Rant of the day: Other people do not think your kids are nearly as cute as you do

[Hawkeye]

Hahahahaha

I heard this on neil boortz- here is the soundbite:
http://boortz.com/mp3/archive/030807_bratty_kids.mp3

Here is the text version:
Boortz to Parents: Control Your Kids!Caller: Well I'm just sayin' man, a little more hard hitting stuff here. I mean, I understand kids can be bratty. Hell I don't even like kids. I don't have any kids, no plan to have kids.

Boortz: Well you were a kid once. What do you mean you don't like kids?

Caller: Well, yeah.

Boortz: I'm not mad at the kids, I'm mad at their parents! I don't like parents who don't control their kids.

Caller: Well instead of whining about it, why don't ya go over there and slap the parents around a little bit until they get their kids in line?

Boortz: They're bigger, the guy was bigger than me and younger and tougher looking...

Caller: Aw, you can take 'em, come on...

Boortz: Naw, naw, naw...that's, no, that's...that's called an assault, you see.

Caller: Well...

Boortz: I'm an officer of the court, sir, I can't go around assaulting people. But you know, I did, I did have an idea.

Caller: Yeah? What's that?

Boortz: About printing up, and then even marketing for public consumption little cards that just say Your kids...uh...Other people do not think your kids are nearly as cute as you do. And then just, as you walk by their table when you leave the restaurant, just toss one of those cards on their table. As you walk by them in the airplane on the way to that impossibly small little bathroom, just toss one of those cards in their laps just simply saying, get a grip, other people don't think that your kid is as cute as you do.

and you know now its me again-
I totally agree with him. Nothing is worse than sitting down and watching the kids next to you sit there and scream and throw a fit and the parents going " aww isn't that cute? He's hungry!" or when the child starts crawling on the table or hitting a stranger and all the parents can say is " aww isn't that cute?"

I mean I dunno or when you get the parents who show you endless amounts of pictures of their kids ....YIKES

What are your thoughts on this?

 

[Beauty Mark]

Bad behavior is never cute. I can't stand parents like that. Worse are the ones who not only think that bad behavior is cute but also that it is a sign they're raising a genius.

Those kids grow up to be something else.

 

[Raerae]

Haha... Too funny...

Should make that into a bumper sticker, and slap it on the bumber of the mini-van the frosh-soph soccer mom drives.

 

[Ms. Z]

I don't know what all of you are talking about...my child is perfect!

He's so cute when he takes off running and knocks people over :goofy:, and when he calls a woman an ugly fat girl,

thats just too cute for words. Oh and when he reaches over and takes food off someone's plate w/his dirty hands, you just want to hug him and

him allover. how about when he throws himself on the floor and screams like he's being killed, oh I can't get enough of that. My favorite is when he announces on the bus that he has to fart......priceless.

Of course this isn't my child....mine is an adult.

 

[MxAxC-_ATTACK]

when I was little (3 years old) I called a lady "Fat" in the grocery store..my actual words were" MOM that lady is Fat!!"

I got in SOOOO Much trouble!!

I dont understand why parents cant control their kids! I got a huge lesson learned then.. kids these days though.. no bueno .

 

[iiifugaziii]

it's my biggest pet peeve at work when a lady brings in her (tired from shopping all day) child, and he/she is SCREAMING and crying their HEADS off! and the whole time I'm explaining or trying to help her i can't hear her...
and here's the best part...
after everything she asks... "do you have time to do my make-up right now?"
I'm like.. LADY. please go home and put your poor child to sleep and come back!!

it's just not very considerate of others :/

 

[Ms. Z]

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Originally Posted by MxAxC-_ATTACK when I was little (3 years old) I called a lady "Fat" in the grocery store..my actual words were" MOM that lady is Fat!!" I got in SOOOO Much trouble!! I dont understand why parents can't control their kids! I got a huge lesson learned then.. kids these days though.. no bueno .

You don't really think your parents could have prevented that? Children are honest, they say what they feel/see/smell. Adults do that too. Was she overweight? Well you probably/most likely learned that from someone else you spent time with. The ones that should watch what they say are the adults. If you gossip or criticize and a child overhears you there is a good chance they will repeat it. It won't be with malice, a child does not know any better, but obviously neither do you. *Disclaimer: this is a general statement and not meant as an attack on any one person

It’s unrealistic to think that parents can always control their children’s actions.

FYI: What I wrote on my other post, was supposed to be taken as a joke. I love children and I feel that all adults should protect them.

Oh, the part about mine being perfect is true.....almost

 

[MxAxC-_ATTACK]

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Originally Posted by ZLoves2Shop You don't really think your parents could have prevented that? Children are honest, they say what they feel/see/smell. Adults do that too. Was she overweight? Well you probably/most likely learned that from someone else you spent time with. The ones that should watch what they say are the adults. If you gossip or criticize and a child overhears you there is a good chance they will repeat it. It won't be with malice, a child does not know any better, but obviously neither do you. *Disclaimer: this is a general statement and not meant as an attack on any one person It’s unrealistic to think that parents can always control their children’s actions. FYI: What I wrote on my other post, was supposed to be taken as a joke. I love children and I feel that all adults should protect them. Oh, the part about mine being perfect is true.....almost

they did prevent it . .from happening AGAIN.
I never said anything like that again. because I knew the consequences. A lot of parents I see, don't do ANYTHING about their unruly children.
A good friend of mine lets her kid run around restaurants while others are eating because she doesn't want to deal with him. I cant stand it when she does this. She also (as mentioned above) lets him scream scream scream while she is talking to someone in a store.
I believe that parents CAN Prevent this type of behavior.but are lazy and chose not to.

 

[Beauty Mark]

You can't prevent everything, but how an adult handles it is very important. If you laugh it off instead of telling a child to behave him/herself, that's a problem.

 

[Deirdre]

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Originally Posted by iiifugaziii it's my biggest pet peeve at work when a lady brings in her (tired from shopping all day) child, and he/she is SCREAMING and crying their HEADS off! and the whole time I'm explaining or trying to help her i can't hear her... and here's the best part... after everything she asks... "do you have time to do my make-up right now?" I'm like.. LADY. please go home and put your poor child to sleep and come back!! it's just not very considerate of others :/

Not nice to the kid, either.

I think it's not so much they think their kids are so cute, but they're not willing to put in the effort. It might mean a power struggle, and they need their energy to serve themselves. I call it neglect, really.

Kids are not the problem, in 99% of cases, the parents are. People need to toughen up on themselves, and learn self-discipline, before they can hope to teach it to their offspring.

 

[jenii]

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Originally Posted by ZLoves2Shop It’s unrealistic to think that parents can always control their children’s actions.

THANK YOU. The childfree always seem to think kids are easy to control, but sometimes, it is just not possible. Granted, I hate permissive parents that let their kids run wild, but if they can't control it? I'm hardly going to grumble at them about how they should just not go out in public. Sometimes, the kids misbehave, and they can't be controlled. That's not ALWAYS the case, certainly, but sometimes it is.

Usually, there are things a parent can do to be sure the child behaves, but if the child is HELL-BENT on driving people crazy?

Trust me, guys. Nobody is more annoyed with that behavior than the parents themselves.

 

[MxAxC-_ATTACK]

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Originally Posted by Deirdre Kids are not the problem, in 99% of cases, the parents are. People need to toughen up on themselves, and learn self-discipline, before they can hope to teach it to their offspring.

agreed.

 

[macslut]

Kids typically learn these behaviors and then they test it to see what works and what doesn't. You teach a child that said behavior is going to get them what they want, whether it is a candy bar or attention, it will be almost impossible to extinguish (if I may sound a little like Skinner). This is the prime reason that if you don't want this sort of thing out of a kid, you have to remain consistent in discipline, don't display that sort of behavior yourself (if a 6 year old is calling someone fat, they have learned that, probably from a parent), and if at all possible don't even get it started which is called errorless learning. For example, you don't want your kid in your bed, don't even make it an option. Children are not allowed in the bedroom at all starting from infancy. No diaper changes on the bed or anything else for that manner.

My parenting professor talked about her and her husband agreeing that the children should not be allowed in their bed. Therefore, the children were never allowed even in the room. They weren't even brought in as babies. To this day, they ask permission before going into mom and dad's room. Her daughter has two children of her own and has done the same thing with them.

As much as some say that you can't control what your children do, you can seriously reduce the chances of bad behavior happening. Parents still have the most influence over kids. They will mimic your behavior before they will anyone else's. Don't do or say anything you don't want repeated.

 

[macslut]

Quote:

Originally Posted by iiifugaziii it's my biggest pet peeve at work when a lady brings in her (tired from shopping all day) child, and he/she is SCREAMING and crying their HEADS off! and the whole time I'm explaining or trying to help her i can't hear her... and here's the best part... after everything she asks... "do you have time to do my make-up right now?" I'm like.. LADY. please go home and put your poor child to sleep and come back!! it's just not very considerate of others :/

I see this as a real problem. Some parents don't seem to be in tune to the idea that their kids are extremely tired and/or overstimulated. Or they just don't care. I once saw a mother holding her screaming kid yelling at her to stop crying while smacking her on the leg.

I almost went over and punched her in the face screaming at her to stop crying.

Another pet peeve of mine is parents who overdramatize and scare the shit out of their kids. For example, this grandmother was in the section I was working in (clothing). The child took two steps away while the grandmother had her back turned. (kid was about 4 and I had my eye on her to make sure she didn't go under anything). Grandmother yells at her not to leave her because there are alot of strangers out there who steal little girls and do terrible things to them. Yes, grannie, there are strangers out there who do those things (and should be shot) but a child has more chance of being kidnapped and molested by someone they know like a neighbor, parent, grandmother. Let's not make our children so paranoid that they become psychotic about the world, shall we.

 

[medusalox]

Just the other day, I was waiting in a crowded lobby at Red Lobster. I'm tired, hungry, and I really don't like being packed into small areas with a large amount of people. And, of course, there are two little hellion children running around, weaving throughout the crowd at full speed, screaming and hollering. The parents? Sitting quietly on the only bench in the whole place, watching with disinterest. They didn't ONCE tell the little demons to stop the bad behavior. Finally, one of the kids makes a too-tight left turn and WHAM, collides with my legs, successfully spilling the drink that I had just gotten to help pass the time. The parents don't say anything, even thought they could see. On the next pass, I end up grabbing the kids arm and saying sternly "STOP RUNNING AROUND, it's not nice."

Well, of course, the mother saw THAT. She comes over, ranting and raving about me stepping out of my boundaries and blah blah blah, don't touch her kid or talk to him like that ever again. I let her rail away, and finally the manager came out and gave her a good talking to.

Jeez. There's a reason why I always quip that I don't like kids. I suppose what I really should be saying is that I don't like most parental units. I suppose you can't blame the kids for acting out if they haven't been taught how to properly behave in public.

Seriously, so irritating to me. Especially when I just want my freakin' lobster!

 

[sexypuma]

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Originally Posted by medusalox Jeez. There's a reason why I always quip that I don't like kids. I suppose what I really should be saying is that I don't like most parental units. I suppose you can't blame the kids for acting out if they haven't been taught how to properly behave in public.

Totally agree. How are they supposed to behave if they don't know any better? That said we, the childless people tend to blame the parents too often.Parents can't control everything.Some babies cry when they are tired, until they fall asleep. Even when they are comfortably lying. I feel sorry for the parents when the kid is crying and everybody looks at them like they are ready to smack them. Children do test their parents. They will do stupid things to see what they can get away with. The parent can only make sure that the kid doesn't do it again. It doesn't mean that the kid was not taught decent behaviour.

 

[Hawkeye]

LOL Medusalox- that happened once (or something similar) over at the Olive Garden with my best friend and I.

The best way to put it is:

Kid decides to run around knocking food all over the floor, it messes up my best friends very (like I think $500) expensive purse, best friend chews kid out, best friend chews mother out threatens to sue, manager throws out offending family (nicely of course).

LOL

 

[macslut]

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Originally Posted by Hawkeye LOL Medusalox- that happened once (or something similar) over at the Olive Garden with my best friend and I. The best way to put it is: Kid decides to run around knocking food all over the floor, it messes up my best friends very (like I think $500) expensive purse, best friend chews kid out, best friend chews mother out threatens to sue, manager throws out offending family (nicely of course). LOL

And who paid for the purse?????

 

[Shimmer]

Wow. Y'all would love my kids. Seriously.
The day I got my Barbie makeover? My four year old was WITH ME. The MA did the full face, talked with me, and I completed my transaction with him behaving VERY well the whole time. The MAs complimented me on how well behaved he is/was.
When my kids go anywhere with me, and I do mean anywhere, they have to walk around with their hands in their pockets, even my 10 year old daughter, but particularly the younger two boys. When I take the little girl I babysit and my four year old out, BOTH of them are required to walk around with hands in pockets and within arm's reach of myself. I've never had any problems with any of them misbehaving while in the MAC store, in the mall, or walking through Target.

Now, while they're with their dad? It's another story. He's more permissive than I am on things like that and allows them more..."freedom". I don't approve, and don't allow it when I'm around. Urgh.

 

[Beauty Mark]

Your kids sounds like they'll be great. Little things like that mean a lot. Crying babies don't thrill me, but my main problem is when parents have no regard for the child's schedule. Believe me, I've known parents who don't give a damn about that kind of thing.

Generally speaking, though, I have a larger problem with parents who refrain to discipline children who are able to know better. An example of this is in my apartment. There's a 2-3 year old here, and the parents let him run around in the halls, screaming at the top of his lungs. They're even out there, playing with him. I get that it sucks being cooped up inside, but sometimes this happens on nice days (and we're across the street from a nice park). Regardless, it's disrespectful.

I've asked them not to let him do that and had to eventually complain to the management for them to get it.

There are plenty of good parents in the world, like Shimmer and I'm sure some of you women. There are just plenty of parents who don't discipline their kids. Unfortunately, the misbehavior is easier to notice than good behavior sometimes.