CantAffordMAC
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Okay. So in January '06 I started talking to this guy, we'll call him B. We went out twice, I didn't like him that much but I was looking for someone to just hang out with and get me out of my house. One day when we were hanging out, he had taken me to his friends house. His friend wasn't even home. (He took me there to try and have sex with me) We weren't there long, and his friend came home and introduced himself and kind of flirted with me. Let's call his friend M.
M added me to his myspace. We talked on the phone a bit, and he initiated a lot of flirtation and suggestive comments...I flirted back sometimes but for the most part, we just talked on the phone as friends for like a week or 2.
Now, while all this was happening, another guy added me on myspace. We talked for 2 months on the phone, and now he is my current boyfriend of almost 2 years. M and my boyfriend have been friends since childhood.
The whole time me and my boyfriend have been together, M would make smart comments to my boyfriend relating to my family members (when we'd go out of state to visit my family, M would tell my boyfriend "Oh tell her mom and sister I said hi"....basically trying to imply that he was close to me at some point) My boyfriend would get mad, and they were on/off friends a lot of the time because M was a loser, a bum, moocher, drunk, etc. M was always telling my boyfriend that he had talked to me first.
Anywho. In the past several months, I've been trying to be nicer to M (I always had a problem with him because I felt he was lying to my bf about how we used to "talk). I figured I'd drop the whole thing and just start off new. So my boyfriend began going to M's house, chatting on the phone with him more, and that was fine. I'd even say hi. Now in December, M is on the phone with my boyfriend and says "Yeah I talked to her for like 3 days and then cut her off" (talking about me). For some reason my boyfriend didn't get mad but he told me about it and I told him I felt disrespected. I felt as though M was trying to disrespect our relationship--M and I were never anything more than friends, and I was never interested in him. So my bf got mad and called M to confront him. He puts M on speakerphone and M is complimenting me, saying that I was beautiful and I was one of the prettiest girls around, and that the only reason we ever talked on the phone was because he wanted someone to talk to as he was getting out of a bad relationship. He said he never meant any disrespect. So we all dropped it.
Fast forward to New Years Eve. Me and the bf went to M's house for a little get-together. There was maybe 9 people there (Including M and his girlfriend, and me and my bf) When we came in, M stood up to greet us and gave me a big long hug, and we all had a great time. I had so much fun--it was my first NYE actually doing something, and M and his girlfriend were just so nice. We were all getting along wonderfully. Everyone was also drunk. I used to drink, but I haven't done so in at least a couple years. I wasn't in control of myself anymore. My boyfriend and I ended up arguing, at one point M came over to me and gave me another hug to try and console me. I really felt as though M was trying to help us with our relationship as much as possible.
Me and my boyfriend argued 2 days after that, and he called M for some advice. M was telling him that we argue all the time over stupid things, and that if he were my boyfriend, he would have left a long time ago. He was basically saying that I am trying to control him, and that my boyfriend is a man and he can do what he wants, blah blah blah. Me and my boyfriend do argue over really immature things sometimes. We need to work on it, but its our business. My bf shouldn't have called for M's advice...M was trying to persuade my bf to not be with me anymore. M was texting my boyfriend all night about it, still saying negative things about the way I am to my bf, and about our relationship. My boyfriend called M today to ask him a question about a problem with his car (My bf gets very upset at certain things, like money, jobs, car, his hair) and when he called, M told him "why are you so angry? calm down. You never used to get angry like this..." and me and my boyfriend agree that M was implying that I have changed my bf into an angry person.
I'm not sure what to think. I don't know why M was so nice and friendly on NYE, and then trying to persuade my bf to leave me 2 days later. I have an idea as to why...but I don't want to jump to conclusions. My boyfriend doesn't really care about what M has to say, but I was really looking forward to hanging out with M and his gf again, and now I'm not too sure. (BTW, my boyfriend knows a lot about M's relationship with his gf....and he says that they fight about immature things constantly as well, that they have the exact same kind of relationship that we have, so he doesn't understand why M acts as though their relationship is better than ours)
Any thoughts, suggestions, anything? Thanks a lot
M added me to his myspace. We talked on the phone a bit, and he initiated a lot of flirtation and suggestive comments...I flirted back sometimes but for the most part, we just talked on the phone as friends for like a week or 2.
Now, while all this was happening, another guy added me on myspace. We talked for 2 months on the phone, and now he is my current boyfriend of almost 2 years. M and my boyfriend have been friends since childhood.
The whole time me and my boyfriend have been together, M would make smart comments to my boyfriend relating to my family members (when we'd go out of state to visit my family, M would tell my boyfriend "Oh tell her mom and sister I said hi"....basically trying to imply that he was close to me at some point) My boyfriend would get mad, and they were on/off friends a lot of the time because M was a loser, a bum, moocher, drunk, etc. M was always telling my boyfriend that he had talked to me first.
Anywho. In the past several months, I've been trying to be nicer to M (I always had a problem with him because I felt he was lying to my bf about how we used to "talk). I figured I'd drop the whole thing and just start off new. So my boyfriend began going to M's house, chatting on the phone with him more, and that was fine. I'd even say hi. Now in December, M is on the phone with my boyfriend and says "Yeah I talked to her for like 3 days and then cut her off" (talking about me). For some reason my boyfriend didn't get mad but he told me about it and I told him I felt disrespected. I felt as though M was trying to disrespect our relationship--M and I were never anything more than friends, and I was never interested in him. So my bf got mad and called M to confront him. He puts M on speakerphone and M is complimenting me, saying that I was beautiful and I was one of the prettiest girls around, and that the only reason we ever talked on the phone was because he wanted someone to talk to as he was getting out of a bad relationship. He said he never meant any disrespect. So we all dropped it.
Fast forward to New Years Eve. Me and the bf went to M's house for a little get-together. There was maybe 9 people there (Including M and his girlfriend, and me and my bf) When we came in, M stood up to greet us and gave me a big long hug, and we all had a great time. I had so much fun--it was my first NYE actually doing something, and M and his girlfriend were just so nice. We were all getting along wonderfully. Everyone was also drunk. I used to drink, but I haven't done so in at least a couple years. I wasn't in control of myself anymore. My boyfriend and I ended up arguing, at one point M came over to me and gave me another hug to try and console me. I really felt as though M was trying to help us with our relationship as much as possible.
Me and my boyfriend argued 2 days after that, and he called M for some advice. M was telling him that we argue all the time over stupid things, and that if he were my boyfriend, he would have left a long time ago. He was basically saying that I am trying to control him, and that my boyfriend is a man and he can do what he wants, blah blah blah. Me and my boyfriend do argue over really immature things sometimes. We need to work on it, but its our business. My bf shouldn't have called for M's advice...M was trying to persuade my bf to not be with me anymore. M was texting my boyfriend all night about it, still saying negative things about the way I am to my bf, and about our relationship. My boyfriend called M today to ask him a question about a problem with his car (My bf gets very upset at certain things, like money, jobs, car, his hair) and when he called, M told him "why are you so angry? calm down. You never used to get angry like this..." and me and my boyfriend agree that M was implying that I have changed my bf into an angry person.
I'm not sure what to think. I don't know why M was so nice and friendly on NYE, and then trying to persuade my bf to leave me 2 days later. I have an idea as to why...but I don't want to jump to conclusions. My boyfriend doesn't really care about what M has to say, but I was really looking forward to hanging out with M and his gf again, and now I'm not too sure. (BTW, my boyfriend knows a lot about M's relationship with his gf....and he says that they fight about immature things constantly as well, that they have the exact same kind of relationship that we have, so he doesn't understand why M acts as though their relationship is better than ours)
Any thoughts, suggestions, anything? Thanks a lot
