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Originally Posted by pratbc
Your hubby sounds just like my ex-husband- totally controlling. I, too, could not have any friends and he loathed any forums or chat I would have on the computer (even though he spent most of his time in front of a computer playing video games). Things got worse and he started not liking me wearing makeup or nice clothes that didn't fully cover me up. Unfortunately, I ended up taking my son and just leaving him because it got so bad.
My advice to you is to talk to him and tell him how you feel. If he does not let up after you talk then you may want to consider some different options.
You do not have to put up with being controlled like that. I now feel so incredibly free, it is amazing.
If you ever want someone to talk to, you can always PM me. I was definitely in your shoes a year and a half ago.
I hope everything works out for the best.
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Thank You... he has asked me "what happened to the old me?" I used to dress up all the time & got myself all 'dun' up. But I was thin then, now I've gained weight since him & I got together, I dress up like "whatever", lol. Sad to say, but the only "dressing up" I do is for work-- all black, like I'm attending a funeral. But all black has always been my style.
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Originally Posted by TDoll
Wow..that's tough. What hobbies does he have? Does he like cars or video games or anything like that?? Because you need to talk to him, --no matter how stupid you think he's going to make you feel -- you need to sit him down and talk to him and compare Specktra and makeup to his hobbies and the ways he spends his free time.
I hope everything works out. That totally sucks and he should be supportive of what you do in your free time. Especially since it's something that obviously makes you happy.
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He's definetly into cars. That's how he feel in love with me, lol. I busted my hood open and checked my oil.
Video games and football are no-no's. My ex was more into those 2 than he was into me (so that was a lesson learned). Otherwise we share the same "hobbie" of traveling-- I love going to new places, but financially, that sometimes is impossible.
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Originally Posted by xxManBeaterxx
Wow.. I see nothing wrong with browsing online and chatting on forums. What does he expect you to do? clean all day???
You need some friends back girl, relationships are most happiest when the two couples have hobbies together as well as individually. Its time to get a life hun, but first off you need to talk to him about it, an unhappy wife makes an unhappy husband. You should maybe get a part time job, it does get boring staying at home after a while. But if something is troubling you, it never hurts to talk to him.
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Yea, some of my friends try to contact me but they are still the same since high school (which is sort of a bad thing)... They were great friends but thier moto's were "Work hard, play harder". So my girls have been attending college and working part time in retail but they party sooo hard that they wake up not remembering anything (and that's often). Otherwise, my so-called "best friend", just had a baby with a random stranger (she was dating him for 2 months, saying that she loves him. The next thing you know, she's pregnant and the guy denies it's his and runs off).
So I guess it's okay to get that "drama" out of my life b/c I want kids soon (and raise them in a good environment) but I don't know if that can happen. I've been having period issues (or lack there of; I know... t.m.i, lol, but were all girls here).
And yes, I do have a job! I'm a personal assistant. But I really need a better paying job (but I'm just scared to go to something new & big, I need to break that habit).
Thanks Y'all for your comments!
I think the "hubby" was just talking out of his ass. But I'm still watching him. I've jokingly have told him if he doesn't be nice to me, I'll kill him in his sleep.
I've earned the nicknames: "Holly from Hell", "Lucifer", "Diablo" (Devil in Spanish)... so my hubby won't get away with his Anti-Specktranisim.
