Man, I never thought I would say this but I really need a friend right now.

[Hawkeye]

Usually I can sort through my own thoughts and stuff by myself but here lately, I just can't. A lot of it is kind of personal and I don't want to really burden too many people with it but man. I mean I guess I'm so frustraited because a lot has gone on and-ok I'm gonna sound so stuck up right now but it annoys me because when anyone else has a problem I'm there for them amoung my friends but when I have a problem- theres nobody I can really talk to. After all I'm the one who can see things clearly and give the most sound advice (My friends tell me that-whether or not its true is a different story) and its so annoying because when *I* need to talk to someone I get my friends life story and quite frankly, I'm not interested in it. There are times I WANT TO TALK ABOUT ME DAMNIT and MY hopes and dreams and make sure I'm going the right way but ugh. I dunno.

Thanks for letting me rant.

 

[f1rewater]

Let it all out, tell us what's bothering you. You have been there with hugs and words of encouragement for a lot of people, the least we can do is hear you out and if you want it, give you some advice.

 

[caffn8me]

Awwww - I'm sorry things are getting you down but I know what you mean. I'm way better at solving other people's problems and lots of folks come to me because of that. It's always difficult for me to discuss my own problems with others though but that's as much to do with me as them.

What you need is a sympathetic ear and I don't think it has to be one of your existing friends but just someone who is non-judgemental and willing to listen.

If there's anything you think I can do to help, just ask.

 

[sexypuma]

I am sorry that you are feeling like that. When people know that there is a person they can rely on no matter what, they usually tak for granted that this person is just as human as them. He/She has troubles on his/her own and might need help too. My older sister had this issue as well, until one day she got pissed off at one of her friends and complained to me that she always there for everybody else and she was tired that none of them would do the same for her. It occured to me that day that i had treated her the same all along. Since then, our relationship changed. It is more balanced now. All this to say that you should totally speak out to the person in your entourage that you trust the most and feel closer to. In addition you could share with the specktra family. You know we will always be here for you.

 

[kaliraksha]

Oh nooo! You are so right... you are level headed and I love your advice. I've been in your boat amogst a group of friends before... it really sucked because then it sort of became who I was and I didn't want to break that.

Pick a your most trusted friend and speak out! I think it can definitely make a difference in a relationship... bring you guys closer. Or write your feelings in a journal... and a few days later visit it as if you were reading a friends... and give yourself advice =)

 

[LisaR]

Rant away. It's a bummer but sometimes even our most trusted tried and true friends aren't always the listeners we need them to be. Even best friends can lapse into a temporary "self-focused" fog for a time and be of zero help when all you need to do is sit down and spew it all out for a while.

Sometimes it helps to journal about it when no one's willing to listen. If it's something you can put here, do it! My guess is you'll be overwhelmed with support and maybe receive some options/thoughts you hadn't considered. If it's feelings you need verified I know you'll probably find that here too. Already your post has struck a similar note with some. I know it has for me.

Hope the frustration gets some release,

Lisa

 

[sharyn]

we might not all share your obsession with Star Trek (harr harr harrrrrr), but most of the Specktrettes still understand what it's like feeling like no one in the whole world actually listens to what you have to say... Talking about YOU, YOUR DREAMS and YOUR HOPES is so so improtant cause thats what you need to really get to know yourself... so let it aaaaaaall out!!!

 

[LMcConnell18]

i feel ya on this one!!

 

[Beauty Mark]

People are so selfish sometimes, even one's friends. Those people can turn almost any conversation back to them; if it weren't so annoying and thoughtless, it's almost an amazing talent. If you need to rant somewhere, here is better than nowhere.

 

[jinsy]

so agree with you, Beauty Mark

 

[giz2000]

Just let it all out...we're here for ya!

 

[Hawkeye]

Thanks ladies.

Seriously, I wish I could. It's just so complicated. If I even began on here i would confuse you all in the first two or three sentences. :/

Oh well.

Thanks for your support. *HUGS*