euphrosyne_rose
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My youngest sister is 23. 3 years ago she met this guy and they are now married as of March. Pretty much none of my family likes this guy. We tolerate him and even that's a chore. He's a super Baptist, but a hypocritical one. Long story.
My sister was raised Catholic, though we didn't practice it much. Since meeting him she has completely changed and has taken his religion and his beliefs as her own. She has completely lost the ability to think for herself and the rest of us are going to hell for not believing what they believe.
Not long after she met him, his family started having problems with their living situation and my mom offered to let him stay with us. He ended up staying for over a year, even though the living situation was resolved. He never offered to help buy groceries, help pay any rent or bills and stayed locked up in my sister's room with her. BUT, he is a big believer that sex before marriage is a big NO NO. This is where the hypocrisy comes in. He obviously had no problems shacking up with my sister b/c we all knew they were having sex, but yet his "conscience" would get the best of him and she'd tell us he was sleeping on the floor. A few days later they'd be in the same bed, NOT having sex. Hrmp. Whatever!
He preaches to the rest of us about what the Bible says and belives that any religion other than his own is wrong. He discriminates against people. He talks bad about African Americans, homosexuals, and anyone that is not Baptist, but yet he is so sure he's an upright Christian that does no wrong b/c he has God.
So, finally my parents tell my sister that he has to move out. He moves out and she goes with him. But he keeps having issues b/c of his belief that living together before marriage is also wrong. So once again when HIS conscience starts to bother him, he sends her back to our house only to have her come back when he can't keep his eye on her. He monitors her every move. One night she was working late and he was over at our house. He kept fussing about where she was and I told him that I knew she was working late b/c she needed the hours. He actually called the store she was working at to find out why she wasn't home!! He has to know where she is every second. If she is visiting us and he isn't there, he calls about 3 times and then calls within 10 seconds of her leaving to find out where she is!
He is also very adamant about pushing his beliefs onto the rest of us. He and I got into a huge argument b/c he said that he thought gay people were nasty and they should just keep their feelings to themselves and never have relationships. I asked him, "So these people that can't help how they feel should just have no human contact or no love in their life b/c you can't deal with it? How is that fair? Love is love, whether it's with a man or a woman." So, I guess I'm going to hell b/c I don't have any problems with homosexuality. Oh, and you shouldn't buy gas from those "rug heads" b/c that's just supporting Afghanistan and Iraq. WTF????? He's with the National Guard and hates it, but he acts like he's the big soldier b/c he was in Afghanistan for a few months. He never saw battle that I know of and he's trying to get out of being with the NG but had the audacity to tell my dad who's a retired Navy chief that his service of over 20 years really meant nothing b/c he never fired a gun. That went over really well.
He also has a problem when you tell him "no". He comes from a family where hugging and telling someone "I love you" all the time is a big deal. We were not raised that way and he's determined to push those habits on me and my other sister (who despises him). He makes me very uncomfortable when he forces the hugs on me and I have told him this several times. He tells me something is wrong with me b/c "human touch is a part of life and hugs are part of that." Ok, dude. I don't have problems with hugs. I have a problems with YOUR hugs. Asking him not to do it just makes him do it more and I really have to fight the urge to kick him in the balls when he does it. I think that I should only have to ask or tell him once and he should respect that. Obviously it's not getting through. Ew. Oh, and when he lived here, he walked in on both me and my other sister in the bathroom without apologizing, even though he totally barged in without knocking. I would say when the door is shut, that means someone is in the bathroom!!
If you start telling a story or start talking about something, say flowers, he's been there, done that and knows it better than you. If you have a different opinion, then obviously you don't know that he's right and you aren't. He's the expert on everything.
I love getting into arguments about the Bible with him b/c he's so certain that he's right it makes him all red in the face when you confront him with a valid point or fact that is opposite to what he believes. The Bible says this, the Bible says that. Ok, Mr. Jesus. IF you follow YOUR belief system, then it's totally wrong to sleep with my sister and live with my sister when you aren't married. How do you justify that??? How do you justify being a bigot?
My sister is so swept up in him and his beliefs that she's become the same way. She tries all the time to get us to go to church with them, telling us that God is everything and God needs to be in our relationship. How does she know that God isn't in my life? Just b/c I don't go to church doesn't mean I don't have a relationship with God.
She got on to my mom for living with a guy after she divorced my dad, conveniently forgetting she did the same thing. She doesn't have the same sense of humor or even the same personality she once did. Everything is all about him and his family. They only come over once every few weeks to eat dinner and then he's bugging her to leave the second dinner is over.
He gave my sister HPV and when she was struggling to pay her doctor bills, he was working on and building up a monster truck type thing and buying car parts when his ass should have been helping his FIANCEE with her medical bills!
It just bugs me how swept away my sister is. It's great that she's found someone she loves and all that, but I really don't see this going down a good road. Both my other sister and I groan and whine when we learn they are coming over b/c we get the Bible lecture and the unwanted hugs from the loser. My sister knows we don't like him and I'm fairly certain he knows it too, but it's getting harder to keep my mouth shut.
My sister was raised Catholic, though we didn't practice it much. Since meeting him she has completely changed and has taken his religion and his beliefs as her own. She has completely lost the ability to think for herself and the rest of us are going to hell for not believing what they believe.
Not long after she met him, his family started having problems with their living situation and my mom offered to let him stay with us. He ended up staying for over a year, even though the living situation was resolved. He never offered to help buy groceries, help pay any rent or bills and stayed locked up in my sister's room with her. BUT, he is a big believer that sex before marriage is a big NO NO. This is where the hypocrisy comes in. He obviously had no problems shacking up with my sister b/c we all knew they were having sex, but yet his "conscience" would get the best of him and she'd tell us he was sleeping on the floor. A few days later they'd be in the same bed, NOT having sex. Hrmp. Whatever!
He preaches to the rest of us about what the Bible says and belives that any religion other than his own is wrong. He discriminates against people. He talks bad about African Americans, homosexuals, and anyone that is not Baptist, but yet he is so sure he's an upright Christian that does no wrong b/c he has God.
So, finally my parents tell my sister that he has to move out. He moves out and she goes with him. But he keeps having issues b/c of his belief that living together before marriage is also wrong. So once again when HIS conscience starts to bother him, he sends her back to our house only to have her come back when he can't keep his eye on her. He monitors her every move. One night she was working late and he was over at our house. He kept fussing about where she was and I told him that I knew she was working late b/c she needed the hours. He actually called the store she was working at to find out why she wasn't home!! He has to know where she is every second. If she is visiting us and he isn't there, he calls about 3 times and then calls within 10 seconds of her leaving to find out where she is!
He is also very adamant about pushing his beliefs onto the rest of us. He and I got into a huge argument b/c he said that he thought gay people were nasty and they should just keep their feelings to themselves and never have relationships. I asked him, "So these people that can't help how they feel should just have no human contact or no love in their life b/c you can't deal with it? How is that fair? Love is love, whether it's with a man or a woman." So, I guess I'm going to hell b/c I don't have any problems with homosexuality. Oh, and you shouldn't buy gas from those "rug heads" b/c that's just supporting Afghanistan and Iraq. WTF????? He's with the National Guard and hates it, but he acts like he's the big soldier b/c he was in Afghanistan for a few months. He never saw battle that I know of and he's trying to get out of being with the NG but had the audacity to tell my dad who's a retired Navy chief that his service of over 20 years really meant nothing b/c he never fired a gun. That went over really well.
He also has a problem when you tell him "no". He comes from a family where hugging and telling someone "I love you" all the time is a big deal. We were not raised that way and he's determined to push those habits on me and my other sister (who despises him). He makes me very uncomfortable when he forces the hugs on me and I have told him this several times. He tells me something is wrong with me b/c "human touch is a part of life and hugs are part of that." Ok, dude. I don't have problems with hugs. I have a problems with YOUR hugs. Asking him not to do it just makes him do it more and I really have to fight the urge to kick him in the balls when he does it. I think that I should only have to ask or tell him once and he should respect that. Obviously it's not getting through. Ew. Oh, and when he lived here, he walked in on both me and my other sister in the bathroom without apologizing, even though he totally barged in without knocking. I would say when the door is shut, that means someone is in the bathroom!!
If you start telling a story or start talking about something, say flowers, he's been there, done that and knows it better than you. If you have a different opinion, then obviously you don't know that he's right and you aren't. He's the expert on everything.
I love getting into arguments about the Bible with him b/c he's so certain that he's right it makes him all red in the face when you confront him with a valid point or fact that is opposite to what he believes. The Bible says this, the Bible says that. Ok, Mr. Jesus. IF you follow YOUR belief system, then it's totally wrong to sleep with my sister and live with my sister when you aren't married. How do you justify that??? How do you justify being a bigot?
My sister is so swept up in him and his beliefs that she's become the same way. She tries all the time to get us to go to church with them, telling us that God is everything and God needs to be in our relationship. How does she know that God isn't in my life? Just b/c I don't go to church doesn't mean I don't have a relationship with God.
She got on to my mom for living with a guy after she divorced my dad, conveniently forgetting she did the same thing. She doesn't have the same sense of humor or even the same personality she once did. Everything is all about him and his family. They only come over once every few weeks to eat dinner and then he's bugging her to leave the second dinner is over.
He gave my sister HPV and when she was struggling to pay her doctor bills, he was working on and building up a monster truck type thing and buying car parts when his ass should have been helping his FIANCEE with her medical bills!
It just bugs me how swept away my sister is. It's great that she's found someone she loves and all that, but I really don't see this going down a good road. Both my other sister and I groan and whine when we learn they are coming over b/c we get the Bible lecture and the unwanted hugs from the loser. My sister knows we don't like him and I'm fairly certain he knows it too, but it's getting harder to keep my mouth shut.
