Re: how to deal a passive aggressive person?
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Originally Posted by luvsic
do you think I should even tell her I am thinking of not living with her anymore, or just peace out and start looking for a place to live without her
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The bold part.
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Originally Posted by luvsic
Just me personally, I would feel like that's such a rude thing to do b/c I've had that done to me before and it feels SO crappy.
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Normally, yeah. In a situation where the other person isn't bugging the crap out of you and making you feel like you need a complex rule book to refer to for simple interactions --- this girl makes you jump through hoops constantly and turns everything into a production.
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Originally Posted by luvsic
Isn't part of being an adult being able to talk about this kinda stuff? Sometimes it's hard to be the one to get things out on the table but someone has to do it, the tension is so thick you can slice through it with a knife. So now I'm rethinking of even confronting her once and for all! Ugh...frustrating.
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Don't confront her. She is passive-aggressive and immature. Plus, she hasn't given you that courtesy before getting all reactionary about things you've "done."
I can almost promise you that a passive-aggressive person's first response to any sort of accusation of wrongdoing (even if it's in the name of trying to sort out the friendship) will be an indignant "I'm sorry, BUT" and a barrage of insults and justifications that make you the bad guy. Because, in her eyes, whatever it is, it's your fault. That's how the passive-aggressive operate. They have no sense of responsibility and always feel justified in their behavior --- as if they're vindicating themselves by childishly torturing others. They don't see their behavior as wrong, and don't feel that they should be punished, although their whole MO is punishment.