Insulting someone with an eating disorder

[Jenna101]

A few days ago I had put my thoughts on the Mac cosmetics forum on lj about Specktra, I had put down some not so nice things, I should not have mentioned names and so on. For that I apologize. I was just stating my opinion, everyone is allowed to have one. Anyways, one of your members here on Specktra, Glam8babe, took it upon herself to insult me in the worst way ever. I have anorexia, I've had it for years, I suffer greatly because of this (BTW, not asking for any sympathy or so on...). Instead of attacking me for what I had said about Specktra or even defending Specktra, she instead looked at my journal (which I don't really mind) and saw that i have anorexia, then decided to attack me about that. She said some of the rudest and hurtful things that I have pretty much ever had said to me. Saying that I was mental in the head and so on...not only that, I defended myself by stating that because of her remarks that I truly hope that she never has a daughter that goes through this, she then retorted back by saying that she would never raise her daughter to have anorexia because she is not that stupid. Not only is that an incredibly silly remark, but an insult to my mother. My mother had went through hell trying to help me, all the while battling breast cancer. She has spent over $6000 of her hard earned money for treatment for me, in which I relapsed. She cries about my health and he health everyday. She doesn't sleep at night. These remarks she made (there were many others but she deleted them all) really hurt me, like kicking someone when they are already down. My mother certainly did not raise me to "get" anorexia. I didn't choose this disease. I don't like having it, and I certainly do not want to die from it. She didn't even apologize for her crude remarks. She just added some snotty afterthoughts and then deleted her mean comments. While I may have said some things about not being crazy about this site, I did not attack you personally in any way. But thanks a lot Glam8babe for bringing my self esteem down even lower. I truly hope to god you never have a daughter, friend or family member that ever has to go through this.


That all being said, I am sorry for what I said about Specktra and some of the members. Thanks for listening to my rant.

 

[frocher]

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Originally Posted by Jenna101 A few days ago I had put my thoughts on the Mac cosmetics forum on lj about Specktra, I had put down some not so nice things, I should not have mentioned names and so on. For that I apologize. I was just stating my opinion, everyone is allowed to have one. Anyways, one of your members here on Specktra, Glam8babe, took it upon herself to insult me in the worst way ever. I have anorexia, I've had it for years, I suffer greatly because of this (BTW, not asking for any sympathy or so on...). Instead of attacking me for what I had said about Specktra or even defending Specktra, she instead looked at my journal (which I don't really mind) and saw that i have anorexia, then decided to attack me about that. She said some of the rudest and hurtful things that I have pretty much ever had said to me. Saying that I was mental in the head and so on...not only that, I defended myself by stating that because of her remarks that I truly hope that she never has a daughter that goes through this, she then retorted back by saying that she would never raise her daughter to have anorexia because she is not that stupid. Not only is that an incredibly silly remark, but an insult to my mother. My mother had went through hell trying to help me, all the while battling breast cancer. She has spent over $6000 of her hard earned money for treatment for me, in which I relapsed. She cries about my health and he health everyday. She doesn't sleep at night. These remarks she made (there were many others but she deleted them all) really hurt me, like kicking someone when they are already down. My mother certainly did not raise me to "get" anorexia. I didn't choose this disease. I don't like having it, and I certainly do not want to die from it. She didn't even apologize for her crude remarks. She just added some snotty afterthoughts and then deleted her mean comments. While I may have said some things about not being crazy about this site, I did not attack you personally in any way. But thanks a lot Glam8babe for bringing my self esteem down even lower. I truly hope to god you never have a daughter, friend or family member that ever has to go through this. That all being said, I am sorry for what I said about Specktra and some of the members. Thanks for listening to my rant.

I don't think it is okay to insult someone for having an eating disorder, but she did remove her comments after she realized how hurtful it could be. You said you saw no value to this forum and deleted your account, now you reopen one just to complain about another member. If she removed her comments why come to a forum she frequents quite often to talk smack about her? What is your motive?

BTW you called her an ass kisser, that's a little personal imo. To act like you were completely innocent is wrong. Basically you called her, and a few other forum members, out.

 

[darkishstar]

What I posted after I saw both of your guy's comments on the LJ thread:
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Originally Posted by darkishstar Ohhh, so much drama now. I love Specktra and always will... But I have one thing to say, please don't jump down my throat: Glam8babe: I don't think it was necessary to say all of those things to captain_obesity. Yes, she may have hated on Specktra and yes it may have made you angry, but sad to say it only serves to cement and reflect what those people on LJ have said about Specktra. Please rise above and don't say those kinds of things or resort to name-calling. Coming from an anorexic background myself, saying those kinds of things are seriously hurtful and no one raises an anorexic sufferer to be anorexic.

glam8babe's response:
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Originally Posted by glam8babe i completely understand, i've deleted all my comments now

Please don't think everyone one Specktra is hateful. I quote what I said earlier to glam8babe in the other thread that was discussing the drama with LJ and Specktra. I understand how you feel and everything as I have been anorexic before too and still relapse from time to time, and she completely understood and that was the reason why she deleted her comments. I know she understands they were hurtful to you.

Yes, it bothered me that she said those things too. That is why I said something. I know no one raises anyone to be anorexic I didn't ask for this eating disorder either. So please, just let it go. The drama should have been over once that LJ thread was removed.

 

[Jenna101]

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Originally Posted by frocher I don't think it is okay to insult someone for having an eating disorder, but she did remove her comments after she realized how hurtful it could be. You said you saw no value to this forum and deleted your account, now you reopen one just to complain about another member. I think you like drama and to stir the pot. If she removed her comments why come to a forum she frequents quite often to talk smack about her? What is your motive? BTW you called her an ass kisser, that's a little personal imo.

Calling someone an ass kisser is totally different than insulting someone with a life threatning disease. She removed her comments because she was asked to, not because she wanted to. Even after she removed them, she then put up more, which she then deleted again after I saw them. I have no motive? do I need one? Is that how Specktra is? you need a motive to post? lol. wow. And no, i do not not like to start drama, my life has enough drama. I wanted to call her out because she really did hurt me (I know no one here will give a crap, but hey, I do) and to prove that no, not everyone on here is nice. I didn't re open my account, my old account is Caitlin_J. This is my friend Jennas. So ya. All done explaining. Anything else?

 

[Jenna101]

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Originally Posted by darkishstar What I posted after I saw both of your guy's comments on the LJ thread: glam8babe's response: Please don't think everyone one Specktra is hateful. I quote what I said earlier to glam8babe in the other thread that was discussing the drama with LJ and Specktra. I understand how you feel and everything as I have been anorexic before too and still relapse from time to time, and she completely understood and that was the reason why she deleted her comments. I know she understands they were hurtful to you. Yes, it bothered me that she said those things too. That is why I said something. I know no one raises anyone to be anorexic I didn't ask for this eating disorder either. So please, just let it go. The drama should have been over once that LJ thread was removed.

I don't think everyone on here is hateful. You're proof that they aren't. I dont think she did understand that they were hurtful comments. She removed them because she knew she would get blasted for them. She left more after she deleted those other ones. Even worse ones. She made sure I saw them and replied to them, then she delted them again. I reported it, other members had seen what she had written. So now the thread is supposedly shut down.

 

[frocher]

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Originally Posted by Jenna101 Calling someone an ass kisser is totally different than insulting someone with a life threatning disease. She removed her comments because she was asked to, not because she wanted to. Even after she removed them, she then put up more, which she then deleted again after I saw them. I have no motive? do I need one? Is that how Specktra is? you need a motive to post? lol. wow. And no, i do not not like to start drama, my life has enough drama. I wanted to call her out because she really did hurt me (I know no one here will give a crap, but hey, I do) and to prove that no, not everyone on here is nice. I didn't re open my account, my old account is Caitlin_J. This is my friend Jennas. So ya. All done explaining. Anything else?

Calling someone out is drama. Also, posting a rant because someone hurt you is motive. I understand you being hurt, but spreading it around is not a healthy way to deal with it. When you get a little older, you will realize a retraction is as close as you usually get to an apology in the real world. What you seem to be asking for is a pound of flesh, to humiliate a member for what they said to you.

 

[Jenna101]

Anyways ladies, I will not be back to comment on this thread anymore. I have a life to tend to, or what's left of it. Glam8babe, I'm sure in person you are probably a sweet girl, but you really hurt me by saying those things. I know everyone is going to say "she removed them" ..and so on, but you did it because I reported you and you knew you'd get blasted. You then left more. I don't understand, you would say all those mean things to me because I insulted a makeup forum? I honestly don't get it. Maybe you should read up on anorexia before you insult someone and their mother. Thanks to the ladies who sent me really nice Pm's just now

I appreciate it.


Ciao.

 

[Korms]

If the comments were made on LiveJournal shouldn't this discussion remain there?

 

[darkishstar]

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Originally Posted by Jenna101 I don't think everyone on here is hateful. You're proof that they aren't. I dont think she did understand that they were hurtful comments. She removed them because she knew she would get blasted for them. She left more after she deleted those other ones. Even worse ones. She made sure I saw them and replied to them, then she delted them again. I reported it, other members had seen what she had written. So now the thread is supposedly shut down.

I guess I misunderstood then. I didn't see the additional ones after the first few were deleted after I said something. But she didn't remove them because I asked her to or anything, she removed them by herself--I didn't ask her to. Since I didn't see the additional comments, I'm taking a neutral stance on the whole situation. She's shouldn't have said those things, but you shouldn't have made this additional thread either.

I agree with others who have said that dwelling on this isn't healthy either. And I'll just say again that yes, this drama should have been over once the thread on LiveJournal was deleted.

Good luck with battling the disease. I wish you the best against it.