Nagging Husband!

[lucki247]

Ok I am curious if anyone else shares this problem with their significant other.

My husband is always riding me whenever I buy makeup... yet he likes when I look my best. I'm puzzled by this, because he seems to be obssessed with the fact that love make-up.

I've always wore make-up before we got together and we've been together for 8years....well maybe not as much as I do now. That is because I am more knowledgeable, so of course my collection grows and grows along with my knowledge of makeup.

But why the hell is he bugging me whenever I purchase a new MAC product or I'm in the stores browsing. It's so annoying. I don't bother him he wakes up and immediately turns on ESPN (which is on day in and day out)...so what's the issue...lol

Does anyone else have this same issue... I just wanna know that I am not the only one.

sorry about the long rant.

 

[ImMACnificent]

Ya, I know how you feel a little. I mean, my boyfriend isn't as outspoken as others for sure, he can be pretty passive. But I know at times just by looking at his face he thinks "Oh lord, she's buying more". Sometimes a simple "...wow" out of shock when he sees how much I buy! Hehe. I've worn MAC for years, but it's just until about 2-3 months ago that I started REALLY expanding my collection. But, he will say at times "I really like that lipstick color" or "your eyes look really pretty like that". He really likes my falsies!

But I think most of our boyfriends or husbands will probably admit that SOMETIMES (at least) they think we 'waste' money. I just hope they are at least respectful enough to tell us how pretty we look.

I have said to my boyfriend, "you know how you are with your graphic design? This is how I am with make-up". My job does not allow me to collect clothes, make-up, whatever. I mean, I'm a counselor, so about the only thing I would need is books, etc to read up on mental health, etc. It's probably a good thing I don't work in a clothing or make up store... lord it might REALLY be a problem, then. Hehehe
I see it as something I value and means a lot to me, therefore he should support me, as my significant other.

I hope he becomes a little more supportive and at least doesn't give you a hard time!

 

[TISH1124]

Actually...knocking on wood...My husband doesn't mind...This is both our second marriages and he said women, shoes, clothes, handbags and makeup just go hand in hand. And I have over 150 e/s and over 100 lipsticks...But he doesn't say anything....
But he has a studio that he spends tons of cash and time on....so if he EVA brings up my makeup...we can add up his electronics and he knows I am getting the short end of the stick.

Weigh out hs expenses and tell him okay you give up _____ before you start talking to me about my makeup .

 

[CantAffordMAC]

Im not married, but my bf used to get on me for spending so much time and money on makeup. Now he loves it, he wants me to buy it, he is happy that Im into it.

I guess u could try talking to him? Try relating ur love for makeup to something that he has/does that he loves. Men piss me the hell off sometimes.

 

[Hilly]

Ugh....my husband wishes I wore drugstor makeup only lol

 

[kittykit]

My boyfriend doesn't really care how I spend my money. He has his expensive hobbies and I'm not saying a word. If he can spend more than 100EUR on a stupid headphone, I don't see why I can't spend the same amount of money to make myself look good

When we're out on a date and walk pass by MAC, he will ask me, 'Baby, do you want to check out what they have today?' I'll ask, 'You're paying?' *lol* No, I've never let him pay for my makeup before.

 

[florabundance]

That's just how it goes sometimes...I know that I get mad when sports are on 24/7. I know that it's the guy thing to like football and whatnot, but good god, there's a limit to which I can understand wanting to watch that stuff when it's not even your team playing. Or watching "sports news"?? Like..wtf.

So it's probably the same for your husband. He gets it, sure...but he doesn't get it..if you know what I mean lmao.

 

[Jinni]

I spend my own money, and he spend his. As long as we both have enough to contribute to our bills, we don't judge each other on what we buy. He'll sometimes tease me, but he respects that I have the right to spend my own money.

 

[sreyne]

My husband loves the fact that l am so into makeup. He enjoys that fact that l want to look my best when l go out. I mean what guy wouldnt want a beautiful woman that takes care of herself on his arm. You should try going a week dressing down and not wearing makeup and see what he says lol. I bet after that he will never complain again.

 

[joey444]

LOL...I guess it depends what mood my husband is in. I definitely hear it sometimes but most of the time he doesn't say anything because he understands that it's what I love. Also, he's funny because as much as he makes fun of me because of the ridiculous amount of makeup I have, he also always surprises me with little gifts from MAC that he hears me say I want so......

 

[makeba]

my makeup obcession has increased since me and hubby got married so its been annoying to him. i at first I would ignore his comments, "you have an addiction, you have a problem etc...." and then when i found specktra dear lord the comments increased until..... I verbally cut him up one side and down the other for his comments. so since then he doesnt bother me with it. I added that he has his Bud Light and i have a tube of fresh lipgloss sooo back it up!

 

[Lapis]

My hubby is the person who last year took me to the mac counter and told me to get whatever I wanted, what can he say?
There was a raised eyebrow when it moved from a small basket to a 3 drawer storage thingy and 2 weeks later I said that was too small but all in all he's very supportive.

 

[Dahlia_Rayn]

My husband always ALWAYS makes comments about my makeup collection, and I get a bit tired of it. When I made my "inventory" and added up all the money I spent on makeup over 7 years vs. the boat he just bought this summer, he made a lot of excuses how the fishing boat was for both of us...blah blah blah. However he has stopped dissing my makeup collection so much...though I only get compliments on my makeup looks when they are neutral and understated. That's okay though, that's what he likes, I like me some bright eyeshadow, and I'll wear it if I want. Hey, he's lucky, my vices are clothes and makeup, I'm not into shoes or handbags!

 

[Dr_Girlfriend]

He doesn't care about the makeup/clothes/shoes... but yeah he hounds me about money ALL the time! Hey, blah blah bill is due.. "did you pay it? and literally 5 minutes later "hey weren't you gonna pay that bill?" Yeah, I was gonna pay it but if you're gonna ask me every 2 minutes then no... I'll pay it later.

Something a little different about him is the fact that he seem to need my permission to spend like $10 out of our checking account. He would call me at work "umm.. Babe... do you mind if I go spend $10 and get ice cream?" Really you need my permission for that but you came home with a 52 inch plasma tv?

He's also a bit OCD about clutter. For me to function in life, my DVD collection doesn't need to be alphabetized...

I didn't mean for that to turn into a rant. I really do love the man and I'm sure I do things that nag him to death too!

 

[TISH1124]

^^^ I think everyone has a Love Hate relationship with their significant others...I always love him...but a lot of things he does I simply hate.

If I am mad at him...He always says...But do you still love me...I say..I will always love you, Howver, I don't like you very much right now.

 

[carandru]

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Originally Posted by Jinni I spend my own money, and he spend his. As long as we both have enough to contribute to our bills, we don't judge each other on what we buy. He'll sometimes tease me, but he respects that I have the right to spend my own money.

I agree. We both have seperate accounts w/ our "personal spending money" and a joint account for our bills. I don't get on him for what he buys and he doesn't get on me as long as it's out of our seperate accounts. Now, if either of us started shopping from the joint account, we would have a problem! I'm a shop-a-holic, and have to always have something new

. He knows this and doesn't say much about it. The only way he would say anything is if I started asking him for money to fed my addiction. The only thing he will say is "what did you get me?"

The one thing he did tell me is that I should focus on learning to use the products I do own first, and then see what I actually need and expand my collection that way. But what fun it that?

 

[abbey_08]

my bf doesnt moan but i know he doesnt like it when i buy more makeup because he thinks im wasting my money because i already have loads. on the other hand i know he likes it when i do make an effort with my makeup and clothes and i did manage to get him to buy me mac for xmas lol.

 

[*Stargazer*]

If my husband was being obnoxious like that, I'd pick something that he spends money on that isn't "necessary" and pester the crap out of him every time he bought it. That would shut him up quickly enough.

 

[User35]

My husband doesnt mind. He knows its my money, its not like Im going out and drinking and acting crazy. He has his hobbies and I have mine. Plus if he didnt like it o well. Im set in my ways hehe.

 

[purrtykitty]

Mine does it, too. He bitches and moans about the vast array of "makeup shit" I have, but he loves the end result just fine. I have a monthly budget I have to stick within, and I finally told him that he's no longer allow to complain when I buy what I want, as long as I'm sticking to my budget. If he wants to put limits on what I'm allowed to purchase, then so be it, otherwise, it's my money to spend on what I choose.