it's always something

[kimmy]

i seriously think there might be something wrong with me now.

i met this man a few weeks ago. it seems to me that this is the man of my dreams. rugged good looks, a crooked smile and a winning personality in spite of a darkly dramatic past. this man is young, but has his life put together and has accomplished so much in his twenty five years. when i told him my hopes, he had nothing but words of encouragement for me, and his compliments were the most sincere i've ever been given.

unfortunately for me, he is a married man and has been for years.

i know it's wrong of me, but i can't stop thinking about him...and for the first time in my life, i'm feeling a little jealous. i keep wondering why she was lucky enough to find him first, and i can't stop hoping that she knows how lucky she is to have such a wonderful man to call her own.

a friend of his told me that she doesn't.

it seems so unfair to me. i don't know why i am falling so hard for someone i cannot have. he's loyal, and wouldn't persue anything with anyone else unless he was free of any commitment, which maybe is my favourite thing about him. i don't know...i don't know why there seems to be nobody for me in the entire world. i don't know why the man i think could be the one is already taken.

what do i do? i can't keep my mind off this man, and i hate it.

 

[user79]

I would try to stop contact with him, he's married, he's loyal, yeah just tons of red flags there. He's unattainable, and basically you are only wasting your time, and potentially setting yourself up for a world of heartbreak and damage.

But honestly, you are still quite young, there is still plenty of time for you to find a man and settle down. Enjoy your freedom while you can, and when you are having fun, you will meet someone that is perfect for you and will blow you out of the water.

 

[MACATTAK]

You really can't do anything. He's taken, so there is no possibility of anything. Now, if his situation changes, that's a different thing. Even if his wife doesn't appreciate how great he is, it still doesn't change the fact he is unavailable. It sucks, and it's not fair, but at least you are still young! I'm 27, and still haven't met that person, but until that happens, I'm trying to be a better person, make myself happy, and make the best out of my situation.

 

[pumpkincat210]

trust me it takes 309409375075 misses before you hit the one.
he's married so i'd cut off contact, just remember those qualities about him that turned you on for future reference.

 

[Babylard]

oh boo.. being in love with someone you cant be with feels horrible. it feels horrible knowing that this person loves someone else.

i guess you are better off distancing yourself a bit. that is what i have done. it sucks, but yeah

 

[lipstickandhate]

STOP RIGHT NOW. For real. I cannot begin to tell you the world of heartache you are in for should you choose to get involved w/a married man. It's never easy to realize that you really like someone but can't be with them and if you stay in contact with that person, it's unbearable torture. It's even harder if you begin to feel his partner doesn't value him like you do or doesn't love him the way you would. Just don't. Accept it as it is and move on.

You are smart, attractive, and very young. There are plenty of men yet to come who will value you and encourage your dreams. It's hard to wait, yes, but its much easier than trying to pick up the pieces after being an unsuccessful mistress.

FYI: I'm not just being holier-than-thou, I speak from experience- it truly sucks and I've never quite gotten that last little piece back. And he never left his wife.

 

[Willa]

For you to read us saying : just stop seing him, don't think about him, is hard to figure because you are 100% in this right now.

I don't know if you get my point (wish my english was better hahaha) but just try to see this whole story from our point of view. You'll see... you'll have plenty of other beautifull story to come

 

[kimmy]

i would never, ever get involved with someone who was already involved (married or even just in a relationship) i'm just having a tough time putting the distance. i have put alot, but it's so difficult.

 

[Babylard]

Keep up the good work! I hope things will work out for you.

 

[faithhopelove24]

Be hopeful

Your Mr. Right is out there just hang in there.

and best of all he'll be all yours and you won't have to share him with anyone else

 

[SparklingWaves]

This is called "the grass is greener across the street." It isn't. That lady has to deal with hearing his farts, burps, belches, bitching, etc. You don't.

I think you have a crush on a fantasy man, because you don't know this man from Jack street.

When I was on the dating scene, I saw some friends hook up with married guys and they had some major heartache. They got played by these guys. The guys got their free sex from from my friends and went home to their wives to get more booty. They would tell my friends sad stories of how bad it was at home, but never leave their so called mean wives. How did I know they got booty from the wives? Their wives got pregnant. hmmm

Don't go down Bad Street. Everyone gets beat up there and used. Don't do that to yourself. Fantasy is one thing. Just don't act on it. It will go away.

 

[lazytolove]

to me this is a very romantic relationship just like in many movies that i've watched =]. But this is reality... i think you should stop seeing him and move on. He married and you don't want to be the bad person breaking up their family right? =] There a bunch of fish in the sea, someday... you will meet the one just like him (not married). =]