My childhood friend was murdered this past Wednesday...

[MAC_Pixie04]

He and a friend were heading home and made a pit stop and someone walked up to them, shot them and drove off. The night before, someone, police assume the same suspect, shot and killed another young man a few blocks away from where my friend was murdered.

I know it seems a bit silly to ask, but especially during this time of year, I ask that anyone even remotely touched by the story please keep the families of these young men in mind. My friend was an only child, and I can't imagine the pain and turmoil in a mother or father's heart when their only child is killed in cold blood this way.

The full story so far...
My friend is the one on the right in the 2nd slide

I'm also feeling really weird/guilty/etc right now because I was thinking of calling him a few days before or stopping by his house to say hey, and I didn't have time. And now i'll never get to again. I know it probably wouldn't have saved his life or stopped him from being in that place at that time, but it still would have been nice to see him or talk to him even for just a few minutes. And i feel really bad for his girlfriend; she's very young (i think she's 17) and i know this is really tearing her apart. But I don't know her very well and don't know how to approach sending my condolences her way.

it's just a horrible and sickening experience; i've never known anyone who was deliberately killed and I dont know really how to cope...

 

[redambition]

oh my god. massive hugs to you sweetie, that's so sad.

my sympathies to you, your family and the family of your friend.

it's sickening that someone could do something like that that. I hope they catch the scum responsible and lock them away for good.

*hugs*

 

[Beauty Mark]

I'm so sorry tht happened.

When I've had to deal with close deaths, the condolences that meant the most to me were the people I never expected to say anything. A card or simply saying something small may carry more weight than you realize.

 

[prinzessin784]

That's terrible! I don't even know what I could say that would make you feel better, but I will keep you and them in my thoughts!

 

[Hawkeye]

*HUGS*

That's horrible

How could someone be so...cold to do that?

*HUGS*

It's funny how thoughts just fleet our mind isn't it? Don't beat yourself up over it or fill guilty. You will always have him in your heart and as long as he's there you won't ever forget him.

just be there for his family and just approach his girlfriend-you are (or I have always percieved you to be) such a kind, wonderful person. Very nurturing. And you could do his girlfriend a lot of good just by being there for her as well. You already have this horrible situation in common.

*HUGS* The family and friends are in my prayers.

 

[MAC_Pixie04]

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Originally Posted by youbeabitch *HUGS* That's horrible How could someone be so...cold to do that? *HUGS* It's funny how thoughts just fleet our mind isn't it? Don't beat yourself up over it or fill guilty. You will always have him in your heart and as long as he's there you won't ever forget him. just be there for his family and just approach his girlfriend-you are (or I have always percieved you to be) such a kind, wonderful person. Very nurturing. And you could do his girlfriend a lot of good just by being there for her as well. You already have this horrible situation in common. *HUGS* The family and friends are in my prayers.

My friend and I are going to see his mother and father today and i'm going to have to fight so hard not to get too emotional in front of them and get them upset. I sometimes can be too emotional, I sometimes don't know how to cope with things. And it's weird, I didn't start to get upset about it until I saw it on the news two days later. I found out the day of, but it didn't hit me until 2 days after when they covered the story in detail, interviewed one of the mothers, some friends, and put up their photos. Then it all came crashing down on me and I've been choking back tears ever since.

 

[~LadyLocks~]

OMG

...I'm so sorry hun! My heart goes out to thoes that were closes to him. I will definitely keep them in prayer!

 

[sadieboo]

I am so sorry - you are all in my prayers. Make sure you have someone to talk to about this - nurturers need nurturing too!

 

[*Stargazer*]

That is so horribly sad. My thoughts are with you and the families of these three young men.

 

[Bernadette]

I am so sorry. His friends and family are all in my thoughts. I don't think you should be afraid to send your condolences to anyone, the best thing to do is just be honest. Seeing how many people cared about your friend and care about her will provide some amount of comfort to his girlfriend.
I think that anytime someone passes there is an amount of guilt felt by those that knew them. There is always that "I should have done this or said that" feeling. It's only natural but try not to be too hard on yourself. Everything happens for a reason.
Take care hun.

 

[jenii]

I'm so sorry... That's a terrible thing to happen. I especially feel bad for his parents. I don't even want to imagine how much pain they are in, especially his mother. I'm a mother, and I know it would kill me to lose a child.

 

[Hawkeye]

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Originally Posted by MAC_Pixie04 My friend and I are going to see his mother and father today and i'm going to have to fight so hard not to get too emotional in front of them and get them upset. I sometimes can be too emotional, I sometimes don't know how to cope with things. And it's weird, I didn't start to get upset about it until I saw it on the news two days later. I found out the day of, but it didn't hit me until 2 days after when they covered the story in detail, interviewed one of the mothers, some friends, and put up their photos. Then it all came crashing down on me and I've been choking back tears ever since.

*HUGS*

Just go ahead and let it out. It's OK to cry!
Sometimes-it's just shock and other times it's just doesn't seem real. KWIM? Go ahead and cry and offer what you can to his mom and dad. They are going to need all the love they can get

*HUGS*

 

[Kiseki]

My prayers are with his familly, loved ones and you.

Even though we do not know each other, believe that you have my deepest condolences. Although right now all thoughts must be pouring in your head, do believe me when I tell you that you shouldn't be blaming yourself for actions you did not take.

Truth is, no one is prepared for death, no matter how much we believe we are and for such a brutal and cruel one like your friend's is even more shocking and traumatic.

Allow yourself to let it all out, cry if you want to, scream as well...

If you don't know how to approach his familly and loved ones just hold them tight, give them a hug, your feelings of love most likely will reach them and sometimes actions do speak louder than words.

Nothing than I can say can aleviate your pain, but I shall be praying for all.

 

[MAC_Pixie04]

Thanks everybody.

i went up to see his parents today and pay my respects. they're trying to be so strong, but i know they're really hurting. we also found out that his girlfriend is expecting a baby, which really sent me over the edge to think that she'll be born without a father and never get to know what a great person he truly was. but at the same time i'm glad, because now his family will have a little piece of him in her.

 

[giz2000]

That's so heartbreaking...I cannot imagine what his parents must be going through...as well as his girlfriend.

Hugs to you as well...

 

[Beauty Mark]

I'm sure the girlfriend and his family will be sure to let him know what a great person he was.

I don't know how much you want to be involved, but speaking from personal experience, it's kind of important keep checking up on them during the first year or so. When my mother died suddenly (not murdered, thank God), people were initially all around for the first week, then it stopped. The few people who did keep in touch and check up on how we were doing- that was really wonderful to have.

 

[MAC_Pixie04]

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Originally Posted by Beauty Mark I'm sure the girlfriend and his family will be sure to let him know what a great person he was. I don't know how much you want to be involved, but speaking from personal experience, it's kind of important keep checking up on them during the first year or so. When my mother died suddenly (not murdered, thank God), people were initially all around for the first week, then it stopped. The few people who did keep in touch and check up on how we were doing- that was really wonderful to have.

me and my friends have already promised to visit their parents at least once a month if possible. i know that's really important. it's always considered a formality to come the week of and make the courtesy call, but after the funeral, most people just let go and stop caring about the family, but i've already sworn i wouldn't do that.

 

[Lalli]

I'm really sorry about your friend my thoughts are with his family and with you

i know this may sound weird but its a good thing his girlfriend is pregnant, she's got something of his which can be rememberd forever and that baby will hopefully be a ray of hope for everyone, his body may be gone but his soul is still there looking over his loved ones. all you can do is be strong and be there 4 them

 

[coachkitten]

I am praying that the person(s) who did this are brought to justice. I am so sorry for your lost. I am praying for you!

 

[MAC_Pixie04]

I went to the funeral today...
It was a nice ceremony. People stood up to tell stories and fond memories of Marcelles and we laughed about some of the things he did and there were pictures of him all over and beautiful words by the pastors of his church. But then during the parting view, we walked up to his casket to say goodbye to him and I lost it. I couldn't believe what I was seeing.

But he looked so beautiful. He didn't even look dead. He looked so peaceful, like he was sleeping. And he wasn't ashy like other bodies I've seen at funerals, he was still glowing with life and he looked almost like he could sit up at any moment and wipe away all the tears that were being shed. I'm so happy that I got to go and say goodbye to him and pay my respects. But i'm still so hurt that my friend was taken away from me so young in life, and I'm gonna be touched by him forever, and I'm truly going to miss him.