Moving Out With Boyfriend

macface

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IM 23 AND MY BOYFRIEND IS 22 WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 5YRS.WE HAVE A 2YR OLD DAUGTHER AND WE STILL DONT STAY TOGETHER.IM GETTING TIRED OF WAITING.HIS EXCUSE IS HE NEEDS AND 2ND JOB.I HAVE A JOB BUT I WANT TO FINISH COLLEGE TOO.HE STILL STAYS WITH HIS PARENTS.I STAY WITH MY AUNT EVERYBODY TELLS ME TO LEAVE HIM AND HIS A MAMAS BOY AND IRRESPONSSIBLE. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
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~LadyLocks~

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Hmmm... I say do whatever you thinks best for you and your child even if that means leaving him. You can only wait for someone for so long until you get tired of waiting and decide to move forward on your own. I think if he really wanted to move then it would of already happened. He's probably really comfortable at his parents and doesn't really see the need to move out and pay bills and be responsible which is pretty sad being this he's a dad. It just sounds like he's not ready to grow up and live in the real world and handle his priorites. His parents probably baby him and that's why he's lagging on finding a 2nd job. I say you give him a time frame. Either step it up and find the 2nd job and show he wants to be with you and your daughter or else...

If he still doesn't by whatever time you give him, then I think you know what you need to do. I know it's something you probably don't want to think about but like I said earlier, you have to do what's best for you and your daughter!

Hope everything works out for you hun, just remember...you have to be strong for you daughter, it's not about you anymore...
 

MiCHiE

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So, do you just want to live with him or do you want to marry him? You 2 have a child together. Don't settle for one if you really want the other. You'll be living together and then looking for a ring. But, if he's an irresponsible mama's boy, don't count on either to change him.
 

Lalli

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talk to him.. maybe he thinks moving in=marriage, if you can both honestly afford a place together then move out but if hes using gettin another job as an excuse mayb he is just a mommys boy
 

giz2000

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Mama's boy = bad news. Take care of your baby and yourself...let his mommy take care of him...move on, girl....hugs to you.
 

M

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I say depend on yourself. If he's made excuses this long, then he doing it for an obvious reason. Why would he want to leave his mom-then he would have to be a man and it def. doesn't would like he is ready for that. I say finish school and move on! You are SO young-please don't settle for him just because you've been together for 5 years and have a child together. Be truly happy-you only have one life.
 

DaizyDeath

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Maybe hes not a mama's boy and its not beacuse he wants to get another job. Maybe hes just afraid to settle down with you he could just be using those things as an excuse atleast thats what it sounds like to me. If you and him are already having troubles before you move in with eachother then its probably just going to get worse once your together more often. But for the sake of your daughter try to work things out with him and talk to him. Im shure if you ask him for the truth about what he wants to do with the rest of you lives together he'll answer honestly and i mean ask not demand try to be as nice as your can about it.

but thats just my opinion.
good luck hun
 
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