Lesson - Work crush

[MsCuppyCakes]

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[purrtykitty]

Oh, that's too bad. I don't mean to belittle your situation, but maybe it's for the best. Sometimes things can get pretty bad at work when a work relationship goes sour (happened where I used to work) and it's unpleasant for everyone that works with those two people. But, hey, who knows, maybe it will work out in the end...don't fixate on what happened and just move forward. He just may come to his senses!

 

[MsCuppyCakes]

Thanks for your kind words.

 

[Hilly]

What a toughie! IMP I think you should just act yourself! If he acts wierd and things have changed, maybe it just wasn't meant to be.

This is my mantra on dating....hope for the best, prepare for the worst

 

[MsCuppyCakes]

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Originally Posted by Hilly What a toughie! IMP I think you should just act yourself! If he acts wierd and things have changed, maybe it just wasn't meant to be. This is my mantra on dating....hope for the best, prepare for the worst

Thanks.

 

[kimmy]

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Originally Posted by purrtykitty Oh, that's too bad. I don't mean to belittle your situation, but maybe it's for the best. Sometimes things can get pretty bad at work when a work relationship goes sour (happened where I used to work) and it's unpleasant for everyone that works with those two people. But, hey, who knows, maybe it will work out in the end...don't fixate on what happened and just move forward. He just may come to his senses!

i totally agree with this.

at my last job, two coworkers had dated and things went bad. it made the whole work environment kind of hostile because you were either on his side or on hers and there were no two ways about it.

 

[frocher]

Sorry for the tough situation, hopefully it gets better soon.

 

[makeba]

having a crush on someone and it goes sour/weird is all together different from a relationship going sour. Stay blessed and remain yourself he could be going through some personal mess himself. dont sweat the small stuff!

 

[redambition]

working with the person you are seeing can be very difficult - mostly because you have to deal with them with your work hat on, then again on a personal level. it can work really well for some people, but it can be difficult to do. it is also pretty tricky if things go sour - you need the strength and a lot of self-control to stay professional in the work environment afterwards.

on him - even if something was said, it sounds like he doesn't want to deal with it, and is trying to avoid talking to you instead of being grown up about it.

remember it's his loss if he doesn't accept your invite!

 

[MsCuppyCakes]

Thanks I really appreciate it.

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Originally Posted by redambition working with the person you are seeing can be very difficult - mostly because you have to deal with them with your work hat on, then again on a personal level. it can work really well for some people, but it can be difficult to do. it is also pretty tricky if things go sour - you need the strength and a lot of self-control to stay professional in the work environment afterwards. on him - even if something was said, it sounds like he doesn't want to deal with it, and is trying to avoid talking to you instead of being grown up about it. remember it's his loss if he doesn't accept your invite!

 

[MACATTAK]

Don't worry about it. Don't act differently around him, just keep things work related. Give it time...things will blow over soon

 

[Beauty Mark]

I've been in this situation. Just keep it professional and act like nothing has happened. Believe me, even if it feels awkward, it begins to feel less awkward with time

 

[CantAffordMAC]

Friends can backstab sometimes. Maybe she talked to him about you behind your back, then encouraged you to continue to pursue him (kind of what it sounds like).

I would just watch her. And go to work like you're better than ever. Don't let them see you awkward or nervous--go with a little more pep in your step. It will pass.

Good luck

 

[user79]

It is risky, but sometimes relationships that start at work actually can work. It doesn't sound like in your case like it can. But I met my bf at work, and we are still together 8 years later! We don't work together anymore though, hehe.

 

[omg banana]

I met my boyfriend at work. It was actually perfectly fine between us, but everyone we worked with had a problem with it, even though it was none of their business. They tried as hard as they could to get us to break up, my general manager even called me into his office one night and told me that my boyfriend is a cheater and an alcoholic (both of which are entirely NOT true). It was ridiculous. We actually both ended up quitting about 4 months after we started dating, but it was just because we both got better jobs.

 

[MsCuppyCakes]

That's great. I'm glad this worked out for you.

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Originally Posted by omg banana I met my boyfriend at work. It was actually perfectly fine between us, but everyone we worked with had a problem with it, even though it was none of their business. They tried as hard as they could to get us to break up, my general manager even called me into his office one night and told me that my boyfriend is a cheater and an alcoholic (both of which are entirely NOT true). It was ridiculous. We actually both ended up quitting about 4 months after we started dating, but it was just because we both got better jobs.

 

[Honey B. Fly]

thats really weird, he sounds kind of immature though, i hate when people avoid situations, just be upfront about wtf ur thinking