Eoraptor
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Arghh. Hi girls. I'm feeling rather upset right now. To understand the whole story, I have to tell you about the holidays last month. But keep reading down, because the actual upsetting part is in the last paragraph.
So my extended family had a gift exchange where we wrote down three gift ideas, put them into a hat, and randomly got paired up to give gifts to each other. My three choices were Red Lobster gift certificate, subscription to Scientific American, and Darwin fish emblem for my car (remember my parents don't want me telling my relatives about my girly side, so I couldn't ask for makeup, etc.). Everyone else got something they requested, but what do I get? An emergency kit for my car?! *YAWN* As if I ever expressed an interest in cars... At least try to get me something I could like! But moving on...
For Christmas, I got my best friend Jenny an iPod. I knew she's wanted one for years, and hasn't had enough money. So I saved my tips for over a month and still had to pay for some of it with my credit card. She uses it every day and loves it. Chrstmas comes and she... hasn't decided on a gift for me yet. :| Four days after Christmas, she finally got me a gift. And what is it? A radar detector for my car (to see if a cop is tracking me). *YAWN again* Why?! Of all the things she could get me, why get me something I've never expressed interest in? I didn't expect her to spend a lot of money, since she's extremely poor, but I would have liked some thought to go into the gift. She knows me better than anyone except my parents, so I expected something I could enjoy. And as for my parents...
I did get some good things from them, but there was also another batch of gifts which I neither liked nor ever expressed interest in. A pocket-sized digital picture viewer? Wha? Cologne, which I've always told them I can't stand the smell of? And the main topic of this post, a really ugly coat. It's much oranger in person. For the record, I hate yellow and especially orange as clothing colors for myself. Mom knows this. There's not a single thing in my closet in those colors. She was like "I knew it would be a hard sell, especially after I saw how orange it was in person." So WHY get it for me in the first place?! Do people not know me? Do they not understand me? It's not like it was cheap either- $250!! Why spend so much on something you know I won't like? Ughh...
So now the stage is set for tonight's incident. I just sorta grumbled about all of the above and took it in stride. It wouldn't be worth a post here on it's own, but now you know the background of feeling like either the people closest to me don't understand me, or they don't bother taking the time to think of what I like.
My mom said I could pick out a coat for myself, and she'd buy that for me instead. So that was good. I skimmed a bit through Victoria's Secret online catalog and saw they had their coats on sale for <$100. I told mom and asked her if I could get two from there, since they were so much cheaper than the ugly $250 coat. She said yes, so that was good too. Yesterday, I finally sat down and looked for a long time online for coats I'd like. I measured my bust, waist and hips to make sure they'd fit. I found two, and sent my mom links to them. One is a peacoat in black, the other is a rose corduroy jacket. I've wanted a rose corduroy jacket for a year now, and look at the markdowns!
So I call my mom today, and she says "I saw the coats you wanted, but I can't buy you womens' coats. I just can't do it. I try to understand that side of you, but you'd look terrible in them. They'd never fit you. You don't have the body for it." Ouch! She'd get me that bulky piece of crap that both my girly and non-girly sides hate, but won't spend $100 less to get me two coats that are actually stylish and that (most importantly) I LIKE??!! Yes, the bust and hips would be a bit wide, but sheesh. It really upset me. It's like a slap in the face. Not only does she not understand me and didn't bother to even try to get me something I like, but she refused to get me something I do like now that she knows what that is. *sigh*
So my extended family had a gift exchange where we wrote down three gift ideas, put them into a hat, and randomly got paired up to give gifts to each other. My three choices were Red Lobster gift certificate, subscription to Scientific American, and Darwin fish emblem for my car (remember my parents don't want me telling my relatives about my girly side, so I couldn't ask for makeup, etc.). Everyone else got something they requested, but what do I get? An emergency kit for my car?! *YAWN* As if I ever expressed an interest in cars... At least try to get me something I could like! But moving on...
For Christmas, I got my best friend Jenny an iPod. I knew she's wanted one for years, and hasn't had enough money. So I saved my tips for over a month and still had to pay for some of it with my credit card. She uses it every day and loves it. Chrstmas comes and she... hasn't decided on a gift for me yet. :| Four days after Christmas, she finally got me a gift. And what is it? A radar detector for my car (to see if a cop is tracking me). *YAWN again* Why?! Of all the things she could get me, why get me something I've never expressed interest in? I didn't expect her to spend a lot of money, since she's extremely poor, but I would have liked some thought to go into the gift. She knows me better than anyone except my parents, so I expected something I could enjoy. And as for my parents...
I did get some good things from them, but there was also another batch of gifts which I neither liked nor ever expressed interest in. A pocket-sized digital picture viewer? Wha? Cologne, which I've always told them I can't stand the smell of? And the main topic of this post, a really ugly coat. It's much oranger in person. For the record, I hate yellow and especially orange as clothing colors for myself. Mom knows this. There's not a single thing in my closet in those colors. She was like "I knew it would be a hard sell, especially after I saw how orange it was in person." So WHY get it for me in the first place?! Do people not know me? Do they not understand me? It's not like it was cheap either- $250!! Why spend so much on something you know I won't like? Ughh...
So now the stage is set for tonight's incident. I just sorta grumbled about all of the above and took it in stride. It wouldn't be worth a post here on it's own, but now you know the background of feeling like either the people closest to me don't understand me, or they don't bother taking the time to think of what I like.
My mom said I could pick out a coat for myself, and she'd buy that for me instead. So that was good. I skimmed a bit through Victoria's Secret online catalog and saw they had their coats on sale for <$100. I told mom and asked her if I could get two from there, since they were so much cheaper than the ugly $250 coat. She said yes, so that was good too. Yesterday, I finally sat down and looked for a long time online for coats I'd like. I measured my bust, waist and hips to make sure they'd fit. I found two, and sent my mom links to them. One is a peacoat in black, the other is a rose corduroy jacket. I've wanted a rose corduroy jacket for a year now, and look at the markdowns!
So I call my mom today, and she says "I saw the coats you wanted, but I can't buy you womens' coats. I just can't do it. I try to understand that side of you, but you'd look terrible in them. They'd never fit you. You don't have the body for it." Ouch! She'd get me that bulky piece of crap that both my girly and non-girly sides hate, but won't spend $100 less to get me two coats that are actually stylish and that (most importantly) I LIKE??!! Yes, the bust and hips would be a bit wide, but sheesh. It really upset me. It's like a slap in the face. Not only does she not understand me and didn't bother to even try to get me something I like, but she refused to get me something I do like now that she knows what that is. *sigh*
