It definetly sounds like its becoming a problem. Especially the fact that you have brand new clothes with the tags still on, and makeup you never use. The only thing I can really suggest is seeing a counselor or therapist. This can seriously spiral out of control..and it already seems like you can't control it. There are a lot of books and tips on saving money, but it kinda seems like you're beyond that.
You have to realize that having designer purses and expensive makeup is great, and theres nothing wrong with it....IF you can control yourself and if you can afford it all in the first place. I can speak on this first hand because my boyfriend is $10,000-$12,000 in debt, and he's almost 22 years old. We have so many issues on spending money and saving money, and him paying his debts off....its such a terrible way to live. He made some dumb mistakes when he was younger and he wasn't even a shopaholic. We, as a couple, have to take care of his debts and it is SO hard. I think that since we're so young we should be going out, having fun, shopping, and just being carefree (but still smart about our money, of course) But we can't do that. We usually have to stay at home because we don't have the money to go out. And nice things???? yeah right..my boyfriend has not been clothes shopping in at least a year, because of his debts. We can't even get our own apartment until he fixes his background
I always used to spend my moms money on a lip gloss, or skin care or whatever. She thought I would be horrible at saving money, because I didn't understand it. But once I got a job, when I was 16 I started saving. It wasn't much but I saved. And it just got better with each job. At my next job, I was getting paid weekly, and at certain times I would have 3-4 checks saved because I didn't have to get them cashed yet (didn't have a checking account). So I had 3 checks worth about 200-300 dollars, plus money that was still in my pocket from the check I got cashed 3 weeks ago. I just limit my spending. Every so often I'll treat myself to a body spray, or an eyeshadow, but it's not that important to me. I only spend money when I feel it is ABSOLUTELY necessary, or when I feel that I can spend the tiny bit of money for something I want.
From every check I have, I save at least $100 (I don't get paid alot guys, so thats about half of my check). Whatever goes into my savings account DOES NOT GET SPENT OR TAKEN OUT, no matter what. I also have a big plastic bucket that i'm putting loose change into and occasionally some dollar bills. Nobody is going to give me money, my family is broke and me and my boyfriend are broke. So I have to do the best with the money I do get. I'm trying to move out of my house, and I can already see how much thats going to cost. I don't have any bills since I'm still living at home so I guess people can say I have it easy, but I think I am on the right track to saving money. I don't even have a cell phone anymore because I don't need it.