CantAffordMAC
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I'm so tired of fighting over immature things. Almost a year ago, me and my boyfriend went into a restaurant. As soon as we step in there, theres a whole bunch of loud and ghetto girls working there. So already the whole atmosphere of the place kind of turns me off. So of course my boyfriend turns to me and says "I know most of the girls workin here so don't get mad"
Alright so basically I ended up just getting mad anyways. I'll admit, it was extremely immature and I acted like a child. I'll be the first to admit that. She didn't really do anything, I was just childish and I didn't like him knowing a lot of girls. Anyways there was no excuse for me being immature and leaving the restaurant...that was just a big dumb situation and it was my fault. Seriously. I regret acting so stupid.
Okay so he forgives me, life goes on. We don't go out to eat too much anyways but we never really considered going back there, til today. We did some shopping this morning, and we were getting along really good. So we decide to go eat, and we choose the same restaurant. Theres only like 2 in the area, and this ones closest, so it was already decided which one we were going to. Now, there has been countless times where we'll run into someone he knows from school (or wherever) and he says hi. I really could care less, because I do the same thing. However, 99% of the time when we run into one of these girls, they have an attitude towards me. I'm the nicest person you could meet, I'm polite, I smile a lot, I'm just friendly. And thats how I was with these girls, everytime. I'd give a smile and say "Hi, nice to meet you" and what did I get in return? "Oh, uhhhhh hi, so anyways..."
There was always attitude given towards me and I never understood it. I don't come off cold or bitchy, I'm a warm person. So whenever a situation like that happened, I'd ask my boyfriend if he noticed it, he never did (i can't see why) and he'd get mad at me for being a little upset. The way I see it, is if he knows someone and they disrespect me (especially for no reason at all, on their first time meeting me), he should either say Goodbye and keep it moving, or ask if theres a problem. Either of the two would be fine...because I've always given him the same respect. He doesn't even associate with these people nemore, he doesn't keep girls as friends, so whats the big problem with defending your girlfriend? If I'm telling you I'm upset, believe its for a good enough reason.
So anyways. We're on our way to the restaurant. I ask him nicely "please don't disrespect me or nething today lets just have a calm nice time" Which is basically me asking him to not to let some girl disrespect me, and it was also kind of implying that I was going to be on good behavior. So he listens and thats that. We get into the restaurant, same exact atmosphere and the same exact people working there. So he gives the person his name and asks how long the wait will be. Then the same girl from the "situation" before walks past and looks me up and down with a dumb ass look on her face. And I saw it, and kind of figured she was the same girl, but to be honest, I didn't even remember her face. I didn't roll my eyes, I didn't say anything, I was fine. So we walked to the sideto let people through and he's really quiet and won't talk to me. So I'm messing around with him trying to get him to smile, and he starts going off and telling me "Don't embarrass me you act like such a little girl and I'm not doing that again" I say "Okay, wel we already established this, that was like a year ago, I'm not like that anymore" So he says "yes you are you're still childish and I really don't even want to be here because I don't trust you to act right"
Sooooooo why the hell did we come here?? You knew it was probably going to be the same bitches here, and why didn't we have this conversation in the car before we came in? So he says "no, we're leaving" and walks out. And I'm trying to convince him to stay because it wasn't that serious. So we're inside the car and by this point I'm screaming at him like "why the hell would you leave, what do you mean you can't trust me then why are you with me" and then he says "yeah I saw that little look she gave you and I'm not going through all that today"
IF YOU SAW THE DAMN LOOK SHE GAVE ME,then don't you realize that I'm not freaking crazy when I say that every bitch you know gives me attitude??? And he continues on to say that if she would've spoke to him he was going to say something back and thats final. I'm like "why, after seeing her give your girlfriend a dirty look, would you continue to speak to her and act like thats okay? You don't have to ignore the bitch, but a simple "hey" would be more than enough. The fact that he saw her look at me like that and still acted like I was wrong for something just blew my mind. If a guy that I knew EVER did something like that to him, the conversation would be over. "see ya later" because I don't let anyone disrespect my boyfriend. I feel like its his job to take care of the situation or not speak and be all jolly and shit because thats someone that HE knows. does that make sense? And now I feel like, she saw us there and then we obviously left, he made it seem as though I was the problem and I wanted to leave. I don't want someone to make it seem as though I can't go to which restaurants I want to...I don't like feeling like that. And yes it was my fault that the whole incident even happened, but if he would've given me a chance to prove myself today, he would've seen that I'm not like that anymore. I just feel as though..I can't ever go back there now because he fucked it up this time. I was in such a good mood and I was so prepared to show him that I've grown a little bit in that area, and he squashed that.
I guess I'm just ranting. You can give advice, or suggestions, or if you have a similar situation...It was just so ridiculous. And I know I was wrong in the first place, I feel horrible about that. But seriously, I feel like this whole thing could've been avoided.
Alright so basically I ended up just getting mad anyways. I'll admit, it was extremely immature and I acted like a child. I'll be the first to admit that. She didn't really do anything, I was just childish and I didn't like him knowing a lot of girls. Anyways there was no excuse for me being immature and leaving the restaurant...that was just a big dumb situation and it was my fault. Seriously. I regret acting so stupid.
Okay so he forgives me, life goes on. We don't go out to eat too much anyways but we never really considered going back there, til today. We did some shopping this morning, and we were getting along really good. So we decide to go eat, and we choose the same restaurant. Theres only like 2 in the area, and this ones closest, so it was already decided which one we were going to. Now, there has been countless times where we'll run into someone he knows from school (or wherever) and he says hi. I really could care less, because I do the same thing. However, 99% of the time when we run into one of these girls, they have an attitude towards me. I'm the nicest person you could meet, I'm polite, I smile a lot, I'm just friendly. And thats how I was with these girls, everytime. I'd give a smile and say "Hi, nice to meet you" and what did I get in return? "Oh, uhhhhh hi, so anyways..."
There was always attitude given towards me and I never understood it. I don't come off cold or bitchy, I'm a warm person. So whenever a situation like that happened, I'd ask my boyfriend if he noticed it, he never did (i can't see why) and he'd get mad at me for being a little upset. The way I see it, is if he knows someone and they disrespect me (especially for no reason at all, on their first time meeting me), he should either say Goodbye and keep it moving, or ask if theres a problem. Either of the two would be fine...because I've always given him the same respect. He doesn't even associate with these people nemore, he doesn't keep girls as friends, so whats the big problem with defending your girlfriend? If I'm telling you I'm upset, believe its for a good enough reason.
So anyways. We're on our way to the restaurant. I ask him nicely "please don't disrespect me or nething today lets just have a calm nice time" Which is basically me asking him to not to let some girl disrespect me, and it was also kind of implying that I was going to be on good behavior. So he listens and thats that. We get into the restaurant, same exact atmosphere and the same exact people working there. So he gives the person his name and asks how long the wait will be. Then the same girl from the "situation" before walks past and looks me up and down with a dumb ass look on her face. And I saw it, and kind of figured she was the same girl, but to be honest, I didn't even remember her face. I didn't roll my eyes, I didn't say anything, I was fine. So we walked to the sideto let people through and he's really quiet and won't talk to me. So I'm messing around with him trying to get him to smile, and he starts going off and telling me "Don't embarrass me you act like such a little girl and I'm not doing that again" I say "Okay, wel we already established this, that was like a year ago, I'm not like that anymore" So he says "yes you are you're still childish and I really don't even want to be here because I don't trust you to act right"
Sooooooo why the hell did we come here?? You knew it was probably going to be the same bitches here, and why didn't we have this conversation in the car before we came in? So he says "no, we're leaving" and walks out. And I'm trying to convince him to stay because it wasn't that serious. So we're inside the car and by this point I'm screaming at him like "why the hell would you leave, what do you mean you can't trust me then why are you with me" and then he says "yeah I saw that little look she gave you and I'm not going through all that today"
IF YOU SAW THE DAMN LOOK SHE GAVE ME,then don't you realize that I'm not freaking crazy when I say that every bitch you know gives me attitude??? And he continues on to say that if she would've spoke to him he was going to say something back and thats final. I'm like "why, after seeing her give your girlfriend a dirty look, would you continue to speak to her and act like thats okay? You don't have to ignore the bitch, but a simple "hey" would be more than enough. The fact that he saw her look at me like that and still acted like I was wrong for something just blew my mind. If a guy that I knew EVER did something like that to him, the conversation would be over. "see ya later" because I don't let anyone disrespect my boyfriend. I feel like its his job to take care of the situation or not speak and be all jolly and shit because thats someone that HE knows. does that make sense? And now I feel like, she saw us there and then we obviously left, he made it seem as though I was the problem and I wanted to leave. I don't want someone to make it seem as though I can't go to which restaurants I want to...I don't like feeling like that. And yes it was my fault that the whole incident even happened, but if he would've given me a chance to prove myself today, he would've seen that I'm not like that anymore. I just feel as though..I can't ever go back there now because he fucked it up this time. I was in such a good mood and I was so prepared to show him that I've grown a little bit in that area, and he squashed that.
I guess I'm just ranting. You can give advice, or suggestions, or if you have a similar situation...It was just so ridiculous. And I know I was wrong in the first place, I feel horrible about that. But seriously, I feel like this whole thing could've been avoided.
