Inadequacies about breasts...

[pumpkincat210]

This is a difficult post because its such a personal problem. So here goes: I'm 26, 27 next week and have had 3 kids. I am so ashamed about my breasts now. I'm a large c, small d, but i've gotten saggier. They've never been that perky, but now they are really starting to feel their weight. My daughter would not breastfeed out of my left breast for some reason and my right breast is slightly larger from this. I stopped breastfeeding her 4 years ago. Since then i've had 2 other kids and with each one they drooped a little more. I feel so bad about them and can't afford at this moment to have them done( a lift plus implants to smooth out the stretch marks). On top of this i finally lost the baby weight and the tops of my breasts are kind of wrinkled with stretch marks. Not that noticeable, but this jerk at a friends house pointed out he knew i had children because of that(how rude!) On top of that my ex popped out of nowhere and asked me on myspace how i was and if my breasts had fallen since childbirth? wtf? I've always been a modest person so why would he ask something so personal and none of his business anymore.
My husband says i'm crazy and that he loves them just the way they are. but i can't help but feel that I don't have an edge on the competition and am feeling old... He has never looked at other women other than the normal "look if you see a good looking person" thing. And he doesn't compare me. Sometimes i get so frustrated that i want him to tell me that i have saggy breasts(reasons still unknown). It's gotten to the point where I have to work up to getting undressed in front of him. I can tell he hurts because he wants to see me naked but i've gotten all schizo about the situation.
I also have stretch marks on my stomach and they are so freaking ugly. I still wear a bikini because i have a f*ck them attitude, but inside it still makes me self conscious. I can't afford a breast lift, augmentation and a tummy tuck right now either, that would be so much money. And my husband keeps telling me not to do it because of the risks(botched job, wanting more surgery, death etc.) and that i don't need it. For god's sakes my mothers are better than mine.
I'm still so young i feel like i wasted my youth and now look old. The only saving grace is i finally lost weight that has been with me since my first pregnancy.
So basically since my nipples aren't pointing up anymore i'm depressed about it.

 

[Girl about town]

Hey there i feel the same as well , im 27 and a 32E i have stretch marks on my breasts but i had them before i even had my child , i lost a lot of weight when i was younger so feel my breasts have never been great. When i talk to girls at my work i realised lots of girls are in the same boat, and not all girls have perfect glamour model breasts. The way i see it is im not a glamour model and as long as my fiance likes me why bother with thew risks of surgery. Imagine i had surgery and died!!! my son wouldn't have a mother!!! At the end of the day the body you have is working and healthy a few stretch marks doesn't make you ugly, xxxxxxxx

 

[pumpkincat210]

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Originally Posted by Girl about town Hey there i feel the same as well , im 27 and a 32E i have stretch marks on my breasts but i had them before i even had my child , i lost a lot of weight when i was younger so feel my breasts have never been great. When i talk to girls at my work i realised lots of girls are in the same boat, and not all girls have perfect glamour model breasts. The way i see it is im not a glamour model and as long as my fiance likes me why bother with thew risks of surgery. Imagine i had surgery and died!!! my son wouldn't have a mother!!! At the end of the day the body you have is working and healthy a few stretch marks doesn't make you ugly, xxxxxxxx

thank you that made me feel a bit better. If i had more girls to talk to instead of t.v and magazine images i would probably feel more normal. I've just never had "perky" breasts and now they seem to be what is wanted and normal, when infact we are normal.

 

[Girl about town]

Exactly we contantly see girls with big round breasts with perfect skintone !the majority of people don't have perfect breasts. Most models are airbrushed anyway!! Just buy amazing underwear and you never need to worry, i buy bras that are really uplifting and sexy but still cover my stretch marks, such as a plunge bra, i sometimes dream of an uplift and reduction but in reality i would worry something would happen to me and i would be the person that died and left her child without a parent for vanity reasons xxxx

 

[pumpkincat210]

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Originally Posted by Girl about town Exactly we contantly see girls with big round breasts with perfect skintone !the majority of people don't have perfect breasts. Most models are airbrushed anyway!! Just buy amazing underwear and you never need to worry, i buy bras that are really uplifting and sexy but still cover my stretch marks, such as a plunge bra, i sometimes dream of an uplift and reduction but in reality i would worry something would happen to me and i would be the person that died and left her child without a parent for vanity reasons xxxx

yeah, i have the pushup bras and such, they are miracle workers and my breasts look good when i have them on. Yes, I couldn't have plastic surgery now that i have kids. what would my family do if something happened to me?

 

[Girl about town]

In the job i do i see some people that really make me feel bad about worrying about my body hang ups, such as people paralysed in accidents or people who have lost limbs so i keep telling myself that i am lucky i am healthy and happy xx

 

[prinzessin784]

You should be proud of all that your breasts have accomplished, wear them like a badge of honor!

Everyone feels uncomfortable about different parts of their bodies, and that's totally normal. But think of the amazing things that they have done for you - feeding your babies, that's amazing!! Nobody else could do that! You are beautiful no matter what!

but since that doesn't help all the time, go get yourself fitted by a professional bra-fitter and get some sexy new bras with matching panties and go all out on something really pretty that makes you feel good. It's worth the expense if it makes you feel good about yourself.

 

[Babylard]

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Originally Posted by prinzessin784 You should be proud of all that your breasts have accomplished, wear them like a badge of honor! Everyone feels uncomfortable about different parts of their bodies, and that's totally normal. But think of the amazing things that they have done for you - feeding your babies, that's amazing!! Nobody else could do that! You are beautiful no matter what! but since that doesn't help all the time, go get yourself fitted by a professional bra-fitter and get some sexy new bras with matching panties and go all out on something really pretty that makes you feel good. It's worth the expense if it makes you feel good about yourself.

oh yes, i second this!
i think it sucks that the ideal body standards are so unrealistic. i can't really relate to the breast feeding because i am still a young student lol. but i've been struggling with some breast gripes as well. for me, one breast is significantly smaller than the other. even my male roomate noticed. i used to be happy with my breast size but i suddenly dropped a lot of weight and they have shrunk quite a bit. one boob is horribly smaller than the other and i am very self-concious about it. i hope you realize that you aren't alone with the boob issues. good luck with the family!

 

[V15U4L_3RR0R]

Every womans boobs are unique and come in all different shapes and sizes. Your boobs are completely unique just like ever other womans.

"There are only 10 women in the world who look like super models and three million that don't"

Please don't buy into the fakery of celebs and magazines. I agree with the getting yourself properly fitted and buying yourself one or two nice lingerie sets that will make you feel sexy. At the end of the day, most women will get stretch marks in their lives and they do fade. And even you said that your husband still fancies you so you're clearly still gorgeous!

 

[_trimm_trabb]

I think no matter how big, small, perky, saggy, wrinkled, stretched, smooth, normal, abnormal, ETC a woman's boobs are, EVERY woman has a problem with them of some sort (or if not, a problem with some part of her body).

The ridiculous images displayed on TV & in magazines, in combination with the poor selection and "a-few-sizes-fit-all" mentality of the mass lingere market (like Victoria's Secret), makes virtually every woman feel like a freak of nature.

For example, Victoria's Secret doesn't even carry my size, a 32C. Even though one would look at me and say my breasts are very proportional to my body and they look good on me. Victoria's Secret (and most any other department store lingere section) doesn't think so, so how could it be? It only make me wonder how women in much larger as well as much smaller sizes must feel. Who carries their sizes, if I have trouble finding bras? And what kinds of weird looks do they get from the salespeople when they ask for their size?

And back to your problem - what the HELL is wrong with the people who pointed out your "imperfections"? The next time that happens, I suggest finding everything "wrong" with them and saying, "honey, I gave birth to, nursed, and raised three beautiful children. what is YOUR excuse?"

 

[Divinity]

I've got one A and one B and I measure a 33". I HATE trying on bras and depending on which kind I get I'm either a 32 or 34.

 

[pumpkincat210]

thank you girls. You have made me feel immensely better. Diversity at it's best, lol. I will keep all of this in mind when i feel those bitter and ugly thoughts creep into my head. And yes sexy lingerie that fits is a big plus, its hard to find good fitting lingerie in my size that doesn't cost a fortune. A 34d is hard to come by at regular stores which is really sad because women are so many different sizes. We also shouldn't have to pay more for those sizes as well.
I'm such a breast person for some reason everyone else's breasts look great, so I just need to put myself in the perspective of someone else and look at myself that way, lol.

 

[BeautyPsycho]

You have 3 healthy, happy kids that love you... husband that loves you (and your body

).. you are healthy and hot...

I know, we all have issues with ourselves... you should work on it... do something that makes you happy... tell yourself that you look great! Love yourself, and your boobs!

I have stretch marks pretty much everywhere on my butt and legs, I got 'em when I was 13 or so...

they suck, but what the hell, there's nothing I can do but accept them

 

[S.S.BlackOrchid]

Nowadays, there are pictures on spherical breasts everywhere. People have seemed to accept it as the norm, and if breasts don't look like that, they are "saggy". In reality large, natural breasts are supposed somewhat to look like tear drops with the nipples sitting on the lower half or the breast. You are not inadequate, your breasts are what NORMAL breasts are supposed to look like. And your husband most likely thinks they're hot.

I can understand feeling inadequate. I have 36F cups and mine are teardrop shaped too (I'm tired of women calling it saggy, as though there is something wrong with them.)

 

[pumpkincat210]

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Originally Posted by S.S.BlackOrchid Nowadays, there are pictures on spherical breasts everywhere. People have seemed to accept it as the norm, and if breasts don't look like that, they are "saggy". In reality large, natural breasts are supposed somewhat to look like tear drops with the nipples sitting on the lower half or the breast. You are not inadequate, your breasts are what NORMAL breasts are supposed to look like. And your husband most likely thinks they're hot. I can understand feeling inadequate. I have 36F cups and mine are teardrop shaped too (I'm tired of women calling it saggy, as though there is something wrong with them.)

They actually have a medical term for it called breast ptosis. I think it's ridiculous to boot. I never really thought my breasts were saggy until all these reality shows came out like "The Swan" , etc. Then i started to obsess. I'm glad the girls here are so supportive with such a delicate topic. I feel alot better now. And teardrop breasts sound so lovely compared to saggy. thanks!

 

[pumpkincat210]

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Originally Posted by BeautyPsycho You have 3 healthy, happy kids that love you... husband that loves you (and your body ).. you are healthy and hot... I know, we all have issues with ourselves... you should work on it... do something that makes you happy... tell yourself that you look great! Love yourself, and your boobs! I have stretch marks pretty much everywhere on my butt and legs, I got 'em when I was 13 or so... they suck, but what the hell, there's nothing I can do but accept them

Yeah, my stretch marks never really bothered me until that jerky guy pointed them out to me. I ran upstairs to tell my husband what he'd said and it pissed off like 3 different guys. needless to say when we went back down stairs the jerk was gone.
thank you for your kind words. The kids are fantastic and have changed my life for the better I wouldn't trade them for my old breasts, that would be ridiculousl.

 

[Lily_Lyla]

I'm 16 and I have 34E breasts.
I've got plenty of stretch marks underneath and around the sides, everyone gets them. They are completely normal. I used to be really self conscious about them still I stopped comparing myself to other people.
You are who you are, you've got a loving husband and 3 wonderful kids. You don't need perfect breasts, they still think you're absolutely wonderful just the way you are.

 

[V15U4L_3RR0R]

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Originally Posted by pumpkincat210 thank you girls. You have made me feel immensely better. Diversity at it's best, lol. I will keep all of this in mind when i feel those bitter and ugly thoughts creep into my head. And yes sexy lingerie that fits is a big plus, its hard to find good fitting lingerie in my size that doesn't cost a fortune. A 34d is hard to come by at regular stores which is really sad because women are so many different sizes. We also shouldn't have to pay more for those sizes as well. I'm such a breast person for some reason everyone else's breasts look great, so I just need to put myself in the perspective of someone else and look at myself that way, lol.

Gah I know what it's like having an unusual bra size. I used to be a 34D which seemed to be fairly easy to find in the UK but then I grew to a 34DD and it's become nigh impossible to find nice bras in my size because most DD bras start at a 36 backsize lol. My boobs are also teardrop shaped which is what they're supposed to be like or I'd start worrying that gravity wasn't working lol.
Bravissimo | Big Bras, Lingerie, Swimwear and Clothing for big boobed women has been a lifesaver though. They carry lovely bra's for larger boobed ladies.

 

[pumpkincat210]

thanks for the bra site's, I'm going to check them out now!

 

[SparklingWaves]

This is a good website on the topic. It shows real breasts, not pushed up or photoshopped ones. The real deal and comments how women feel about their breasts.

Normal Breasts Gallery, part 1 - pictures of different size and shape breasts. Women who have not been pregnant.