Is this going anywhere?

[CynicalViolet]

I'm at the point with this guy where we' date, and have slept together, but havn't exactly sworn off seeing other people. So, I asked him if this is going anywhere, if there's any potential, you know? Anyway, he told me that he thinks that I'm cool, but do to the travelling associated with his job right now (he's a contractor), he doesn't feel he could pull off a relationship, and would rather keep things casual. Am I being naive by hoping that he comes around or is this really going nowhere?

 

[MACATTAK]

I would just go by what he says. He wants to keep it casual, so in the meantime....keep your options open & if something great comes along go with it. When you are no longer available, he may have a change of heart. Don't count on that though, make sure to do what's best for you.

 

[Beauty Mark]

For now, it is what it is. Don't get your hopes up of this guy being your exclusive boyfriend, but it isn't exactly out of the question.

 

[Urbana]

i think you are naive yes, a bit. cos i think its just an excuse talking about his job. i mean, if a men really likes or loves someone then he tries.
anyway, maybe he just need to know you more. if it was me i would give him sometime. if after a whilei dont like the situation and nothing has changed then i'll get out

 

[kaliraksha]

I think he is clearly telling you "we are casual and I want to keep it casual"- now it's just for you to decide if that's what you want too or if it's enough?

 

[breathless]

eh. i'd find someone else.

 

[whiteflorals]

Some of the guy pals that I'm quite close with and we talk honestly about life and relationsships etc - based on our conversations, I've always gotten the impression that if a guy really likes a girl enough, they will be willing to adjust to accommodate a relationship. Eg. if it was going to be a long-distance relationship, they would be willing to commit because of the girl. A friend of mine has been in a long-distance relationship with her bf for coming to 4 years now. It all depends on what you're looking for out of the relationship - if you're searching for stability, this is not your only option and you can certainly do better

Always seeking something and knowing that you'll never be able to find it is emotionally draining - it takes a lot to decide to walk away, but the liberation you get back in return is infinite. I hope it all works out well for you

 

[makeupgal]

I agree with Urbana. If the guy really, honestly liked you, he would make it work and nothing would get in the way, not travel or distance. I say keep your options open and find someone else.

 

[CynicalViolet]

Thanks, you guys are great