think so. that hurts me the most. having sex with him, then just ending it, its tough. ive come to realize its really tough. i have been fine though, keeping busy and all,ect butits like, i never thoguht i would have ever ever ever did that unless that person was perfect and i was confortable with him, and i did and was, then he stavs me in the heart and says all taht stuff to me.. i havent tried to pay too much attention to him lately, because he doesnt really deserve. im just confused i guess with what i want becuase my head and my heart are telling me two different things...he contacts me and stuff because he wants to maintain the best friendship we had without the relationship, honestly im not sure that is possible... its just weird, he got mad at me for talking t an old friendand stuff i mean really? i can choose to talk to who i want, regardless if they screwed me over and technically raped me, you know? its my choice, and like i only talked to him to wish him a happy birthday and find out how he is..not cause i want to get back with him or anything.
and he was the one who suggeted being friends. he said that he wants to remain best friends but not have the relationship attached. though e said h broke up with me cause he felt like he was my only source of happiness because i was having a lot of family problems for a while..but really, i cnat help that. and isnt that what a boyfriend is ultimately, a best friend, who is there for you no matter what? and exspeciall when the going gets tough? maybe he was just scared of committing to a girl? but really, he probbaly wont be finding a girl like me anytime soon, not to be cocky...but he will realize what he missed out on eventually, right?
i think that i just want that satisfaction, to know he is hurt too, and i havent really goten that from him, though he also tries to get revenge or make me jealous by posting photos of him and another girl and his ass grinding her vagina...but yea, not makin me jealous, just making yourself look sleezy and trashy. haha..
i havent talked with him and when i did i made is quick and said i had to go cause i promised my friend mike that id take him to the store/dinner. he freaked out and was like WHO IS MIKE?!?? wouldnt he like to know? hahah and i think its funny you say he is expecting to be treated like royalty and just be treated so nicely because he is it and is self absorbed. thing is he is short and overweight...and not too hot in the looks department? so really i am too good for him, cause i have always had guys after me and all that. every other girl he has attempted to go out with denied his ass.hahah. and he is very self absorbed ...too confident in himself.he thought i had no friends and like sat at home in my closet where my secret shrine s of him or something....yea rightt. i dont see why he thought he was my only source of happiness, i mean i have been having a lot of family issues, taht id talk to him about, but then he broke pup with me cause he said i was his only source of happiness and that he felt that we were just friends and that itd be better that way...is thats what a boyfriend is though, your closest friend, for the most part? i have realized that my girls will always be there for me and have constantly been there for me, so until i find that one guy , who appreciates me for me, and doesnt take, no steal my virginity and leave me 2 weeks later on the account of false claims , im not planning on keeping anyone who is anything clsoe to this last ex boyfriend. hes possibly the worst, only by the things he does and how over confident and absorbed in himself he is. i never realized it until now after the fact..he is and that is not fair to me. and he also told me that he had been trying to be the worst boyfriend he could so id dump him first...i think he succeeded pretty much, eventhough he dumped me in the end but i was def thinking it, but then i was like , maybe things are tough at home and getting ready for transition but i should have listened to my gut and my head, not my heart... but really, i can not wait until someone screws him over soo bad, case karma is a bitch.
i forgot to add i think he wants the freedom to see other girls and do what he wants without having to worry about me and stuff while acutually at college.... Yet at the same time, he wants to have something with me with no strings attached while he is home and rekindle the relationship? but really who is he to think i would wait around for him? i mean reallly ,the nerve of some people.. and also, theafter we broke up the night before he left for college, he said i could come pick my stuff up at night so when i got there and called he goes, oh im not home im out with some people.. like wayto have the deceny to tell me instead of me wasting my gas. so i got my stuff the next morning, and he gave me all the gifts and everything i ever gave or made him., all notes, everythinggg...yet the things that i actaully wanted like the things i bought for myself and left thre, he threw out, like my lingerie i had, and these comfy boxers i wore and the condoms i bought and everything....i found that super rude,. i didnt throw his stuff out that he bought or his clothes or anything. i dont know, i found that soo aggravating especially cause he called me a materialistic snobby dirty scumbag bitch and didnt take that back i apologized for being fiesty over what i said and he was like , im not apologizing its waht you were acting like and what you were at that time but its over now so time to move on. im like ...wow ass? haha i mean, so what, i have a job and i spend my hard earned money on clothes at jcrew or sephora and stuff... big deal, its my money, that doesnt make a materialistic or a snob..
thenn, i havent tlked to him in a long time. a few months. today he imed me cause i have had him blocked and he was talking to me but i was i dunno, impartial it was a waste for me because i really didnt want to talk to him and i now know why. but i wouldnt up telling this guy htat ive been flirting with a little and who has bee nreally nice to be for a while about everything that happend and he apparently imed my ex boyfriend about it and my ex emailed me saying :
" So why did you find it necessary to tell your new buddy about something we talked about? I really don't have time nor the patience for that meat head to talk to me and boost his ego, nor do I appreciate that I can't even talk to you anymore without everything being awkward and aimless. I'm also tired of trying to make the effort of talking to you and trying to let you know that I still care about keeping in touch when all it gets me is bull****. So i'm just letting you know that i'm not going to bother you anymore, and i'd appreciate it if we just don't speak again. Sorry for everything and all that, but this is getting pointless and if you really hated me so much, you should have told me. I don't even know what compels me to still want to talk to you and care, but I somehow do. I'm perfectly happy and have plenty of friends and things to do but still, I care enough to try and talk to you. But forget it, i'm just wasting my time.
Maybe I made the right choice in the end, and should just forget you and stop caring about you. You've obviously done it."
then he was talking to my best friend and said ""i miss her alot, like some girls have been flirting with me and stuff, but i kind of don't feel anything... i dont know, it's kind of weird,its not like it was with melissa" melissa is me...so realy, i dont know what to do..im a mess right now and none of my friend are giving good advice so help, pllease=) id appreciate it alot=) thanks!
