Never posted here before ... but I have an issue.

[SweetCheeks]

I am just going to blurt it out.

Have any of you had a crush, or maybe stronger feelings, for someone who may or may not be straight ?! I cannot for the life of me determine if a guy friend of mine is straight or gay, and believe me, I could care less either way, I don't judge people for their personal preferences and/or beliefs, but I would like him to be straight obviously for selfish reasons ! He is a friend of mine and I don't know him really well but getting to know him more and more. Anyway just wondered of any of you have been in a situation such as this ? How do I approach this ?

 

[chocolategoddes]

Obviously, it would take a lot of balls to just come out and ask if he was gay or not.
The way I see it is, just take your time and try to get to know him as a person. Once you guys become close enough friends, he should be able to reveal his sexuality one way or another. He might not just come out and say, " I like dudes", but the more you talk to him the more you'll find out about him and what he finds attractive.

For me personally, I'm usually able to pick up on certain vibes to tell whether or not someone is homosexual or heterosexual (can't tell with bisexuals). I wouldn't call it "gaydar" or even being prejudice like " Oh, that chick has short, spiky hair... she must be gay"... I just can tell. It's strange. (Hope I don't offend anyone)

Good luck!

 

[MACATTAK]

I had a question about one of my male friends before. I asked him one day what celebrities he thought were hot. Basically what his type was. That's not to say someone can't lie about it, but I got my answer

 

[SweetCheeks]

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Originally Posted by MACATTAK I had a question about one of my male friends before. I asked him one day what celebrities he thought were hot. Basically what his type was. That's not to say someone can't lie about it, but I got my answer

Did you have a gut feeling about it, and were you right ?

 

[SweetCheeks]

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Originally Posted by chocolategoddes Obviously, it would take a lot of balls to just come out and ask if he was gay or not. The way I see it is, just take your time and try to get to know him as a person. Once you guys become close enough friends, he should be able to reveal his sexuality one way or another. He might not just come out and say, " I like dudes", but the more you talk to him the more you'll find out about him and what he finds attractive. For me personally, I'm usually able to pick up on certain vibes to tell whether or not someone is homosexual or heterosexual (can't tell with bisexuals). I wouldn't call it "gaydar" or even being prejudice like " Oh, that chick has short, spiky hair... she must be gay"... I just can tell. It's strange. (Hope I don't offend anyone) Good luck!

Thanks girl, usually I can tell right away but this guy is so 'complex' for lack of a better word.

 

[OfficerJenny]

Uh, yes. XD
I'm a gay guy and considering I'm in highschool not a whole lot of people are comfortable with their sexuality and being open about it. I for one am. I've crushed on the people who no one knew whether they were gay or straight, I personally assumed they were gay but I could be biased. Needless to say, nothing happened cause I didn't say anything.

I would go with what Macattak said and make some subtle hints that would get him to show his orientation. or maybe you're friends with a good friend of his and could ask them?

 

[rbella]

^^^My hat is off to you Officer. That has to be a tough situation to deal with in high school. You are an inspiration to those who unfortunately aren't comfortable with their sexuality.

Back to topic-I would do the same as others have mentioned. Just drop a few hints here or there. Also, when you are out with him, have you noticed him "checking out" anyone?