Low sex drive/weak libido?

[EmbalmerBabe]

Hey hey hey now....
Not that this really applies to me now that I am single and probably
won't have sex again for quite a while. My sex drive has been
weak and my libido is not as strong as I would like.
I do not take any medications currently so that cannot be a factor.
I was attracted to my ex very much so but I never got horny often.
What is wrong with me? Haha! I would like to have a very strong
libido so I can enjoy sex to the fullest and I want to be having
more of it....but I just don't get the physical feeling!

Are there any good pills or anything? thankyou ladies *hugs*

 

[Shimmer]

How old are you?

 

[MissMarley]

I'm in the same boat. No sex drive at all. And I'm 23. (and on Zoloft, Xanax, Depakote, and I use the Nuva Ring)

 

[a914butterfly]

im always horney and thinking about sex and would love to make love to my hubby every night, but he is the one with a small libido. he is always tired or busy at the gym or busy trying to get the baby to go to bed and by the time she goes to sleep, its late or he falls asleep himself. i guess im a healthy normal 38 yr old ( i will be 39 in may). i guess everyone is different.

 

[EmbalmerBabe]

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Originally Posted by Shimmer How old are you?

23 years

 

[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by EmbalmerBabe Hey hey hey now.... Not that this really applies to me now that I am single and probably won't have sex again for quite a while. My sex drive has been weak and my libido is not as strong as I would like. I do not take any medications currently so that cannot be a factor. I was attracted to my ex very much so but I never got horny often. What is wrong with me? Haha! I would like to have a very strong libido so I can enjoy sex to the fullest and I want to be having more of it....but I just don't get the physical feeling! Are there any good pills or anything? thankyou ladies *hugs*

Umm... lol... I was saying in the other thread, i tend to get turned on at times when I can't get laid, like at work, or when i'm away from him etc. And by the time I got home, I wasn't into it anymore lol...

My suggestions...

I think your libido is very mental... I know it's stilly, but it really is all in your head. Your single like me, so it's not the biggest deal. But when you are in a relationship, i'd suggest doing things out of the ordinary. Sex in a bed, at night, right before your going to go to sleep, really isn't that exciting.

Mix it up a little. If you have a job consider having a lunch time quickie. Nothing like a little being naughty at lunch and comming back to work a little flushed to get your libido going. Do your co-workers know? Can they tell? Do you smelll like sex? LOL...

Or indulge in your fantasies.

We all have them, and having sex that isn't Vanilla, in missionary position, in a bed, with your husband, is OK to have. And the fact that it is a fantasy, and a little naughty, might help yah get going.

Talk dirty ;p I know it seems silly, but it can help. Nothing wrong with being a sultry vixen in bed, and the nice girl next door everywhere else.

I dunno... Just some of the things that work for me. I think being naughty and doing things that nice girls dont do, it really hot. Sex on the beach. Sex in his car. Sex at his office ;p HAHA...

Bedrooms are boring =P

 

[EmbalmerBabe]

Lol Raerae....I like how you think!

 

[ginger9]

Hmmm, if I may be so bold. Do you masterbate? If not I suggest you do and make sure you can give yourself an orgasm. Knowing what and where pleases you is the 1st step

 

[saniyairshad]

It's normal, to go through low levels and then going to high levels. It depends on what is going on in your life. If you are stressed and constantly occupied you might not be thinking about sex all the time. But, when you're idle and just laying around..think about it, and Im pretty sure the thought of thinking about sex would get u flustered

 

[EmbalmerBabe]

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Originally Posted by ginger9 Hmmm, if I may be so bold. Do you masterbate? If not I suggest you do and make sure you can give yourself an orgasm. Knowing what and where pleases you is the 1st step

Yes of course I have two BOB'S (battery operated boyfriends that is...)!
I could not be without!

 

[chillipea]

I started taking a zinc supplement in addition to my normal multivitamins to assist with a similar problem. Zinc apparently helps with testosterone production and emotional wellbeing. But you have to take the zinc separately from the multivitamin - eg take the multi in the morning and the zinc at night. I remember reading that one of the other ingredients in a multivitamin may prevent proper zinc absorption.
I also started meditating to reduce stress (I was in a very very stressful job) as stress reduces your libido. Afterall, it's difficult to be in the mood if your mind won't stop racing because of work.

 

[dmenchi]

how long has it been going on? I personally go through phases, where my Bh do it several times a day to when we don't do it for weeks...it's wired, but i think flactuation is normal.

 

[EmbalmerBabe]

I have had the problem for the past couple of years I would say.

 

[Urbana]

when i was with my exboy i was so low, i felt so sad i just couldnt do anything

but i left him and after that its like horny every minute of the day!!!!! i found i guy i liked and knew, and we did it, but i dumped him and i have none now again.
im not feeling so horny all the time now, but maybe it gets worst. its a problem girls!!!