Problems at Work

[BEA2LS]

Hey, I guess i just need a place to vent. I have a steady, stable job which I am very grateful for. It doesn't make much but I never finished college so what can I expect, I guess? (the money isnt that bad, it's just that i live in NJ, which is very very expensive!). But I ended up with a government job. And I hate it. Like to the point where I cry on the way to work, on my breaks, etc. All day I worry about money and my job. It is effecting my work because it's hard to concentrate. I have been here for three years and have never gotten along with my supervisor. Others have notice how unfair she treats me. I cannot explain it but my office is pretty strict and my supervisor really gets into being a boss if you know what i mean. I feel like I am the only one who follows a stricter set of rules in my whole office. I have told higher ups about this and they sent me to work someone else but it was only temporary and i am back here. For awhile i thought i was up for a promotion but she keeps giving the new girl my old job duties and leaves me with filing, photo-copying, etc. all day long (basically, busy work.. i do that stuff for other sections because i never have anything to do anymore). it really is bringing me down, and i am crying when i write this. this is no time to look for a new job, i cannot even find a part-time job that i so badly need (i am currently spending my free time working on amazon turking to get money for food and rent).
I just feel so alone, like so isolated in my office.

 

[SuSana]

Are you represented by a union? I have a gov't job too and if that happened here the union reps would be here in a minute.

My first supervisor was like that, always on my back, she gave me anxiety about not working fast enough, but once someone told me I could file a grievance on her and she found out, she backed off.

Other than that I have no advice, I know it's hard though, sorry

 

[BEA2LS]

thanks

i guess i just wanted to vent. i do have a union, they do not do too much but i am considering a griveance, i just did not know if i had any grounds for it.
she constantly emails me all day long, telling me things i am doing wrong. but they are honest mistakes because i think they are rules she makes up as she goes along.

 

[leenybeeny]

I'm sorry you are having such a rough time at work.. I would definitely go through the channels again to see if there is anything that can be done. Have you ever talked to your boss directly to tell her how you feel about the situation?

 

[BEA2LS]

she knows, we kinda went through this and she has been getting better, but i think its just a case that she doesnt like me for whatever reason. i dont care if she likes me, as the feeling is pretty mutual, but i feel like i cannot do anything right!

 

[makeba]

i am sooo soorry that you are going thru this. one thing i ask you to do is to keep track of your work and monitor your performance into a log sheet for yourself that way if you have to file a grievance or complaint you have something to show. i am a chief steward at my job so hopefully this tid bit can help you. some supervisors can be a bit ridiculous with authority its insane. i remember an older lady telling me years ago that people who act this way have no say in their own homes!! and are control freaks. she should be tactful and professional in her communication with you. never let anybody speak unprofessional to you and talk to you like a child or like dirt. keep your head up and further your education if you can!!!

 

[ImMACnificent]

Reading your post made me think SO much about my previous job and my supervisor.

Honestly she was one of the most miserable human beings I have ever met. She takes her shitty life out on others. Like, I can't even begin to tell you the things she did to me. On my LAST day of employment, she YELLED at a client (im in the mental health industry) who bought me a cake and everyone had a piece. She went off on him telling him how 'unethical' it was for me to accept it and for him to give it. The cake was for EVERY ONE. I didnt take that cake home it was shared among coworkers and clients. I bawled my eyes out on my last day of work, and she was just unfair and cruel.

I had a panic attack at work one day because my boss would put so much pressure on me and (like yours) told me everything I did wrong and never praised me for how hard I worked or all the extra hours I put it (that I didnt get paid for because I was salaried). I spent 2 hours in the bathroom, crying, dry heaving and just freaking out because of how much stress I was under at that job. No matter what I did, it was never enough and it really took it's toll on me.

Getting out of that job was the best thing I could have done. Like EVER. I am among so many healthy people at work right now and no one I work with is anything close to the monsterous person my boss was.

I know job security is important right now, but so is your sanity. You need to find someone to talk to, her boss, the CEO, I mean anyone that will be willing to listen to how stressed out you are and how unfairly treated you feel. I would even pull her aside and just let her know how upset you are and how you feel. You never know, she MIGHT actually feel bad. (if she is anything like my ex boss, she won't though).

I can just empathize with you so much and I hope you find another job. Maybe there is even a way to get out of her area and into an area with another supervisor/boss? That was my thoughts for a while but I was just glad to get out of that place altogether.

Just keep looking, find something (even if it pays a LITTLE less) that is going to make you NOT cry every day because that is NOT good for you. I used to cry every Sunday night knowing I had to go work a full 40 hour work week with that hell hole. It sucks and you deserve better. It took me 4 months of looking to finally find another job. I had to take time off to go to interviews and it was worth it. Just don't give up. The economy sucks and you are right to be grateful for a job, but you should not be at a job that makes you feel like a huge piece of crap, because you definitely are not. No one deserves to feel that way.

Hang in there, just keep trying. <3

 

[Willa]

ImMACnificent said it all!
I am with you girl, I mean, I know how it's hard to come to work when you hate it. You know it, you read my thread

The fact is, you need money and you can't really change job right now
So, what I suggest you (that's what I do) is to keep your mind busy on something else. That's what I do, and it works. I started taking a makeup course on weekends and my goal is to live from it one day.

Maybe you could find an activity, anything that keeps your mind busy during working hours. When she's annoying, think about your dreams and goals. Don't let her ruin your hapiness, she has no power to do so.

If you need somebody to talk to when you need to vent just write me a private message here and we'll talk, don't hesitate, I totally know how you feel.

 

[BEA2LS]

aww thanks everyone! it felt better even just to vent. i did tell her she was pushing it lol. well i said it better, but you know.

she did apologize and has been nicer today but i know its not forever,

 

[ImMACnificent]

Better than nothing though, right?


I'm watching Devil Wears Prada right now. Miranda totally reminds me of my old boss....except sadly enough, I think my boss was even MEANER than her.